MSE Parents Club Part 10

tiamai_d

(((hugs elasti)))

What was his birth weight?

Is he happy and alert with plenty of wet nappies?

searching_me

SusanC wrote: »

I have made mistakes and done things which other people would find hard to understand so I don't feel in a position to judge anyone else.

i dont judge her i just dont like her and the person she is .. i understand she'll never change its who she is and that i cant have her in my life as she takes everything from me or poops on what i have ... i tried many times but me thought is a mother is suppose to be always there for you but my mother never was unless i had money x

BeenieCat

Tia i think it's an age thing. I have been a bit confused about everything lately, my DS has always been very loving and tells me he loves me all the time. I tell him too and ask for kisses, but just lately he seems so much more grown up and it's weird. I couldn't work out if it was cos of Amber's arrival.

He says it so much that sometimes i cba to say it back. If i'm busy and not really concentrating on what he's saying i'll reply with "yeah" (ya know, bog standard answer for not listening) and he'll go in a sulk and i'll have to convince him that i do love him lol!

He doesn't give me kisses as much though i have to ask for them now, but i don't do it as much as i used to. Sometimes i feel super guilty when i'm slobbering (:D) all over Amber and he watches, cos i feel like i'm leaving him out.

He's just grown up all of a sudden and it's not the same as being all kissy with a little one.

But my mother has never ever hugged or kissed me so i want to glue that domino In fact if she ever did i'd be sick, it would just be weird.

xmaslolly76

My Real mother was a nasty manipulative piece of work ive cut her out of mine and my families life and so have my brothers. The mom who brought me up (my grandmother) died a year ago now and although she was never a huggy lovey dovey person i knew she loved me. i'm the exact opposite with mine we always have huggles and cuggles and i tell them i love them all the time i think i over compensate sometimes for the lack of affection from my own mother. My three are 11, 7 and 6months. When my OH isnt here which is most of the time we all curl up in bed together watching tv :-)

elastigirl

tiamai_d wrote: »

(((hugs elasti)))

What was his birth weight?

Is he happy and alert with plenty of wet nappies?

He was 7lbs 9oz but then he was in neonatal for a while and lost lots of weight. He had to have a feeding tube in. He went down to 6lbs 2 oz I think he has done well but their not happy as he is on the/below the 0.4th centile. He is very happy, has plenty of wet and poo nappies and his fontanelle is fine. The last week he has had more loose stools as he has been on antibiotics and i think that is why he didn't put on last week but yes i agree his weight gain isn't the best at healthy but i went though all this with my ds1 he could pass as a 3 year old. He has his endoscopy next month but i don't think it will show anything.
He hasn't had his injections yet due to his chest infection. I have to wait to see if HV says he is well enough to have them.

tarajayne

tiamai_d wrote: »

Maybe it is just an age thing then? *wonders if those with older children can add anything?*

Wasn't gonna post anything right now but trying to keep up and saw this.

I am very affectionate with mine when they are little, but after about 7-8ish it becomes a struggle. You must realise from my posts that I love them to death but at that age they do get annoying and like mini adults and although I do love them I don't always like them. I worried and worried when it happened with my eldest and probably 2 years or so ago I started to force myself to hug my DD's goodbye when they went home, now it doesn't feel right if I don't. DS1 would freak if I did it to him, but at some stage I will, probably the same, when he's left home. But you ask all my children if they think they are loved, they all say very much! HTH. XXX :A

jillie1974

afternoon all

how is everyone today.
havent read back to catch up.
any important/good news

happy birthday elle!

tarajayne

searching_me wrote: »

i dont judge her i just dont like her and the person she is .. i understand she'll never change its who she is and that i cant have her in my life as she takes everything from me or poops on what i have ... i tried many times but me thought is a mother is suppose to be always there for you but my mother never was unless i had money x

Well mine is a benefit taking, lazy, good for nothing, loves being the victim, money grabbing, saddo, gonna be so lonely, selfish f*****g biatch!

Now I feel better!

pigpen

Tia.. my 10 (11 next thursday) boy is really huggy lovey... I just give in.. mine are trained from very little drool and snot and other facial messes are wiped on the sleeve before kisses!! I have enough of my own I don't need theirs. put your arm round his shoulders and hug him 'matey' style.. works for mine.. then my 18 y/o son comes in and demands hugs... at least he's quit drooling!

My mother has told other people she loves me... just not me! So I do make a point of telling my monsters.. unless I want to kill them.. in which case I tell them that too!

Sarcasm is vital.. Does my bum look big in this? No your bum is big it is just that is too small! Does my hair look ok? Depends what is going to be nesting in it!

searching_me

tarajayne wrote: »

Well mine is a benefit taking, lazy, good for nothing, loves being the victim, money grabbing, saddo, gonna be so lonely, selfish f*****g biatch!

Now I feel better!

say it how you feel why dont you :rotfl: .. i could of actually used the same words but some dont know the story so was being nice :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:x