MSE Parents Club Part 10

SugarSpun

Krystaltips wrote: »

Mookie, did you know that breastfeeding a baby on take off is the best way to stop ears popping...

This is how we deal with the monster, and she hasn't made a peep on any of four flights. Actually she did make a couple of whinges on the first one, but we were stuck in a holding pattern at ear-popping level for ages and she was full of milk but still popping. Still the best behaved baby on that flight.

weezl74 wrote: »

I think the big thing for me was this perception that I now have that I am somehow not cut out for the real (often cut-throat) world of work. And so I was feeling like quite a failure.

Have managed to turn this around a bit now and am more thinking that I'm going to try to think of ways to help Fergie and Kester to have the idealism and optimism about life that DH and I have, but to make sure that they also learn good ways of dealing with it when life is not like that.

I have that feeling too Weezl, I think it's because of the massive shift in priorities that comes when you go back to work after having a baby and somehow you have to reconcile the old-work you with the new mummy-and-work you while everyone else is still their old selves and expecting you to be your old self. It's not necessarily that we're not cut out for it, I think (we know you're great at your job), but that things we used to take for granted are now grating because they seem so ridiculous and irrelevant but we still have to take them seriously. Departmental politics and work worries are huge and all-encompassing, but small and petty at the same time and it's hard to deal with.

I hope it gets easier for you, and you're clearly looking to make a positive lesson for your boys out of your experience so you're being a great mummy.

feelinggood wrote: »

Others' probably think it is a bit gross letting him go on the floor, but I've never been adverse to a few germs.

I think a free range baby is an excellent sort of baby to have. I've trapped Molly in her blue chair for a while because she just ganneted two full bowls of food and if she's allowed tummy time or bouncy time she'll throw it up, but I much prefer her to be on the floor. I think it's good for babies to have exposure to germs while their immune systems are still developing. I know a mummy who's constantly disinfecting stuff around her baby and the child has a perma-cold.

Slept through the first 20 minutes of a Skype meeting this morning, I'm going to start marking my early morning stuff on the calendar so OH doesn't let me sleep in. Very sweet of him but :eek:

workinmummy

Had an email from Kiddicare.

They have some items on half price for half term.

3onitsway

SusanC wrote: »

Is she in Year Four by any chance? Year Four girls are always the worst for that but it does improve.

Yes, year 4 and she and her little group of friends have suddenly developed attitude! I'm glad to hear it improves.

It doesn't help that her group of best freinds are a group of 5, so one is always feeling left out.

Sami_Bee

Buttonmoons wrote: »

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You know I went into town with a mum from Keira's nursery, and she was doing cocaine :eek: and her friends bf was there and he is a drug dealer apparently :eek: (Im honestly not rough as bits, I had no idea she was either!!) They all decided to go back to her house for a party, I declined and met up with my normal drug free friends.

Then on Saturday me and OH took Keira to the ice cream parlour and she got on the bus with her friend, OUT HER FACE, hadn't even been to bed and was away back into town for booze. Her and her bf broke up, so I understand she is upset, but jezzus!

You don't have to be rough to do coke, my entire department at work bar me and BMF did it, one of them even offered it to BMF when she was pg, when she said no the offerer said "oh yeah it might do something to the baby" BMF was like yeah coz otherwise I dive right in, NOT!!!
These were all profession peeps not scummy chavs, coke is a major problem these day

mookiandco wrote: »

Quick questions for today:

Is there any reason why Leila shouldnt be eating Special K? She prefers it to weetabix.

I am ashamed to say that I have today let Leila watch cartoons (well, CBeebies) for the first time in her little life. I realised the other day that she's 8 months old and has never seen a children's programme. I feel like I have deprived her! So I can give her a crash course in children's programmes, what programmes do your little ones like? She's currently watching 'I can cook'!!

Chris has special K this morning too its the same as other cereal really, bit high in sugar but has less than those baby biscotti

I have a problem with i can cook because it should be I can cook but otherwise we love singing about slippy dippy soap We watch most things on cbeebies/milkshake/nick jr/playhouse disney

I'm sure there was another quote?!

Weezl - hope all is clear on the scan, I didn't have clexane (sp?) because it was a school night so just went back the next day. xxx

Please don't talk about stopping BF, my head in firmly in the sand on that issue and I can't face taking it out yet:o

Buttonmoons

Keira used to love brum when she was little, she used to toddle over to beside the TV, and start dancing when the song came on, but her dancing was bending her knees up and down and sticking her bum out!

