Miscarriage support

Metranil_Vavin

Oh Ali I am so sorry

Life is so bloody unfair sometimes.

x

Evansangel

Ali, massive hugs. I am soo sorry for your loss. xx

Lauralou

Ali i know we have already spoken but please take care off yourself.

Amara

I'm so sorry for you Portsmouthali. Big hugs

lisawood78

Ali, so sorry you are here yet again.

I hope you get some answers and that you will get that sticky bean one day very soon with no more heartache!!

Darkshines

Hello,

I had my first miscarriage 4 years and then a second one on January this year. Me and my partner decided to not tell family or friends because his sister was pregnant with her first baby at them time I lost mine. She eventually lost her baby too two weeks after I lost mine. Anyway my boyfriends sister is pregnant again and I am really happy for her and her partner but I feel like I am struggling to cope with the idea of a baby in the family. Does that sound selfish because I feel bad for feeling sad at the moment when everyone else is happy?

If anyone has any advice on how to deal with this it would be much appreciated.

Darkshines.

pigpen

Oh Ali..life is being a total $h!t and it simply isnt fair. I really truly wanted things to go well for you next time.. hopefully.. they will.. Huge hugs coming your way xx

Darkshines.. it is so much harder when it seems they have what you want.. there is no guarantee they will get there this time either. You also shouldnt try to disguise your loss, it is just as valid as their happiness and they will then understand why you may be a little out of sorts or appear to not be pleased for them when everyone else is.. if they dont know they may just think you are being mean, when in fact you are just greiving and hurting.. dont hide your feelings.

DS1s gf lost their baby too.. she is going to sort an appointment for an ERPC tomorrow..

Darkshines

Pigpen your post has really moved me I know I shouldn't bottle it all up and I think I am going to let my partner know that I am struggling some days. His family and my family don't know about any of the miscarriages and I know I should tell them but I don't think I could face it and I don't want to cause them hurt. I know it is early days (8 weeks) for my partner's sister and her baby but I am going to try my best and be there for them all I can be.

Darkshines

msb5262

This thread is brilliant but it makes my heart sink whenever it's on the front page.

Just to say to Ali -

so sorry. What a complete nightmare. I'll be thinking of you.

- and to Darkshines

hang in there. You will feel better and it's totally normal to feel how you do.

Best wishes and hugs to all

MsB

pigpen

Darkshines wrote: »

Pigpen your post has really moved me I know I shouldn't bottle it all up and I think I am going to let my partner know that I am struggling some days. His family and my family don't know about any of the miscarriages and I know I should tell them but I don't think I could face it and I don't want to cause them hurt. I know it is early days (8 weeks) for my partner's sister and her baby but I am going to try my best and be there for them all I can be.

Darkshines

They might want to be there for you too.. and could be hurt to know you have been this sad and not shared with them.. I know it is hard to see it from anyones perspective but your own and I dont mean to upset or offend you just to show you that you could be missing out on their support and love.

Could your partner tell them so you dont have to?

It must be very hard for you both only having each other to rely on and share this with, possibly sharing with close family will give you both somewhere else to turn if you need to.