MSE Parents Club Part 10

elle_gee

SusanC wrote: »

I know what you mean. I wonder if the experiences of people close to you has an influence you by making you more concious of the fact that things can go wrong? I used to tell people that I wanted a baby and if they asked me if I knew which she was, I used to say, "It's definitely a human baby." Although I never particularly thought about it conciously at the time, on reflection I think that saying something like, "as long as it's healthy" would have been a huge insult to my brother (who suffered brain injury at birth) but I can understand that if someone doesn't have that experience of things going wrong for someone they know well then they might not be aware of the implications of what they are saying.

I agree, and in a way I would like to think the experiences of Rhys/Dylan/Rose/Andrew have opened some eyes for the future.. :cool:

ETA: Angela and Tigs, I apologise if I've labelled your LOs as "unhealthy" mistakenly I just mean the ones who had an unexpected start, iyswim. I don't think I said it right but then I didn't want to leave anyone out either! Pah, I'm rubbish!

Sami_Bee

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

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He opened his cards, complete with a photo of the 4 of us (thanks sami - that was inspired!!) and got very emotional :A

Benjamin keeps crying in his sleep I wish this tooth would come through, he has been grumpy for days and days now.

I'm here but not really here. Trying to do some of this ironing to make MIL keep her paws off it

:TBless him! I think the worst thing about hospitals is they are just so alien. its always my first suggestion to anyone to take a photo in :cool:

Poor B, I had to force Ed to have calpol tonight, he wouldn't settle at all - stupid teeth!

redmel1621

I just watched the gender programme and some things annoyed me, the discard the rest comment, the one about not having a certain gender being like not being able to have kids, the spoilt childish wouldn't get married untilhe provided her a girl...... But what annoyed me more than anything was them all talking or crying about it in front of their kids, how are the boys going to feel about that?? Them seeing their mums so upset about possibly having another boy, just like them....I wonder if they may start to wonder if they were ever wanted!!

I find it hard to understand completely how woman who crave a certain gender feel but I think it is something along the lines ofbeing upset about what they haven't got, as opposed to what they have got... If that makes sense. Tbh I have been thinking a lot lately about how I will feel depending what gender our baby is, I know i can't possibly imagine until it happens but I am wondering how I will feel if I know I am never going to experience a mother-daughter bond..... Or if it is a girl how I will feel about kai being alone iygwim.


While I'm on, I received a ladybird first words book today addressed to me with a blank compliment slip!! I have no idea where it is from, has anyone else ever got one through the post??

elle_gee

Are you registered with Bizzie Babies, Mel? Someone else (sorry, I forgot) was talking about books from them earlier

SeptemberBaby_2

Ah, thats so sweet MFD! :A And I hope he has a midnight feast with all your snacks! .

Hugs for Benjamin.

xx

MadDogWoman_2

Mel - that's what got to me, how are the boys going to feel growing up knowing that their mum thinks they're the wrong gender.

I had a friend at school who was an accident and her parents had told her and treated her very differently to her much wanted big sister, it had a huge impact on her.

boogellyboo

Ive caught up twice then gone to post and Isla's demanded my attention, she's currently babbling to OH and showing no signs at all of going to sleep but apparently her fists very tasty as its planted firmly in her mouth!

Tara - its good to hear your DD & DGD are doing well, you sound so proud of her.

MFD - I hope Benjamin settles for you tonight, pesky teeth.

Best go, the fist's no longer satisfying her

Night all x

emlou2009

Elle, I am not going to mention it if she doesnt call it a cop out, but I'm still so angry about it that I dont really trust myself to do anything except skim over the situation with a fake smile
If I do say anything, it will be that I wasnt happy that he was so upset with hunger, and that if he is hungry I want him fed, no matter whether he appears to be ill or not, because I would rather he was miserable about being ill with a full belly than be miserable about being ill and being hungry!
I am worried she will call me back to collect him tomorrow though if she gets another gooey nappy, I wont be impressed at all if she does, and then I will really have to broach the subject of me not being happy to pay her for the day... I hope it doesnt come to that though, as Seth is well settled there, and overall I am very happy sending him there! I have rung the doctors and spoken to the triage nurse twice now, who said that if he is fine in himself and drinking plenty of water there is nothing to worry about with him, so there is no reason whatsoever that she shouldnt look after him tomorrow!

searching_me

mdw both me and philip were told we were accidents ... both of us the result of affairs i was told by my step-dad shouting at me and my mother confirming it but never once did she ever say she was glad she had me and i dont hate her but its one of the reasons i cant have her in my life ... where as philips deadbeat dad told him and his mother told him yes but you were loved from the moment i found out and hes not had a problem with it x

SeptemberBaby_2

Nite nite, Tara & Boo.

xx