MSE Parents Club Part 10

tarajayne

And (((hugs)))) to MFD who is obviously trying to be Superwoman, try and slow down hun! XXXX

And thanks to Jenny, it was a nice post. X

How's you and hubby SS?

tarajayne

feelinggood wrote: »

I suppose one way for the arguments and the problem of feeling ignored is to split the group down the middle based on parenting technique. That isn't very appealing as there as some here who I love very much despite being very, very different to me, but I can't stop thinking that it is the only solution. Perhaps I should start a 'banished' thread for those of us who cause offence and upset.

But why would you do that, it's like saying that the two groups shouldn't mix, but they should. It's just that one side think they're perfect and one side know they're not. And the not side are much more accepting! I read the B.Mummies thread with interest, as many of us on here fit quite well with some of the comments but I consider myself a very good Mummy and will confidently tell anyone that!

pinkpig08

Hi all

Yes it is my birthday today - thankyou for the good wishes

Woohoo for Poppies' poop! That's fantastic news - I hope she keeps up the good work!

Good luck at MH SM

Off to check my phone - its beeping again!

tarajayne

Well apart from currently allowing Maddy to headbutt the furniture! :rotfl:

SugarSpun

I think the arguments are inevitable, TBH, since we're not perfect and will often word something in a way that causes offence to tired mummies and daddies even when we're not trying to be hurtful. Maybe we could agree to send a PM if we feel hurt saying something like, Hey, I thought that thing you said about purple babies needing to be fed Ribena was a bit upsetting cause my purple baby just gets goat milk and she's fine, and then the response could be, Oh no, I didn't mean to upset you, goat milk is one alternative for purple babies and if it works best for you that's cool, and everyone could go on asking questions without worrying that they're going to start a big fight?

I don't think any of us think we're perfect mummies or daddies. It's now been ten days since Molly had a bath and she just pooped all over her clothes so I put her in a clean sleepsuit rather than day clothes cause I'm taking her out later and don't want her to do it again all over the nice stuff. And she'll only roll over in the nudey buff but doesn't like doing it so I'm not forcing her. And she eats from jars because it's convenient. And I sometimes put her in front of a DVD of Peter Gabriel because she loves him and I want ten minutes' peace.

But I still think I'm a good mummy even when sometimes doing bad things.

We're good, Tara, tired and crabbit after Miss Molly's nocturnal escapades but otherwise ok. I'm off to my meeting now, then another meeting, then a sociable baby-meeting, then to pick up my pants, then home to await a friend's dropping by later on and various little jobs to do in between. It's a busy life but I like it

feelinggood_2

tarajayne wrote: »

But why would you do that, it's like saying that the two groups shouldn't mix, but they should. It's just that one side think they're perfect and one side know they're not. And the not side are much more accepting! I read the B.Mummies thread with interest, as many of us on here fit quite well with some of the comments but I consider myself a very good Mummy and will confidently tell anyone that!

Who has ever claimed to be perfect?

fairydawn

Tara, my thoughts are with you all, and I am glad to hear all bodily functions are working. x
MFD and SS sorry to hear OH's have been so ill, I hope they mend quickly for you. x
Happy Birthday PP.x
FG, much love sent to you as I know it is all so hard. xx
Oscar is now awake 10pm - 9.30 am, must have worn him out yesterday.

tarajayne

feelinggood wrote: »

Who has ever claimed to be perfect?

It is how when reading, as I sometimes do for days at a time without posting, some posts come across. I don't think it is intentional or meant in that way but some have more time on their hands then others, so those that are busy end up feeling like they don't do the right thing by their child. I posted my thoughts after many weeks of feeling it, not to start a discussion but it is not in my nature not to speak my mind. It is my opinion, nothing more and I don't like any bad vibes I have to fester. I've said my bit so that I can move on. If it's not acceptable for me to have such an opinion I will leave the thread!

searching_me

im ready early (well ive got 10mins) ...

tara i agree with your comment .. although i dont think they thnk they are perfect but they are told it by mw, hv, docs well anything in the profession that they are .. my sister is a training mw and she drives me MENTAL!!! in the end i had to say .. my child now sod off if you're not happy ...

thanks for the good luck everyone ..

oooo and tara saw your status .. well done poppies your gene are definately made of some strong stuff ..

dont leave i like (i would say love but that sounds abit lezzy) you being here x

feelinggood_2

tarajayne wrote: »

It is how when reading, as I sometimes do for days at a time without posting, some posts come across. I don't think it is intentional or meant in that way but some have more time on their hands then others, so those that are busy end up feeling like they don't do the right thing by their child. I posted my thoughts after many weeks of feeling it, not to start a discussion but it is not in my nature not to speak my mind. It is my opinion, nothing more and I don't like any bad vibes I have to fester. I've said my bit so that I can move on. If it's not acceptable for me to have such an opinion I will leave the thread!

Thanks for explaining, I appreciate it.