MSE Parents Club Part 10

Sami_Bee

Glamazon wrote: »

Eggs are from 6 months and have to be well cooked.

Jack has just been having cereal but I will be starting him on toast later on this week. He had some of my bread roll yeasterday but just chomped it to death, I might have given him a chip to play with as well

Be interesting to see what people say!

He handled that chip like a pro! I was very impressed with his chewing skills, certainly did better than Ed

XL - the only things 'banned' at 6mths+ are honey and nuts IIRC

those with older LOs When did you/do you plan to give them 'under cooked' eggs/meat and unpasteurised cheese?

Squishy - BB send stuff like that often, I usually check the newsletter to see if the thing I've been sent is mentioned if I'm not sure and then email to say I've got it.

BeenieCat

xmas i've been hoping i'd feel like that.

Basically i think he only wants me back because while he's down there he's got easy access to drugs and he doesn't want to be known as a pathetic junkie (which he is). And obviously him living alone would mean paying his own bills and fending for himself. I want him to start from scratch and see that i did all that when i was 17 and pregnant, i didn't have anything at all and acquired fridges, sofa, bed etc second hand and from the tip.

But he's had everything handed on a plate, his parents paid towards the house he bought with wife, their wedding, their kids, everything. I've never had that and it riles me that he's not paid anything towards Amber's stuff.

Oh - and when we got together he used to make me feel like a failure and say how bad i was that i'd got into debt, which was 3k. Since Summer 08 he's had £10k from the house, £14k wages, and has still managed to get himself in £13k worth of debt!!!!! And whatever benefits he was on when on JSA.
My debt was from when i bought my washing machine, tumble drier, baby's pram, clothes, cooker, etc etc basically setting up home. He's got nothing to show for all hat money, and for most of that time i was on £3.60 per hour!!

xmaslolly76

Thanks Sami :-)

Beenie what an A**sehole. Have you got yourself a little mantra to say when your feeling low. Something like I'm a wonderful person, I'm a wonderfull mom, I'm Happy without you and i don't need you!!

harley1

Oh Beenie, you really do deserve so much better than to be treated like that.

I agree that you should print it out and stick it to your fridge. Read it everytime he gets in touch to strengthen your resolve.

And if you do bother to speak to him on wednesday, although I agree that you should go out for the whole day or he will continue to believe you should be at his beck and call, tell him that I think he got off lightly and to be damn grateful he is not my ex. Or his life would be an awful lot harder than just being grassed up as a skiver.

(((Hugs))) xxx

pigpen

Sami_Bee wrote: »

those with older LOs When did you/do you plan to give them 'under cooked' eggs/meat and unpasteurised cheese?

Mine had 'dippy eggs' from about 2.. they couldn't really handle them well enough before that and slopped it everywhere and knocked them over etc..

I don't buy unpasteurised cheese.. but if I did they'd have it from about the time they could pick it up and ram it in their mouths so for mine.. probably about 10-11 months

I wouldn't knowingly or willingly feed ANYONE undercooked meat..

Sami_Bee

Beenie - did you see the link DKAM posted awhile ago about how controlling/abusive relationships affect kids? She said it was reading that that made her realise she had to keep ex out of their lives

Glamazon

Yeah he is getting good with the chewing, think some toast tomorrow might help even more. OH had an apple on Sunday and gave Jack the core (with quite abit of apple left) and he gummed it dry and even managed to get bits of the apple off but he spat them all out.

Right hair dye on, I hate waiting. I have the lappy within an inch of my face because I can't wear my glasses cos I'll get dye on them! I am so blind!

Beenie - my turn to possible offend. He sounds quite manipulative - OK what you did was maybe a bit mean in telling his work because he could have lost his job BUT that is nothing and I mean NOTHING compared to what he has done to you. He left you at 5months pg, on your own, with bills to pay, Cam to bring up (I know you were doing that anyway) and now you have another child which he hasn't offered to buy anything for or provide for. It's not your fault that he has easy access to drugs were he is - that's tough. You're not a rehab centre. Keep your chin up and definitely go out tomorrow.

BeenieCat

Yeah i can't remember the site name but i remembered clicking on it and it was on my mind for a few days after.

I feel sh!tty for moaning so much when DKAM and her boys are going through hell atm.

I didn't ever have a father figure in my life, and now i'm scared that my DS won't learn how to be a proper man because who's gonna show him?? I am trying hard enough not be like my mother let alone know how a well rounded man is. I've never had any form of decent man in my life so how can i expect DS to turn into one??

xmaslolly76

Once everything as settled down for you beenie why dont you look into adopting a grandad for him there are lots of older people out there who would love the chance to pass on their life experiences and be a good male role model to him. As i say thats something for the future you need to get yourself sorted properly first.

elastigirl

DS1 couldn't be weened or have gluten until 9 mths as hubby is a coeliac, and it was a mistake but you do everything your told with your first. Now i take everything they say with a pinich of salt. Hv would have a fit if she knew ds2 doesn't have his milk warm. But i make it up like they showed me on the neonatal ward. I will ween ds2 at 6 mths and he will have gluten. I know the signs and will stop it if i think there is a problem.