Miscarriage support

MERFE

quaver it makes me cry everytime I read it but it is so very true, as far as I'm concerned I am a mum of 5 not 2.

Metranil_Vavin

ladies - can anyone please just confirm if they have had this before:

So MC'd over a period of a week and a half with lots of continuous bleeding, finishing with a largish clot that plopped out which we took to the hospital. I'm hoping we may get some clarification from them tomorrow as to what that contained.

When I was last at EPU (12 days ago) she said that it looked like most of it had expelled itself, although there was still some stuff left over but she thought that would sort itself as I was still bleeding at that point. I bled quite a bit through that scan and directly afterwards, but in the day or so following it stopped.

So no bleeding now for over a week, except had pains in my stomach yesterday but these felt like bad trapped wind, went to loo in middle of night and a bit of browny stuff appeared on tissue. Woke up still feeling like had trapped wind, went to loo and a plop of browny discharge came out into loo. No smell, but it's something I havent had before.

Does that sound like I may not be over it yet? I'm so scared of the thought of having to have a medical proceedure

Sorry for TMI here, but just wondered if anyone else who has been through this has had simillar?

galvanizersbaby

Metranil_Vavin wrote: »

ladies - can anyone please just confirm if they have had this before:

So MC'd over a period of a week and a half with lots of continuous bleeding, finishing with a largish clot that plopped out which we took to the hospital. I'm hoping we may get some clarification from them tomorrow as to what that contained.

When I was last at EPU (12 days ago) she said that it looked like most of it had expelled itself, although there was still some stuff left over but she thought that would sort itself as I was still bleeding at that point. I bled quite a bit through that scan and directly afterwards, but in the day or so following it stopped.

So no bleeding now for over a week, except had pains in my stomach yesterday but these felt like bad trapped wind, went to loo in middle of night and a bit of browny stuff appeared on tissue. Woke up still feeling like had trapped wind, went to loo and a plop of browny discharge came out into loo. No smell, but it's something I havent had before.

Does that sound like I may not be over it yet? I'm so scared of the thought of having to have a medical proceedure

Sorry for TMI here, but just wondered if anyone else who has been through this has had simillar?

Hi MV

I have had 2 missed miscarriages in the past but following both had an ERPC to remove what remained of pregnancy.
Following the last miscarriage I had to wait for a week before they would undertake surgery (they wanted to scan me again in case I had my dates wrong and was earlier along than I thought - although I knew this wasn't the case)
In the week I was waiting I had stop/start bleeding and some brown as you describe (old blood)
I was told at the EPAC that if I wanted to miscarry naturally it could take a while so opted again for the ERPC.

It does sound as though perhaps you should make an appointment to put your mind at rest with the bleeding - I'm not sure that there is any set amount of time to expect if you let it happen naturally.

I know with an ERPC I had approx 5 days of fresh bleeding then back to normal (physically of course)

I am sorry for your loss and not sure why you are scared of having a medical procedure but can reassure you that there is nothing to be scared of x

Take care

tinkwings

So here we are again back to TTC i guess ,second time lucky me hopes.

Not having such a good day today but I am taking one day at a time. Managed to box up the things for bean that sadly didn't make it and they have been stored away for the next BFP fingers crossed.:o

Just makes it seem more real that that bean has gone and we are back to the world of TTC with all the highs & lows that it brings with it.

I wish I had a magic wand and could make each of you have a BFP and a safe & happy proceeding 8 months. If I could I hope you know that I would in a heartbeat. xoxo :A

tinkwings

MV - I agree the ERPC was fine. I had a friend who rang me who had 2 MC's she had one natural & one ERPC she phoned to say she would have the ERPC again as it was a less traumatic experience for her to have gone through. I know for me the ERPC was my only option as however harsh it sounds I was fully aware that our bean had sadly passed & i just wanted it out & at peace.
Sending you hugs & hope you get answers when you see the doc's tomorrow xoxo

Metranil_Vavin

Thanks G...I'm scared of general anesthetics..in fact I'm petrified of them and you have to have one with a D&C don't you??

I just want it over so I can move on, and I thought that as I hadn't bled for over a week it was over.

galvanizersbaby

Metranil_Vavin wrote: »

Thanks G...I'm scared of general anesthetics..in fact I'm petrified of them and you have to have one with a D&C don't you??

I just want it over so I can move on, and I thought that as I hadn't bled for over a week it was over.

I'm not sure whether you have to have a general or not but would imagine it would be pretty scary/uncomfortable without one

What scares you so much about having a general? - have you had a bad experience in the past?

Your second statement was the exact reason why I opted for an ERPC - I wanted it over with so I could move on (after my first miscarriage I was pg 5 week's later with my DS)

I guess we all have different ways of coping - I hope you are on the mend soon x

portsmouthali

Hey everyone,

MV- I would give your EPU a ring if I were you, they may well scan you again just to make sure. My bleeding & pains have been a bit stop/start this time, bleeding had stopped but had crampy pains yesterday and have a bit of pinky brown discharge today :mad: last time after I'd passed the sac I bled quite lightly for about 5 days, this time I bled very heavily for 8 days. Sending (((hugs))) and hope this is over for you soon xx

Our EPU only offer ERPC if you have mmc, if you've already started bleeding they prefer things to happen naturally. I think I would choose ERPC if I could (hoping I never have to choose of course!) , the passing of the sac is the most upsetting thing I've ever experienced. Of course I knew what to expect this time so it wasn't as shocking, but still very sad.

Well I went back to work today, wasn't too bad really. All my colleagues were very kind and all the customers I spoke to were nice thankfully

Metranil_Vavin

Ali - glad your first day back was ok. I'm sick to death of my job after only 2 days back!

I am going to EPU tomorrow morning so hopefully they'll be able to let me know what is going on.

Hoping that after tomorrow I'll never need to set foot in there ever again!

Metranil_Vavin

So I went to EPU again this morning, had another scan (my 4th), and thankfully everything appears to have naturally gone and I am all clear again. The MC is complete.

He said I appear to have what looks like a cyst on one of my ovaries, but apparently this is normal and not to worry about it. The nurse then said it could even be a new egg developing.

The analysis on the stuff we brought in last time came back as being normal. 'products of conception', notyhing strange or unusual there.

I was advised to wait for my first period to come and go and then we can start again.

So positive news really. No surgical proceedure required (thank god), but still very sad and I had a good cry the minute we left the hospital.

So onwards and upwards from here