Miscarriage support

tinkwings

MV - I think I feel just the same way.

DH has said that he doesn't want to use anything when we try again just to be more relexed (if that is at all posible)

I too like you think now that even if i do get PG that it won't work anyway.

The joys of being 39!!!!

amus

Metranil_Vavin wrote: »

Morning guys.

Thankfully (never thought I'd say that) I began to bleed this morning, so hopefully I will just have another heavy period and things will be back to normal soon.

Thanks for the advice Teamlowe. I was hoping I didn't have to have anything kind of proceedure and thankfully it looks like that will be the case.

I am slightly concerned that I have had 2 chemical pregnancies one after the other though. We don't appear to have trouble actually conceiving, and I think OH's sperm is top notch, but something is occurring to halt things in the early stages.

I doubt my GP will be interested, but am going to try and get an appointment for monday evening, but am also considering a private fertility clinic to see if they may be able to help me at all.

I just don't think I can bear to keep going through this, as I am at the stage now of even when I get a BFP, I don't believe things are going to work out (which I was right about this time).

Has anybody here been through a few CP's and had a happy tale at the end?

I woke up very down and upset this morning but my method of coping today is by throwing myself 100% into my DS. We are taking him for his first haircut later and then out to lunch and a local playground.

I feel at the moment that we will never get another child, and that DS was a very lucky fluke It's a horrible feeling.

I am sorry for rambling..I just need to get my thoughts down, and this thread has always been amazing for support.

MV i posted an article on the multiple miscarriages thread from the bbc , it basically suggests some women have multiple mc because they are too fertile. Apparently if an embryo is not viable most women's uterus' will reject it but some women have 'super fertile' wombs which will accept any fertilized egg good or bad.

I've had one mc at 9 weeks and AFAIK 2 chemicals, but always seem to conceive quickly so always wonder if that's the problem with me

Metranil_Vavin

Thanks amus, I will have a read of the article.

I just keep asking myself how I managed to have my son who is (in my eyes) the most perfect child. I had a really straightforward pregnancy, no complications other than an assisted delivery.

But now I seem to be coming up against a brick wall every time we conceive.

Maybe what you say above is what is happening to me too. Like you I've had one mc at 9 weeks and now 2 Chemicals in a row.

TeamLowe

MV I'm sure I read somewhere that actually chemical pregnancies are like, more than 50% of pregnancies but because most of the time you aren't trying for a baby you don't realise and just notice that you have a late or heavy period
It's something like a 50:50 chance that a fertilised egg would implant so maybe unfortunately you've had a run of bad luck as I think you're right, that's all this seems to come down to, the luck of the draw.
I always think I'm unlucky cos I used all my luck up in finding DH

Hope Ds and DH are helping today x x

Metranil_Vavin

I have been reading up on CP's today TeamLowe, and I think you are right.

My mother has also said several times that before the age of home pregnancy tests, women never had a clue they were pregnant until their periods were about 2 weeks late. I guess HPT's are a bit of a curse in that sense, we'd probably never know we'd had these early losses if it wasn't for them.

Maybe I've been thinking too much that actually catching the egg was 'conception' and not thinking that actually that's just part of it, and actually it's going to take longer than I hoped for.

I hope we all on this thread get our forever babies soon, god knows we deserve them.

DS and DH have been amazing today. I've crumpled several times into tears and DH has just come and hugged me. I think it just takes time to come to terms with doesn't it. And we have to keep picking ourselves up, and moving on again, because we all want the prize at the end more than anything x

Metranil_Vavin

amus - do you still have that article you mentioned above?

I can't find it

Metranil_Vavin

Delain - I can see you are lurking

How are you and how are your beautiful girls doing? x

SusanC_2

Metranil_Vavin wrote: »

I am slightly concerned that I have had 2 chemical pregnancies one after the other though. We don't appear to have trouble actually conceiving, and I think OH's sperm is top notch, but something is occurring to halt things in the early stages.

I doubt my GP will be interested, but am going to try and get an appointment for monday evening, but am also considering a private fertility clinic to see if they may be able to help me at all.

I just don't think I can bear to keep going through this, as I am at the stage now of even when I get a BFP, I don't believe things are going to work out (which I was right about this time).

Has anybody here been through a few CP's and had a happy tale at the end?

I woke up very down and upset this morning but my method of coping today is by throwing myself 100% into my DS. We are taking him for his first haircut later and then out to lunch and a local playground.

I feel at the moment that we will never get another child, and that DS was a very lucky fluke It's a horrible feeling.

I suppose technically I've had one CP as arguably my second miscarriage was a chemical pregnancy (they were all at very different stages) but I tend to just call them all miscarriages. What you say about feeling like your son was a fluke is exactly how I felt until I managed to have another live child. If it helps, this is my tale:
Pregnancy one - conceived first month and no problems aside from hyperemesis gravidarum.
Pregnancy two - conceived first month, miscarried at ~7-8 weeks.
Pregnancy three - conceived straight after miscarriage, miscarried at ~4-5 weeks.
Pregnancy four - conceived second month, was reassured of viability by presence of hyperemesis gravidarum but baby died at ~21 weeks and was born two weeks later.
Pregnancy five - took four months to conceive and I was convinced that there must be something gone wrong since the last loss and that my daughter was going to be an only child forever. It was a bit of a rollercoaster pregnancy and I spent most of eight months in bed but just under three months ago I finally gave birth to a health baby girl. I didn't let myself believe it possible for it to work out until I had a scan at 18 weeks showing everything to be fine (I didn't have any scans sooner as I couldn't face the idea of being so ill with hyperemesis gravidarum and knowing for sure it wouldn't work out) and even after that I didn't really fully believe it would be okay until she was born. (And even now I still can't quite believe it's really true.)

time2deal

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-19361432

This is it mv

Metranil_Vavin

susan - I am so sorry for all your losses, but glad you had your 2nd child eventually. I think if I could just know that I would be able to have another child before my time runs out, I would be able to cope better with the disappointments along the way.

Thank you for the link T2D x