MSE Parents Club Part 10

SusanC_2

tiamai_d wrote: »

Susan, yes I love him to bits, I just worry that I'm doing it all wrong and he will hate me in 10 years.

I don't hate my mum. I don't understand her but I don't hate her. I also don't think she doesn't love me just because she didn't tell me and didn't give me hugs - it's part of a bigger picture over a long period of time. An example would be
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I'm sure that even if you do get little things wrong (and everyone does) that when he looks at the overall picture your son will be able to see that you love him.

searching_me

susan i understand sounds very close to my mother (although i do hate her for what shes done) .. im not sure some people should be parents but if that was the case i wouldnt be here now x

tiamai_d

pinkpig08 wrote: »

tia if it's any consolation, I'm the same with Josh. I feel so bad for it. Like yours he can be annoying and silly, but he's also very cheeky to the point of rude. I seem to spend so much time telling him off or shouting at him that it seems to have rendered me a bit emotionless with him which I feel incredibly guilty about. Especially when I hug and kiss Caitlyn. I did the same when he was a baby, I was always hugging, kissing him, calling him sweetheart etc just like I do with Caitlyn. But now he has such an attitude it's changed it all. I read to him at bedtime and give him a kiss, but it only seems to be a peck. How do I get back what we used to have?

Maybe it is just an age thing then? *wonders if those with older children can add anything?*

That is exactly it, spend all day telling them off, trying to calm them down etc, then I think I feel a bit resentful when he gives it big hugs and kisses and I love yoos.

Maybe I just have to remember that he is a child and I can't hold a grudge because he has been a little pain in the !!!! all day.

Good to talk to others who are the same though, that alone is like a huge weight off my shoulders!

Thanks Susan! Your post makes sence, my own parents screwed up in far bigger ways that (I hope) I ever have or ever will and I still love them.

3, I love it, it's toasty warm a little cheap feeling but hey, it was £21) and looks cool on the black twister. Cut the label off though, it kept getting stuck in the zip.

angelfairy

got-it-spend-it wrote: »

It's medinol. I just happened to have the magazine on my table!

Hi GISI,

thanks for that. i must have another look through the mag, although i only find things to buy that i dont really need.

i am not sure whether to get it, might try the neurofen tonight.

i just really can't say i find anything works. i do think rather favourably about a product i bought back home, only have a bit left so will ask mum to bring some with her

see you all tonight xxx

SusanC_2

angelfairy wrote: »

i just really can't say i find anything works. i do think rather favourably about a product i bought back home, only have a bit left so will ask mum to bring some with her

If you google the active ingredients, you should be able to find out what they are called here and then if you ask the pharmacist they might be able to tell you if there is anything like it available here.

elastigirl

I haven't been on for so long a new thread was started and your into the 400's :eek:
Life is so hetic here i don't know if i am coming or going sometimes, and i swear my car can make it's own way to the hospital. I wish i could get a season ticket for the car park. I dread to think the money we have spent on parking. Harry is 10 weeks old today and i feel i just haven't had time to enjoy him. I am always doing something.

The HV is very concerned with his weight he is 8lbs 8oz and didn't put any thing on last week at all. He is seen every week at home still.
Fingers crossed he has put some on on wednesday as there was talk off him going back to hospital for a stay to monitor his milk intake and maybe put a feeding tube back in even though he is currently still under the consultant.
Hopefully he will have put on a bit of weight as he has had a chest infection for the last 2 weeks so that has affected him. He was breast fed with the odd top up's as HV big on breast feeding and didn't want him on formula at all and i was told to ween him off the top up's but then he didn't put on weight so a different HV saw him and told me to offer him a breast feed but then also give him as much formula as he will take. So he is having 4oz at every feed. This has made him not really interested in breast feeding and in less than a week of having more formula i can tell i am not producing as much milk and my periods have now returned.
I was quite sad about them coming back. It's was like the end of something does that make sense?
I Know it isn't good him not putting on weight but he is and everyone says it. A really happy, content little boy. Everyone in my family are around 5 ft. me and my dad are only 4ft 10 and my other son is also very small but the HV doesn't seem to take family history into acount. Mum says i was forever being checked as i was so thin and small. Sorry waffle over just had to get it out.

got-it-spend-it

Hello :hello:

Sorry to hear that some of us are struggling at the moment- all I can really add is that it is just a phase, whatever it is, it will pass.

MFD- big hugs to you and your poorly back. I know how miserable it is, and I am sure that a holiday will do you the world of good. Have you been away with Benjamin before? How exciting!

Tia- I don't really have anything to add but I'm sure your DS knows you love him very much. My family aren't particularly lovey-dovey, although my Mum and I say I love you. What counts is I know they are there when I need them, even my emotionally crippled dad. My in-laws are very touchy-feely, but I'm not sure my OH feels his family are there for him in the same way I do with mine, so it's not all about shows of emotion.

On the subject of favourites, my Mum always used to call her dog her best girl :rotfl:. I know she didn't mean it, but OH used to find it hilarious.

Emotional dominoes- another fabulous analogy from the lovely Weezl :T. I think it is so true, and I think everyone feels it a bit. My glue is my marriage- my Mum is on her third marriage, Dad on his second and I know a lot of friends didn't ever expect me to get married. But OH and I have been together for 10 years, married two and we are still deliriously happy.

I BOUGHT A JUMPEROO :j. We took H to Toys R Us and tried him in one. He seemed to love it, so I bought one for a bargainous £70 on eBay, brand new. Now just need to sell some bits on eBay to pay for it.

elastigirl

http://www.boots.com/en/Ashton-Parsons-Infant-Teething-Powders-20-pack_1674/ We found these worked for our DS1 when he was teething. He was quite early he had 4 teeth at 4 months.

Buttonmoons

ARGGGGHHHH.

Some other oil company just bought over OH's company (which just got bought by someone else last year) and they already have NWD (or whatever it is called) department, so what that means for OH's job, who knows.

Can't see why they would keep his department on when they have a more advanced one themselves.

Just be fab if he was made redundent

*seethe* *stupid oil* *OMGSUCKY* *Argh dont wannt be poor* *Going to go eat cake fnnnarrrR*

SusanC_2

searching_me wrote: »

susan i understand sounds very close to my mother (although i do hate her for what shes done) .. im not sure some people should be parents but if that was the case i wouldnt be here now x

I have made mistakes and done things which other people would find hard to understand so I don't feel in a position to judge anyone else.