Sick of my local supermarket! Grrrr!

tandraig

while I agree with most of Jojos post (sorry jojo - agreeing with you again!), I think that the way you dress has no bearing on the shoplifter profile! having worked in retail on and off for over forty years - I can tell you that shoplifters come in all shapes sizes and class! dont want to go into too much detail, but one of the worst shoplifters i remember wore a fur coat and dripped with gold jewellery! I was very young then and was totally shocked to be told by the manager to take note of what this woman was pinching - she did it regularly apparently and would be happy to be stopped by manager and would then pay for the items - otherwise the manager explained - he would be in court every week and he couldnt be bothered, besides which he valued his job too much! before you all jump on me and say she should have been banned - the lady was the area managers wife! oh happy days - lmao. she wouldnt get away with that now!
roxie - you are a frequent customer and should be treated with respect. shop there if you must - but you mention you do your main shop online - couldnt you increase your order and store some items so you dont need to use this shop?
As for your GP - I was pointing out your rights - not making a judgement on whether you NEED to take antidepressants. dont forget - your gp doesnt live with you 24/7 and makes her judgements on what she sees and hears during appointments. think about that hun and do you present yourself as someone who is coping or someone who seems depressed? ie - goes to surgery scruffy, hair not done, no make up, etc?
depression is awful - my OH suffered with it for years before he was forced by me and the kids to see doctor - she was great with him and yes he did have serotonin based antidepressants, and nine months later was so much better he was weaned off them. but, his gp kept a careful eye on him, and I was always welcome at his appointments. so I am not against antidepressants per se. but, am well aware that some gps will prescribe them just to get you out of the surgery and not have to deal with any real issues (as my gp would).

RoxieW

lol I'd say i present myself better than about 80% of the mums I see at the school But thats not saying much. I know I am depressed - the GP is right - I just didnt was to be reliant on a drug yet again. Too late though now as I am taking them - I spose deep down I know she is right - I need help and is that is the only help available then...:(

I feel the issue must be that I am a young mum as I dont present myself badly (apart from the mum ponytail lol) and actually alot of my clothes are very expensive - especially my handbags - I have a collection of mulberrys My pram is also an expensive one. I really dont know but I'm going to try not to shop in there in future - not that they will care mind.

Up and down mood wise - today is the first day I've felt ok.

Thank you all for your help and support - I hope you know that you are my lifeline on this forum

CAFCGirl

roxie i was put on anti d's following a depressive episode, i took them for one week and i found i couldnt cope with the side effects. they were worse than being depressed!

Instead I took st johns wort, a multi vit and had a bottle of water with me with some bachs rescue remedy in it....
And then I made myself go out for a 15 minute walk every day, gave me a reason to get dressed, even if it was for half an hour, some fresh air, and movement in the body......

Dont be forced to take them, for some gp's its an easy way of "dealing" with the problem, and its not the case for a lot of people..... see if you can get into some talking groups, join a society where you can meet others and make some new friends.....

RoxieW

Thank you. I would rather do this type of self treatment and have been using exercise to control my depression since I had my baby - to some effect (have also lost all my baby weight ) But she really wouldnt take no for an answer. i told her my concerns about anti's and said I hadnt found them very helpful in the past and she just said well we'll try a different one and all I want you to commit to taking is 10mg just for now which is a very very low dose. It seemed like she just wanted to get me onto them - even at a dose that is unlikely to have an effect. I suspect my next app she will say up the dose. Unfortunately I was not in the right frame of mind to assert myself - although I honestly did try and we were arguing for a good while but I gave in in the end - just wanted to get out of there.
Sounds weak but now I darent not take them as at my next app she would have something to say about it and another arguement. I'm also worried that she may refer me to something like social services if I dont comply as I have 3 children.

tandraig

roxie? why do you say 'if thats the only help'? havent you had counselling - or at least some practical help offered?

RoxieW

Yes I have had counseling in the past but my past 2 tries have been bad experiences. The first try I got 'grilled' on the first session for a straight hour about my past - going into very personal and upsetting things. i left shaking and suicidal and never went back. My second attempt was one of these 'silent' counselors where the lady just stared at me and said nothing and I felt extremely uncomfortable and didnt know what to say. Honestly we would sit in silence for 10 min periods with her not saying a word!
I do feel I would benefit from trying counselling again though as now I have more awareness of the actual issues that I need to address - however, it is just not practical at the moment with the baby.
I think I know that she was right to give me the antidepressants but I just didnt want them. I feel an absolute failure.

tandraig

roxie - you are NOT a failure!!! you are a young mum struggling to cope who hasnt been given the right help.
can you take a friend to the next appointment? one who is not afraid to speak up for you?
even if you cant - it disturbs me that this gp is so insistent on antidepressants.
you sound very self-aware - you say you know you are depressed and have tried counselling with bad results.
wish i could go with you to gp hun - really do!
at the next appointment - lie through your teeth - swear you are feeling much better but think you could now benefit from counselling. ask for this to be arranged. but dont accept an increase in dosage if you feel that its wrong. say you want the dosage to be maintained or you wont take them. roxie - you are stronger than you think - you have been a year with postnatal depression, you had this shittttty week and you are holding it together!!!! well done you!!!

SingleSue

A short while ago when buying a DVD, I was asked to prove I was old enough to purchase it.

I just stared agog at the man at the till and said "Do you seriously, honestly and truthfully believe I am under 12!" and then burst out laughing.

I know I can sometimes (with the right lighting, make up etc) knock a few years off my age but nearly 28 of them? Errr don't think so. The boobs, grey hairs and worry lines tell the story that I can no way be under 12 :rotfl: oh, plus the 3 children in tow, the eldest being 16!

He didn't push it as we were just standing there in absolute hysterics of laughing....his face did go rather red though.

Gave me a good story to tell and had me laughing for hours afterwards.

rainbow81

Hi Roxie

I hope you get along with the anti-ds. Have you looked at the pni.org.uk site? I remember back in the days of my worst PND that it was helpful. It's all a bit vague now but I could really say anything there. I've had bad experiences of counselling face to face too but I had an online counsellor which was great, it was through a charity and I've been trying to find it again but so far not been able to.

Sounds like the staff in your co-op have just had some training and are enforcing it strongly! I'm sure it will wear off. It's not easy responding in your normal way when you're feeling carpy though, I know.

Big hugs.

x

Edited to say I found the counselling support people: http://apni.org/

paulwf

RoxieW wrote: »

The rules just seem petty and dont factor in common sense - what underage drinkers buy single bottles of red wine anyway?

A supermarket doesn't get in any trouble at all for serving alcohol to minors. Sure it is breaking the law but they won't get in any trouble unless someone reports them which isn't likely to happen.

However a supermarket will instantly get in all sorts of trouble if they fail a test purchase. This is where trading standards send in someone underage (perhaps a police cadet) to buy an item...perhaps a single bottle of wine Test purchases are conducted at least once a year, perhaps more if they have suspicions of serving minors.