MSE Parents Club Part 10

Glamazon

SusanC wrote: »

Really? Are you sure it's not just that you didn't know about it? I'd have thought it almost impossible to not come across people who took drugs at school.

I remember my neighbour in cardiff saying that as it as an affluent area there was no drugs :rotfl:

Sami_Bee

aless02 wrote: »

I feel better about telling the story about my DH having to find a new job after being at his last one for 4 days. On Day 3, he was brought upstairs for what he thought was going to be his formal induction - only to find the MD and the branch boss sitting a table with 2 lines of coke on it, which they offered to him as his "welcome present". He of course refused and went back downstairs, only to be told that the MD was insulted his "gift" had been not taken. Then the next day he was told the customary Friday night all-night bender was mandatory and people who don't socialise "don't last very long". He walked out - needless to say everyone in the office was single and couldn't understand the position of a married man with a new baby! :eek: :eek:

DH is also a professional who wears a suit & tie every day to work. Coke, I think, is the new high class drug. Ugh, I told him to phone Crimestoppers and get the whole office busted!!

(interesting topics now...cocaine & marijuana on the parenting thread! )

OMG that's awful!!! I'd call the cops too :cool:

I think random but good topic for parenting thread, If we know whats out there than we can inform out LOs about how to deal with it when the time comes (even if for a lot of us that won't be for 15yrs :rotfl:)

The guy OH has gone to AD with is a coke addict, he's always there when we skype so I won't know until he gets back how much he's tweaking!! I told OH to make sure he kept everything separate just in case a sniffer dog picked something up on other guy's stuff though;) They actually went to school together, sat nxt to each other in french class (bless) it's funny how differently they've turned out when there wasn't much difference in them 10yrs ago (OMG I left school almost 10yrs ago!!) OH is married with 2kids and his own house, 'other guy' lives with his nan in her council house and has nothing but debt, criminal record and an addiction...

got-it-spend-it

aless02 wrote: »

I feel better about telling the story about my DH having to find a new job after being at his last one for 4 days. On Day 3, he was brought upstairs for what he thought was going to be his formal induction - only to find the MD and the branch boss sitting a table with 2 lines of coke on it, which they offered to him as his "welcome present". He of course refused and went back downstairs, only to be told that the MD was insulted his "gift" had been not taken. Then the next day he was told the customary Friday night all-night bender was mandatory and people who don't socialise "don't last very long". He walked out - needless to say everyone in the office was single and couldn't understand the position of a married man with a new baby! :eek: :eek:

DH is also a professional who wears a suit & tie every day to work. Coke, I think, is the new high class drug. Ugh, I told him to phone Crimestoppers and get the whole office busted!!

(interesting topics now...cocaine & marijuana on the parenting thread! )

:eek::eek::eek: At your hubby's new job! I know it was rife when I worked in financial services- unfortunately it seems to be more acceptable than smoking in a lot of circles.

SJ- glad to hear it's all goung well with Alfie and yay for your jeans!

Becles- that sounds really positive. I'm sorry those two women are so horrid, but glad you're in a group without them. Yay for Craig helping out too, that is fab.

pinkpig08

You could be right Susan, I know that in my very close circle of friends none of us did, but I suppose as for others in the class............ I've definitely never been offered any, and TBH wouldn't know what to do with them if I was!

Buttonmoons

Keira is staying at my mums house tonight as all the kids are off school for INSET days I think? So Keira doesn't go back too nursery until Thursday (so why do I still have to pay £2 snack money :rotfl: surely it should be about 70pence!)

So going to make a lasagne tonight, clean the kitchen and I really need to disinfect the utilty room floors (there is nothing in that utility room except the cat boxes, probs why I have no storage room lol) but archie poo'hed on the floor before I went to bed, so It was a quick soap and water and some dettol. But the whole room kinda has a cat wee whiff that clings too it? Even though I have air freshners etc in there. Probs cause there is no window for ventilation!

My house don't stink of cat wee though, honest!!

I just don't want the litterboxes in my kitchen (Sick!) or bedrooms, and deffo NOT the living room, and that's the only rooms with windows! Stupid crappy flats!

Me and OH have decided to budget next month, so tonight we will write a meal plan, has anyone got any cheap ideas? I mean obviously there is mince - so chilli,spag bol, shepherds pie etc etc

Chicken curry/fajitas/casserole

Sausage and mash/casserole.

I kinda loose insipiration beyond that. I made mac n cheese last week which was nice so Ill put that on the list.

Basically we want to recoup what we have spent on Archie, to put aside and actually open a savings account!

So I've worked as the essentials this month:

Rent & Gas - £300
Electric - £40
Sky - £30
Phone line and BB - £25-£30 (depends on calls)
Specsavers - £10
Pet Insurance - £13 (It's 12. something but I cant remember, I round up!)
House insurance - £13
CT - Free month this month and next but usually £108

Also have to pay the vets some money, I'll give them £50.

