MSE Parents Club Part 10

My_Fathers_Daughter

For some reason I can only multiquote 1 person today??


My mum and dad never tell me they love me, but deep down I know they do! They are not big huggers and kissers either.

I am the exact opposite and take time to tell my friends and hubby that I love them and I am a big kisser as everybody knows

Benjamin already has a special reaction to me when I tell him I love him - kind of a crinkly nosed grin - and sometimes he races across the room with a big open mouth to give me a kiss for no reason - gotta love that!!

weezl74 wrote: »

yay for the domino gluing of Sami's mum *wells up*

And yay for susan doing it too with Alice *wells up again*

Susan/sami from what age do you feel they understood?

It's never too early IMHO. Benjamin started to show affection a few months ago (like Fergie and his forehead touching!)


Bizarrely I feel really wierd when hubbys family say that they love me I am happy with hugging and kissing them but just can't seem to tell them I love them? Maybe because I haven't 'chosen' them IYSWIM

SugarSpun

Oh effing eff, I went to have a bath and left my ebay alone, came back and someone's sniped me!!!

I wanted to ask something but have forgotten what it was.

Edit: I know that my mother must have told me she loved me - but I can't remember her ever saying it. She does hug me, but since I moved out only when we first meet and when we leave. But with my mother, the domino point I'm trying to keep in mind is that when Molly has sibling/s I don't want her ever to feel like there's a favourite.

SusanC_2

Sami_Bee wrote: »

My Mum doesn't ever remember being hugged by her parents

Oh I remember that - when I was 22 I had a (minor) car crash and when my mum turned up, the police officers said, "Give her a hug" so she did. Apparently when I was very small I used to crawl away when she tried to give me cuddles - I think she still holds it against me.

weezl74 wrote: »

Susan/sami from what age do you feel they understood?

It's hard to tell before they can talk. I'm sure Alice understands now (age 2 3/4) and has done for a while but I don't think I could say a definite age.

SusanC_2

Sami_Bee wrote: »

I get all fuzzy inside now that Chris has grasped what it is to love and comes up randomly to hug me and tell me he loves me :A

I love it when Alice does that too. She also tells me I'm "bootiful". (She tells OH he's bootiful too so I'm trying to teach her that men are handsome instead.)

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

My mum and dad never tell me they love me, but deep down I know they do! They are not big huggers and kissers either.

As long as you know they do, it doesn't matter whether they say it in words.

tiamai_d

Today I refrained from buying this in pink floral and the house print and this dress (so !!!!ed they have put a jacket over it here, its stunning in real life) and these lovely sun dresses and this cos its so funky.

Instead I went to H&M and got 2 pairs of shorts and some iron on badges for Christopher, a dress and a skirt for Amber for £13

Then came home and realised that it's not council tax free month this month, it's March and April. So me=!!!!.

Krystaltips

My Mum was pretty dire at expressing any emotion other than disgust... I very much remember her scrunching her face up at me and telling me how vile I was... And turning her head away when I went to give her a good night kiss once...

She told me she loved me once, when her and my Dad were getting divorced and she realised that, despite her attempts at damage limitation before the event, we were all firmly in camp Dad (sorry Em, that just made me think of you... Can't think why ) Anyway, she said she loved us all but it was such a standard phrase and devoid of emotion, I didn't actually believe her... Now, when she visits, she always goes in for a kiss as she leaves... I always turn my head and don't reciprocate...

I tell my children I love them alllllllllllllllllllllllll the time... We're a very loving family really... I think Caitlyn's starting to show her love already, when I'm holding her she rests her head against me and I always say "aww, loves for Mommy" she does it more and more every day... And does it to hubby too now

Mfd, if you're not near your phone... I've txt you

SusanC_2

SugarSpun wrote: »

But with my mother, the domino point I'm trying to keep in mind is that when Molly has sibling/s I don't want her ever to feel like there's a favourite.

I worry about that. Is your mum aware of having favourites? My mum told me that one of my brothers said she didn't like me and him and that the other two were her favourites but she has no idea why he would think that and thinks he is just making it up.

aless02

tia, you're addicted - step away!!

MadDogWoman_2

Afternoon,

GTT all done and all I've done since is eat!

Katie is very affection, she loves her group hugs and kisses.

When I was making her dinner, DH had hold of her and she lent forward and cuddled me and stayed like that the whole time I was sorting her food out!

There are extra cuddles for her today as she fell downstairs this morning top to bottom, the collided with the airer that was at the bottom of the stair which was in front of the glass door! The look of sheer terror on her face was horrible and even worse I froze for a second before I could do anything.

I was grateful for the breastfeeding as this is the only thing that calmed her down - I wouldn't normally but it was extraordinary circumstances.

I'm just off to join the very bad mummies club.

tiamai_d

Can I admit something and not be bashed for it? I worry about how I am with DS1. He annoys me, he's always kissing me and I have to try not to cringe when he does it. I love him to bits but he is just too kissy-huggy for me. Probably all he is doing is seeking out attention from me but I'm really... stunted emotionally with him. Since he hit about 6 years old I just haven't known how to be close to him. He's just a normal annoying 8 year old who acts silly but I just can't relax with him. I feel so guilty about it too. I try to spend time with him reading or playing but can only do it for so long. He's really soft hearted and it must break his heart too.

*runs away and hides in a corner*