She is more into the Go diego Go, Little Einsteins, Dora, Peppa pig things now, she used to love Mr Tumble (I didnt, I think he is scary!) Just grew out of it I suppose.

I really like that Little Einsteins, even I learn new words. It's AN ADAGIO!!

Weezl - Hope your scan goes well and least you'll be able to see little Kester

Has anyone put their little ones to a dance class? Keira really loves to dance, plus I know she would love dressing up in the outfits. I have been looking around and quite fancy her doing Scottish Dance but most are age 5 for that.

It's really just to give her something to look forward too on a Weekend, and maybe so she can focus on something for more than 5minutes, that doesnt involve zombies!!

SusanC_2

Weezl - your PM box is full.

feelinggood_2

Sami_Bee wrote: »

Please don't talk about stopping BF, my head in firmly in the sand on that issue and I can't face taking it out yet:o

You can just be like me and carry on feeding till they go off to college!

I wonder when Toby will stop - he is still very, very breastfed at 10 months. I reckon he'll be 3 or 4 when he stops. My plan after 18 months old is to not offer and not refuse. At the moment I still offer cos he hasn't figured out how to ask. I can tell he needs feeding but he doesn't realise, but when he gets the first mouthful he sighs and his eyes brighten, as if he is saying 'Oh gosh, I needed this'.

Buttonmoons

Sami - I just have never really been around drugs like that before, bit of hash and maybe an E (Not me!) but Cocaine, I always thought of a serious drug like Heroin!

I have smoked weed before, I'm sure most people have. It just makes me paranoid though.

Think I need to open my eyes a bit more lol.

My_Fathers_Daughter

mookiandco wrote: »

I am ashamed to say that I have today let Leila watch cartoons (well, CBeebies) for the first time in her little life. I realised the other day that she's 8 months old and has never seen a children's programme. I feel like I have deprived her! So I can give her a crash course in children's programmes, what programmes do your little ones like? She's currently watching 'I can cook'!!

Cartoons are good for letting kids be kids

Benjamin likes Waybuloo and ITNG...mostly I think he likes ITNG because I have been singing Iggle Piggle to him since he was teeny weeny and we also have a CD of the songs that we play in the car so he recognises the music.

Although the other day he was stood right in front of the TV watching it and his little head was following the characters as they walked across the screen...and then when they walked off the side he cocked his head to look where they had gone, bless him!


I hate I can cook and I would like to Show Me Show Me a boot up the arris for those 2 annoying presenters

Numberjacks and Chuggington are also faves...again mainly because I can't get them out of my head and walk around singing 'The Numberjacks are on their way!!!' and 'Chuu-ggginnn-tttooon, chugga, chugga, chugga, chugga, chugga, chugga....'


Hope these are firmly stuck in everyone elses heads now too :rotfl:

SugarSpun

feelinggood wrote: »

My plan after 18 months old is to not offer and not refuse. At the moment I still offer cos he hasn't figured out how to ask. I can tell he needs feeding but he doesn't realise, but when he gets the first mouthful he sighs and his eyes brighten, as if he is saying 'Oh gosh, I needed this'.

This is my rough plan too. Molly will sometimes turn down boob if she thinks there's some mashed veg in her immediate future, and now she gets mash at lunchtime and a BF when she wakes from her post-lunch nap. I found even the one meal replacement to be very upsetting and was surprised at how sad I was.

Sami_Bee wrote: »

You don't have to be rough to do coke, my entire department at work bar me and BMF did it, one of them even offered it to BMF when she was pg, when she said no the offerer said "oh yeah it might do something to the baby" BMF was like yeah coz otherwise I dive right in, NOT!!!

:eek:

Buttonmoons wrote: »

I have smoked weed before, I'm sure most people have. It just makes me paranoid though.

*straps on nerd hat*

Marijuana is fascinating because it intensifies your natural feelings in whatever situation you find yourself. So if you're in a good mood it can make your mood GREAT, if you're tired then you'll probably fall asleep and if you're self-conscious or nervous the paranoia will kick in.

Having said that, so often it's cut with crap or modified in the growing that the paranoia can kick in at any time, hence it's not advisable for people with anxiety problems even when they're in a good place. I think it can have some excellent effects as pain medication but only when medically grown. Like buying anything illegal, you just don't know what you're getting and you're effectively putting your safety in the hands of a dealer. Not a good idea.

*stops being a nerd*