MSE Parents Club Part 10

harley1

Beenie, don't beat yourself up about this. Hormones are almost certainly playing a huge part in how you feel.

The bloke is a complete idiot and you deserve far far better. Next time he threatens to top himself tell him you are not bothered either way but before he does to make sure that he has made provision for Amber. That will thoroughly get your point across that he is not going to walk all over you again. Believe me, I have said far worse (and similar) to certain people and they have got over themselves pretty quickly after that. A bit harsh perhaps, but deservedly so imho.

You are doing a great job, amber and Cameron are fabulous and look brilliantly happy and healthy. You do not need him and neither do your children. They would get totally the wrong idea about how relationships work if his was the example they had to learn from.

And remember, you're not alone. And we are both coping brilliantly.

xxxxxx

elastigirl

tiamai_d wrote: »

Amber was 6lb15oz at birth and 8lb1oz (clothed) at 8 weeks, she wasn't doing well BF I know that now, she was lucky if her nappy needed changed twice a day and she was very sleepy, so big difference there.

How often is he being weighed, sometimes they keep too close an eye on it, so long as he in happy and eating well and alert and peeing fine then don't let them bully you into doing something you don't want to do.

Is he seeing a paediatrician, they usually have different charts to HV which take into account weight loss and other problems and they look a bit better.


My husband was lovely, said I looked tired so got us a chippy dinner Still got the dishes to do though. :rotfl:

He was being weighed every 2-3 weeks but as he hasn't put any on at all the last few times he is now being weighed every week at home. This week she can't make it so i have to go to clinic tmorrow. I acept that he wasn't putting weight on much while BF but now he is on formula they are still not happy.
He is under the paediatrician and ENT. There is no way i am putting him through more hospital tests when he doesn't need them. I will update you with what she says tomorrow.


I am an east midlander but i would be scared stiff to drive to merry hill or bham lol i am not very confident at driving really. Although i missed it after my section but i only go where i know and stay quite local.

SugarSpun

Go out, Beenie. He can't sit outside your house forever.

Did you change the locks? Don't let him get under your skin - think of him as someone who used to be part of your life.


:eek: caz - he really wanted to do it, so I will give him your warning as well as the voucher and he can make up his own mind.

I've just been collecting pictures to print out and make a little collage to give to OH - there's a plane, a hotel, a sphere, Winnie the Pooh, a formal dinner setting.... :rotfl:

aless02

Beenie - LOCK THE DOOR IN HIS FACE. Why should he get to visit Amber when he had nothing to do with her other than being a sperm donor? If he wants to visit her, then he can work out OFFICIAL visitation rights supported by his worthy contribution in financial benefits. He can't just drop by when he pleases and only get the "good" with none of the "bad". Either he helps out properly (even time-wise if he can't afford money) or doesn't see her at all. Stay strong. Just think of our angry faces next time you talk to him.

Glamazon

beenie - stay strong,. If he comes over and you feel like he's talking you round then nip to the loo with your phone and post on here - we'll set you straight. You have done amazingly throughout the end of your pregnancy and since you've had Amber, if you don't want him and dson't want the potential heartbreak then you must stay strong.

Please don't set him on fire or try to wear him as a shoe

My oven is officially minging

Mazcabs

Sarah_Joanne wrote: »

My little [STRIKE]monster[/STRIKE] treasure has been awake since 6.20 so I am knackered now. I thought newborns were supposed to sleep all the time? He is awake quite a lot more than I expected!

Dont worry mine was like that too!

Sarah_Joanne

Beenie don't have anything different to add from what others have said but do stay strong- you are so much better off without him! And if you can let him see you are stonger now than you were before he will know he no longer has that hold over you.

Squishy

Beenie - lots of *hugs* You're a strong person, and a great mum: sorry the ex is making you angry/sad.

Just emailed bizziebaby - the doll is from them It's this one: http://retailstore.haptic.co.uk/detail/63 and is really cute We have a taggie ball and personalised blanket which were both presents and she loves them, so think this will be great for her.

Glamazon

Aw Squishy that is cute!

3onitsway

Glamazon wrote: »

Please don't set him on fire or try to wear him as a shoe

Why ever not?

Beenie Can you arrange a nice day out on Wednesday, for you and Amber? Leaving nice and early and coming home nice and late. Let the sorry excuse sit outside all day in the cold.