Me and OH are going to buy our Rockness tickets as can get them cheap(er) with an o2 code - £250 (:eek:)

....and after all that we have over £2000 left for the month (It's normally not that high, believe me, but it's bonus month)

So what we want to do, is earmark at least £500 of that to go into an ISA at least!

I guess what I want, is a rough figure I could use for shopping & groceries. I know Susan and Weezl, manage to be really frugal but I just couldn't do it that low because I'm a snackaholic, and Keira won't eat home made yoghurts :rotfl:

Things I have to buy every month is

4 bags of Tesco value litter (seems a lot of litter to use but I scoop it twice/three times a day to avoid scents and make it thick, plus it doesn't absorb smells very well but Im not paying £10 for 10kg when I can get 40kg for that price) - £5

I usually spend about £10 - £15 on a months of wet food for them, they have dry biscuits in the house right now so nothing for that.

pack of pull ups for Keira - I normally get the 3 for £10 offer at tesco, so it lasts almost 3 months (when will she stop pee'ing when she sleeps!)

and then the usual stuff that must get added is, yoghurts for Keira, they are usually 2 for £3 X 2, breadsticks, fruit, raisins, fish fingers. Can't really think of anything else, but normally is.

GOd what a huge post that makes not much sense.

basically, what kinda amount is a reasonable amount for groceries for a family of 3 and 2 cats! (bearing in my mind I love diet pop and crisps, OH likes some beers etc)

And also, cheap recipes that tend to involve meat as OH hates lentils, beans, pulses etc etc etc. Also hates stir frys and anything chinese except spring rolls!

jillie1974

scary job aless, glad your OH got out when he did.

i know people who quite openly talk about waht drugs they have done. quite sad really.

personally, had a space cake in amsterdam, me and DH ended up walking in a circle and didnt speak to each other for over an hour. went to kfc for food- but DH has no recollection of that. quite scary that and i would not try it again.

Buttonmoons

A few people I went to school with OD'd and died soon after we all left school. They were always high though and thought it was cool. Peer pressure is a pretty strong influence on people too I think.

I had been offered plenty, I just always said no, because I seriously think I'm the kind of person who would die with half an E, anything strong than a paracetamol has me spewing. Plus, I don't need to be addled to have fun!

SusanC_2

Glamazon wrote: »

I remember my neighbour in cardiff saying that as it as an affluent area there was no drugs :rotfl:

:rotfl::rotfl:

Sami_Bee

SusanC wrote: »

You don't have to make a commitment now about whether to let him self wean or not. You can always set yourself rolling target dates such as I'll keep going till ten months and then decide then whether to keep going longer and then say twelve months. That way you're not commiting either way and you're giving yourself acheivable short term targets rather than the very indeterminate/daunting see how long it goes on for.


I am so glad to hear that. (And glad you're not in a group with nasty people.)

Thanks Susan, I know my thinking is a bit skewed at the moment on it, I feel like BFing is getting in the way of everything, even though I know he won't be feeding this often for the next year or two I forget that when I'm having a grump:o

Becles - glad things are on the up :j

feelinggood wrote: »

Toby had a clingy weekend so didn't get a chance to have a long hot bath, but we ate lots of nice things (including a giant French Fancy cake!) and we went on the swings! Was tiring going up and down on one weekend, total of 10 hours travelling, and 8 trains!

Off to meet a lady I met on Netmums for coffee shortly.

I go through phases of wishing Toby took a bottle or went longer between feeds (or was totally weaned). It can be demanding. Thing is, that it wouldn't solve any problem for us, it is me LO wants, and even if he would take a bottle, he'd still want to see me. I find things like co-sleeping means I get more sleep, using the sling keeps him happy.

I think you mentioned swallowing didn't you? Toby is starting to swallow more now.

ooh cake yummy
I'm the same as you with the swinging from wishing he'd have a bottle etc I need OH here to remind me that even though it feels like forever now, its only a tiny part of my life and once its gone I'll be wanting to do it again

yes swallowing, something Ed doesn't do much off

SusanC_2

Buttonmoons wrote: »

I guess what I want, is a rough figure I could use for shopping & groceries. I know Susan and Weezl, manage to be really frugal but I just couldn't do it that low because I'm a snackaholic, and Keira won't eat home made yoghurts :rotfl:
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basically, what kinda amount is a reasonable amount for groceries for a family of 3 and 2 cats! (bearing in my mind I love diet pop and crisps, OH likes some beers etc)

Do you keep receipts? If you do, perhaps you could have look through and see roughly what you spent last month to give you a starting figure? Otherwise, I would suggest making a list of meals (taking into account what stuff you have in already) and pricing them up on moneysupermarket to give you a rough idea what it would cost.