Miscarriage support

Metranil_Vavin

I should add, part of my neurosis over the digi tests are that with my first pregnancy and subsequent mc at 9 weeks, I managed to get to 3+ on the digi, only for it to then fall to 2-3 a week later.

I googled loads and read they aren't that accurate/shouldn't put too much emphasis on them etc, and then went on to mc

mrsj28

Metranil_Vavin wrote: »

I should add, part of my neurosis over the digi tests are that with my first pregnancy and subsequent mc at 9 weeks, I managed to get to 3+ on the digi, only for it to then fall to 2-3 a week later.

I googled loads and read they aren't that accurate/shouldn't put too much emphasis on them etc, and then went on to mc

(Hugs) MV - the same happened to me last time - the numbers didn't go up, I googled, thought it might be ok and then it wasn't. This time round I'm terrified of doing a digi.

But I have heard from a number of peole that the digi conception indicator is unreliable so (easier said than done) try not to read too much from it.

I can't say 'don't worry' as I know it's impossible. It helps me to just think one day at a time.

Big hugs, really hope this is a sticky one xx

Metranil_Vavin

Thank you mrsj.

I honestly can't let myself get excited or even think about the final outcome being an actual live baby..it's so sad isn't it?

Bad experiences taint our happiness at what really should be an amazing time in our lives.

Like I have said before, unless you have been through a loss, you have absolutely no idea how difficult it all is.

Nephthys

anyname - I'm so sorry you're having to go through this. Thinking of you.

MV - I'm thinking of you too. I know nothing I say will make things any better but I'm keeping everything crossed for you and I hope you're ok. I know a lot of people who didn't really set any store by the digi indicators either. I can only go on my experiences though. It was fairly accurate with DS and my first loss. However, with this one I did use one again and the indicator didn't change for me this time. I got upset and Dh banned me from getting another one. He was right.

You're right - until you've been there and gone though the experience then you have no concept of how someone else feels. That was what I found so comforting about this thread - there were finally other people i could talk to who could understand. I knew no one in RL who had been through it when I had my first. Unfortunately by the time of my second I did know a couple of others.

Don't give up on hope!

TeamLowe

but on the flip side MV, i took another digi, the numbers went up and i still had a mmc so rising numbers don't necessarily mean everything is ok. tbh i think the conception indicator is just a gimmick to set them apart from all the home brand digis that are around now, if you look at the span of 'normal' for HcG levels early in a pregnancy it's really really wide

i think one day at a time is best and is there a chance you could ask your doctor to do a blood HcG? maybe find a female one and have a good cry at them

Big hugs to any name, i think this is a strain on any relationship and it's hard for anyone to get outside their own head enough to consider the other person x x

Metranil_Vavin

Thanks for the wise words ladies. I think those conception indicator tests are a bit of a swizz too, I'm sure CB make a ton of money out of neurotic women frantically retesting to see their estimated conception time increase.

TeamLowe I haven't made an appointment to see my GP yet as I thought I'd give this a week first to see if it was another chemical. I made an appointment last month as soon as I got my BFP and then had to cancel it.

I was planning on trying to get in to see my Dr next Thursday, but as I live in a busy London borough I have to phone up on the actual day and try and book something.

Metranil_Vavin

TeamLowe wrote: »

but on the flip side MV, i took another digi, the numbers went up and i still had a mmc so rising numbers don't necessarily mean everything is ok. tbh i think the conception indicator is just a gimmick to set them apart from all the home brand digis that are around now, if you look at the span of 'normal' for HcG levels early in a pregnancy it's really really wide

i think one day at a time is best and is there a chance you could ask your doctor to do a blood HcG? maybe find a female one and have a good cry at them

Big hugs to any name, i think this is a strain on any relationship and it's hard for anyone to get outside their own head enough to consider the other person x x

You are so right.

I get very insular over everything to do with ttc/mc/early pregnancy. It must be very difficult for the man in the r'ship to know what to do/say sometimes, and of course as I realised last night when my OH came home, he is worrying himself constantly that this is going to go wrong too, but not only for himself, but for what it will do to me too

Nephthys

I would agree MV - DH didn't know what to say or do expect to hold me when i cried (and when he cried too). Men seem to think they aren't supposed to get upset over things like that and that they ahve to bottle things up and be "man of the house" when all you want is to know that they are hurting too. That sounds weird but I mean it in an "I'm not alone in this gut-wrenching feeling" kind of way. Plus they are also dealing with the worry of the physical effects on our bodies as there is nothing they can do to ease that for us. They simply have to stand on the sidelines and watch.

I bottled everything up the first time. Only cried when i was on my own as I hated seeing that look on his face when he didn't know what to do or say to comfort me. It put a big strain on us but ultimately i broke down quite badly one day and ended up screaming at him and saying some things that I am not very proud of. Bizarely it helped as he finally got to see what I was thinking. We made sure we talked together the second time it happened and I felt like he understood that time what I needed from him.

I think what happened was my body needed to do it's physical recovery first - to get over the changes I had gone through and then the return to it's normal state before my brain would let me focus on the emotional impact it was having.

This is just my experience. Everyone has their own way to react and adjust to their own circumstances. Wehave all been through this experiences at different stages and at different times in our lives/relationships. How we react to a given situation is a product of who we are and it doesn't make it wrong or bad. It's just us. However, outside of DH, I've never had the wonderful support in RL that I've had on this thread even if most days i just lurked!

Sorry if that sounded a bit much for first thing in the morning! I've never really posted much on the thread before in case I put my foot in it. All too easy to do when you are physically talking to someone! I think i just needed to write all that down!

clearing_out_my_pockets

Nephthys wrote: »

I would agree MV - DH didn't know what to say or do expect to hold me when i cried (and when he cried too). Men seem to think they aren't supposed to get upset over things like that and that they ahve to bottle things up and be "man of the house" when all you want is to know that they are hurting too. That sounds weird but I mean it in an "I'm not alone in this gut-wrenching feeling" kind of way. Plus they are also dealing with the worry of the physical effects on our bodies as there is nothing they can do to ease that for us. They simply have to stand on the sidelines and watch.

My DH admitted to me the other day that he often cries when I'm not around (I had a chemical in August) and worries that we won't get another chance. I haven't really posted in this thread before because I'm not sure whether to call it a miscarriage or not but to me my feelings of loss are still huge. I should have been 12 weeks by now so I'd have had all the excitement of the first scan :A

tinkwings

Metranil_Vavin wrote: »

Sorry for your loss any name.

This thread is a great reserve of support from ladies who all know what you are going through.

I hope no one minds me asking, but has anyone had any experience with BD Digi pregnancy tests and how reliable their conception indicators are?

I am absolutely convinced this pregnancy is going to go the way of my last. I did have symptoms up until a day or so ago but now my appetite is back, I have no nausea etc. I stupidly took another CB digi test earlier and it hasn't moved up, I was hoping it would have so I could get some kind of reassurance that my hormone levels were increasing.

I am so not expecting this pregnancy to go much further, and it is making me really anxious and miserable. Poor OH too..I really want to be blase about it and just take it a day at a time, but I'm struggling

I really hope no one minds me asking here. I don't really know where else I can post

Ask away I had this with this last PG It took me to be 7 weeks to get a 3+ weeks pg.
I do agree that they are a total swizz . WHEN we next get pg I just want one to say PG or NOT PG & that is it no indication etc etc.
Hugs to you MV keeping you in my prayers & thoughts :A