MSE Parents Club Part 10

Fitzio

Sorry, just skimmed over stuff as on way out. Will catch up later.

Trying not to offend today but........Beenie - you don't need us to tell you what a loser he is. You are forever telling us that! It's better for Cam and Amber to have no man in their life than a junkie scumbag. You will meet someone one day who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated, but you won't meet them if you are with him. You will have no self worth if you take him back and no confidence to make new friends and meet someone new. Don't let him into your life. If he says he is coming, just tell him NO. You don't have to say yes to his requests. He has no rights. And he probably won't turn up anyway and you will be upset all over again. Keep moving forward and don't look back. Change your number and cut him out of your life completely. Your kids are the most important people to you. He means nothing, and it's his own doing.
I am not anti-drugs by the way, but there is no way I would want a heroin addict to have any involvement with my kids. If he gets clean and builds a new life for himself and proves to you that he has changed, then that's different, but he has proven nothing and is trying to lay a guilt trip on you. Please end it forever!!! I wish you stayed nearer me. x

On a brighter note, Squishy - I just got a Taggie Doll through the post too. I actually ordered a Taggie blanket the other day from Jojo Maman Bebe, and thought they had sent the wrong thing for a minute! Holly is chewing it to death already. x

I'm away now. There is steam coming from my keyboard due to my superspeedy rant.....!

feelinggood_2

I think perhaps I think a bit different to the majority, but I'd allow supervised access, if he is clean and sober at the time. I think it is also worth remembering that addicts can and do recover, and can be fantastic parents when they are clean.

Fitzio

feelinggood wrote: »

I think perhaps I think a bit different to the majority, but I'd allow supervised access, if he is clean and sober at the time. I think it is also worth remembering that addicts can and do recover, and can be fantastic parents when they are clean.

I agree that if he cleans up he could prove everyone wrong, but I don't agree about access until he is clean. And also committed. He has said time and again that he is coming and hasn't turned up. That's messing the kids around and I don't agree with that. The kids come first.

Glamazon

AGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

My hair looks sh1te!!!!

It's far too dark and only looks purple in certian lights. I HATE IT I HATE IT I HATE IT!!!!!!!!

WHY OH WHY Did I do it?????????????????????????????

3onitsway

Fitzio wrote: »

I agree that if he cleans up he could prove everyone wrong, but I don't agree about access until he is clean. And also committed. He has said time and again that he is coming and hasn't turned up. That's messing the kids around and I don't agree with that. The kids come first.

Agreed. Him arranging access and letting them down is far worse than him cutting all contact.


Glam I'm sure its not that bad.

Glamazon

it does

I'm too pale & eyebrows too light - might see if I can get them tinted

Sami_Bee

oh Glam tinting eybrows sounds scary :undecided why not try using an eyebrow pencil thats a bit darker

3onitsway

Glamazon wrote: »

it does

I'm too pale & eyebrows too light - might see if I can get them tinted

Mine always looks too dark to start with, but it either fades or I get used to it.

I want a spray tan - i'm bored with the pale and interesting look. Has anyone had one? A place up the road has a special offer on St Tropez but i'm scared of turning orange.

BeenieCat

Thanks Fitz, i don't know why i'm struggling with the idea of cutting him out completely, but i will get there. I also don't want my kids exposed to drugs and would have always said i'd never even go near one myself because they are compulsive liars!

He says he's clean already because he's on a methadone programme and they drugs test him apparently before they give him his prescription to prove he's playing ball and not just picking up the methadone to sell on (i imagine??).

Realistically i don't know how access would work as he's 120 miles away and has no car, and there's no way i'd drive her down there for him, like his ex wife does!! And to see her regular he'd have to live here. That's why i suggested applying for a cheap council flat up here, although IMO he could just get one private rented and get another job, he's qualified to do different things so it's not like he's restricted! (fitness instructor, hotel manager and some metal testing inspector? lol) But in his eyes that's all too much hassle and he wants me to just have him move back in here. The fact i ached so much after decoraitng on my own when heavily preg is enough to make sure i won't let that happen.

elle_gee

SugarSpun wrote: »

.. Elle, I'm sorry yours is being such a willy head - is there any chance he'll figure it out?

I'll bloody well spell it out to him if I have to, though I'm not sure it'll sink in. It's £35 to cancel the hotel opposed to the £87 it'll cost to go or cancel after 5pm tonight. Have txt him to tell him that and his reply just now was "go anyway, might give me a chance to make it up to you and finish what I planned". Not sure I actually care any more.

(yes I'm being pigheaded and stubborn and stupid and selfish, but it was my birthday and I damn well deserved more effort than he put in *stomps foot*)