MSE Parents Club Part 10

SugarSpun

Oh oh oh!! We're staying right by the Hundred Acre Wood!!!

BeenieCat

Where's csh and Fitz today?

My ex is emailing me... Argh :(

I've gone off on a tangent with some replies containing more swearwords than normal words. lmao.

He's saying i'm just being "hard-faced" and "putting a wall up" and i should let him in. And that he's coming here on Weds. Amongst other stuff...

I don't think i've ever felt more confused and crappy than i do atm. I'm so angry that he's going to get the lovely cuddles off Amber and smiles when all he's done is make this unbearably hard for me since i was 5 months pregnant. Angry isn't a strong enough word.

If he does come it could go 2 ways and both are as bad. I'm scared that i'm gonna lose it and kill him, i feel like i hate him *that* much. But then he could always talk me round and i'll end up falling for it again and then hurting more than i was before (if that's even possible??).

Honestly, when he sent me the email saying he wanted to kill himself, it really did cross my mind that it might be easier if he did because then i could forgive him!! I'll stop now before i look even more psychotic.

cazscoob

SugarSpun wrote: »

Morning all ........ can I tell you a secret?
(if you're my stalking husband stop reading cause it's a secret)
I just booked his anniversary/our birthday present! He's getting sphereing

:eek::eek::eek:dont do it!!!!!

i done this 5 years ago and had a nightmare my harness snapped halfway down and left me hanging! i was thrown about by my neck and couldnt get out, poor dad had to watch as he was also inside and couldnt do anything to help me! i was put in traction and wasnt allowed to move, i had similar damage to my neck that a hanging victim would have. i had to give up my job at the time and it took me around 2 years to recover!!(i would like to add i was a size 10 at the time so it was nothing to do with weight!) We had a lot of people with us that day inc Megan and Lewis and the look of terror on their faces was the worst thing!

harley1

Beenie, don't beat yourself up about this. Hormones are almost certainly playing a huge part in how you feel.

The bloke is a complete idiot and you deserve far far better. Next time he threatens to top himself tell him you are not bothered either way but before he does to make sure that he has made provision for Amber. That will thoroughly get your point across that he is not going to walk all over you again. Believe me, I have said far worse (and similar) to certain people and they have got over themselves pretty quickly after that. A bit harsh perhaps, but deservedly so imho.

You are doing a great job, amber and Cameron are fabulous and look brilliantly happy and healthy. You do not need him and neither do your children. They would get totally the wrong idea about how relationships work if his was the example they had to learn from.

And remember, you're not alone. And we are both coping brilliantly.

xxxxxx

elastigirl

tiamai_d wrote: »

Amber was 6lb15oz at birth and 8lb1oz (clothed) at 8 weeks, she wasn't doing well BF I know that now, she was lucky if her nappy needed changed twice a day and she was very sleepy, so big difference there.

How often is he being weighed, sometimes they keep too close an eye on it, so long as he in happy and eating well and alert and peeing fine then don't let them bully you into doing something you don't want to do.

Is he seeing a paediatrician, they usually have different charts to HV which take into account weight loss and other problems and they look a bit better.


My husband was lovely, said I looked tired so got us a chippy dinner Still got the dishes to do though. :rotfl:

He was being weighed every 2-3 weeks but as he hasn't put any on at all the last few times he is now being weighed every week at home. This week she can't make it so i have to go to clinic tmorrow. I acept that he wasn't putting weight on much while BF but now he is on formula they are still not happy.
He is under the paediatrician and ENT. There is no way i am putting him through more hospital tests when he doesn't need them. I will update you with what she says tomorrow.


I am an east midlander but i would be scared stiff to drive to merry hill or bham lol i am not very confident at driving really. Although i missed it after my section but i only go where i know and stay quite local.

SugarSpun

Go out, Beenie. He can't sit outside your house forever.

Did you change the locks? Don't let him get under your skin - think of him as someone who used to be part of your life.


:eek: caz - he really wanted to do it, so I will give him your warning as well as the voucher and he can make up his own mind.

I've just been collecting pictures to print out and make a little collage to give to OH - there's a plane, a hotel, a sphere, Winnie the Pooh, a formal dinner setting.... :rotfl:

aless02

Beenie - LOCK THE DOOR IN HIS FACE. Why should he get to visit Amber when he had nothing to do with her other than being a sperm donor? If he wants to visit her, then he can work out OFFICIAL visitation rights supported by his worthy contribution in financial benefits. He can't just drop by when he pleases and only get the "good" with none of the "bad". Either he helps out properly (even time-wise if he can't afford money) or doesn't see her at all. Stay strong. Just think of our angry faces next time you talk to him.

Glamazon

beenie - stay strong,. If he comes over and you feel like he's talking you round then nip to the loo with your phone and post on here - we'll set you straight. You have done amazingly throughout the end of your pregnancy and since you've had Amber, if you don't want him and dson't want the potential heartbreak then you must stay strong.

Please don't set him on fire or try to wear him as a shoe

My oven is officially minging

Mazcabs

Sarah_Joanne wrote: »

My little [STRIKE]monster[/STRIKE] treasure has been awake since 6.20 so I am knackered now. I thought newborns were supposed to sleep all the time? He is awake quite a lot more than I expected!

Dont worry mine was like that too!

Sarah_Joanne

Beenie don't have anything different to add from what others have said but do stay strong- you are so much better off without him! And if you can let him see you are stonger now than you were before he will know he no longer has that hold over you.