MSE Parents Club Part 10

redmel1621

Sami - I told dh about your comment earlier and he called me a home-wrecker:eek:

jennynoo

Gosh there have been a lot of arguments on here recently. I think we need to give posters (on this thread at least) the benefit of the doubt more as it's hard to judge what people are saying if you can only read what they post - not see their faces - and everyone on here is lovely so I doubt anyone means any harm - at least that's what I think! Also, just as a suggestion, maybe it would be better to pm people if you have a problem with what they have written as a first port of call incase it is something that can be easily sorted.

And can I just say Glam that I remember you checking out and being concerned about whether you would be able to breastfeed way before Jack was born, then I missed why you stopped bf as I wasn't reading the thread but, as I knew you were a lovely person, clever and definitely someone who would do the best for their baby, I didn't question it. Whatever happened I knew you would have done it for the right reasons.

Now, back to business:

aless02 wrote: »

oh I forgot to say there was this annoying old woman in the changing rooms at the pool who clearly disapproved of me taking Finn swimming. She asked how old he was and when I told her she acted really shocked and said something like, "oh, I didn't know you could take them in so young! He's so little!" and then kept shooting me tut-tut looks the whole time. Uhhh, that is the point of parent & baby time in the pool?

(not sure how he liked it! good sign is he didn't cry, right? Will deffo buy some sort of wetsuit/swimsuit thing as it was too cold for him, I think. Where can I buy this? eBay? Also, can I 'dunk' him straight away or should wait a while? I'm not paying for lessons so just curious what other baby-swimmers have learned/done.)

Hi Aless, are you going next week? Might have to come although I don't like the idea of putting Erin on the floor. It's fine for babies to swim before their jabs - I read it on babycentre - hope it's right! Erin screamed constantly when I took her in the changing rooms after swimming .

Stay strong vibes for Tara, Tara's DD and DGD.

Hugs for everyone who needs them, sometimes I feel so helpless reading this thread, just wish I could come and give hugs and more actively help sort out your problems.

Buttonmoons

Yey 3 and a 1/2 inches is good! Thats in 6months She still looks like a shorty to me though.

Im getting sick of my other cat, she keeps growling and hissing at sickly archie, why cant she recognize its him? Smell different? cone on his head? shes mean.

jennynoo

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

LOL - Benjamin loves it when I peek between my legs at him like that.


I was a horrible mummy tonight Benjamin and I were having our usual pre-bedtime cuddle and he wasn't sleepy enough (I knew he wasn't, I don't know why I took him up....actually I do - I wanted him to go to bed to I could work )
Anyway - cutey boy was holding his elephant over his eyes and then pulling it away and shouting 'ooo' (can't do BOO yet) and I was only cross that he wouldn't settle, not overcome by how gorgeous and clever and cute my son actually is

Hence tears and general crap.

I need a holiday.

But you've realised now and that's the main thing, we can't always be perfect!

MadDogWoman_2

I'm off now, putting the chicken in to marinate for tea tomorrow then beddie byes.

MFD - I sent Katie to bed without a cuddle tonight as well she was being a little madam.

elle_gee

Hi again all.. Just been having a blitz of the kitchen. Did I mention earlier Rhys actually laughed at me while he watched me shove a pile of paperwork in the cupboard before our visitor this afternoon? Blinking cheek! :rotfl:

MDW - I like purple too! My friend has that stroller and recommends it

MFD - *hugs* for you When will hubby be fit for a holiday? Get it booked!

I've got to find the paint charts now (probably in that pile of stuff in the cupboard!) and pick a colour for Rhys' room...

SusanC_2

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

I was a horrible mummy tonight Benjamin and I were having our usual pre-bedtime cuddle and he wasn't sleepy enough (I knew he wasn't, I don't know why I took him up....actually I do - I wanted him to go to bed to I could work )
Anyway - cutey boy was holding his elephant over his eyes and then pulling it away and shouting 'ooo' (can't do BOO yet) and I was only cross that he wouldn't settle, not overcome by how gorgeous and clever and cute my son actually is

Hence tears and general crap.

:grouphug: I'm sure everyone gets frustrated with their children from time to time - we're all only human.

weezl74

Elle_gee, *stern voice*, your light is on young lady! What are you doing still up ?!:p

SusanC_2

I hope I don't offend anyone with this post - I have taken fifty minutes to write it (although in the interests of honesty I have to say that some of that excessive time was due to crying rather than agonising over what to say and how to word it). It's quite a long but I've highlighted in red the things I want everyone to know.

I was going to post this in the morning but since I can't sleep because I am so upset I figured I may as well get up and do it now. Thank you to all the people who have said nice things.

I am actually shocked by how upset I am and I think the reason I am so upset is that I was very rudely accused of being insensitive about formula feeding in the very post where I was actually apologising for doing that very same thing. I am very sorry if my wording did upset anyone but I do think that allowance should be made for the fact that it was an apology for that very thing and therefore I was clearly deliberately trying to be the opposite of hurtful.

I thought I ought to say (so that people don't worry about me as I know lots of you care) that I am going to take a break from being on this thread since I can't even think about the thread at the moment without crying never mind read/post. (Which would make it very un-MSE to read given the amount of tissues I would get through.) I am not going forever and I am not going off in a huff - I just need to take time to recover.

Also, although I am upset, I am not angry with the person who said it as I realise that she probably hadn't thought through the context of what I was saying and I am sure she did not set out to deliberately upset me. (For the benefit of anyone who missed the second comment on my post, I am not referring to what MFD said - it was another comment.)

When the issue of people being ignored originally came up, I felt like I couldn't post as there were all these people I didn't know about reading the thread and judging me for not replying to every single person and thinking I am horrible and now I feel like there are potentially loads of people out there who I don't even know about reading what I write and judging me and even thinking I am being horrible in an apology. It is not anyone's fault - it is just how I feel and I just need some time to get over it.

Those of you who I "know" are all lovely and various PM's I have received in the last few weeks have made me really appreciate how lovely, kind, caring loving and supportive you all are. I will miss you all while I am not here but if anyone wants to contact me, PM's do go to my e-mail so I get them regardless of whether I go on MSE and it is fairly easy to work out who I am in the Facebook group.

weezl74

SusanC wrote: »

It is not anyone's fault - it is just how I feel and I just need some time to get over it.

Of course. We all need time to process things when they have been hard. Sorry you have been so upset. I respect your decision, and thanks for explaining it so we didn't worry.:) I'll miss you, and I really look forward to chatting on here again when you're ready to.

:heart2:Much love xxx