MSE Parents Club Part 10

Jakesmummy

Buttons meant to say kieras school pic is gorgeous! does kiera have dinner at school, jake has started on dinners this week and so far has ate nothing:( i feel so guilty 1- for making him have dinner there, 2- cos its probably my fault he's so fussy.
Oh and he crys when i drop him off now, i hate it, he never cried before, but when they start full time they have to have school dinners theres no option to take packed lunch, which am not pleased about but hey ho.. so he's gonna have to get used to it i suppose, i just feel so bad!

Sami_Bee

Jakesmummy wrote: »

Buttons meant to say kieras school pic is gorgeous! does kiera have dinner at school, jake has started on dinners this week and so far has ate nothing:( i feel so guilty 1- for making him have dinner there, 2- cos its probably my fault he's so fussy.
Oh and he crys when i drop him off now, i hate it, he never cried before, but when they start full time they have to have school dinners theres no option to take packed lunch, which am not pleased about but hey ho.. so he's gonna have to get used to it i suppose, i just feel so bad!

OMG that is awful, do the dinner ladies not make sure he eats something?
Do the school know he isn't eating? at my mum's school they make sure the kids eat something even if its just a piece of the free fruit :undecided

jillie1974

Sami_Bee wrote: »

oh I thought you'd looked and it was a tues lol crossed wires! 7th April is a wednesday:o

lol!!

so next meet is provisionally 7th April at the Lowry and its a Wednesday?

ooh burgerking is at the Lowry...my fave!!

tiamai_d

Feelie - When I switched Amber from breast to bottle I did it out of depression. She was not gaining weight (lost weight before I added in formula top ups at 8 weeks) and she was getting sleepier and sleepier. Everytime I had her weighed, which was every 2 weeks after my GP told me to get her weighed every week, I was lectured on putting her to the breast more often.

As well as that, I was having real issues with the bond I had with her. I was obsessivly possesive of her. I hid it well, but everytime someone looked at her, cooed over her let alone touched or held her, I wanted to rip out their throat and yell at them this was the baby they said 'I should get rid of'. Even DH, hard as I tried to supress it, when I fed her it encouraged that unhealthy bond in me.

So while I am very gald to have fed her for as long as I did, switching to formula was the correct choice for us.

With the boys, it was more a case of breast feeding having rules. With DS1 I couldn't gve a formula top up in hospital even though I had very little sleep etc. With Ds2 it was that bloody midwife assaulting me.

I suppose I see it from both sides. Breast feeding is very convienient when it goes well, but seems to come along with a snobbery. I've seen women suggest that the world should stop in it's tracks just because they can feed a baby. Some seem to think that every woman with a baby should be sitting down anywhere they fancy and getting their boobs out, and making a show of what they are doing. Others are more down to earth and realise that no matter where the milk is coming from, they are simply feeding a child, end of. It's not a political statement, it's just food. Maybe that's the reason I wasn't more willing to try, I just wanted to feed my baby, not get into politics.

I dunno, random ramblings.

Oh, and I was also told that I was disgusting for feeding Amber in a disabled toilet from another breast feeder. !!!!!! is that about?

Buttonmoons

They have a snack at nursery, as she is in afternoon sessions and they tell you that you are still supposed to of fed your child lunch before you put them there (some parents don't apparently)

That costs £2 a week.

Funnily enough she tried some Pizza yesterday at nursery! They normally get things like yoghurt/toast/fruit/fish fingers. You know, finger foods really.

Thing is though, he probably will start eating the lunch there, it has taken Keira a while to start trying new foods, but then she does get fed before she goes, well does cereal count :rotfl:

Why is he crying, do you know? Has he been there long? How long does he get at nursery btw? Keira gets 2 1/2 hours a day. Considering its a mile walk each way, doesn't give me long to come home and sit on here, I mean erm do dishes.

Keira better each school dinners when she goes to school, she won't eat a sandwich :rotfl: Plus, by the time she starts school, P1 - P3 gets free school dinners regardless of income. It wouldn't be money saving to be buying in packed lunch stuff.

Has Jake tried anymore foods? I've gotten Keira to try spag bol (no mince), spicy chicken goujons, lentil soup and cream cheese on toast.

Making Mac n cheese tonight and she better eat it

I found making sure she is proper hungry helps, cause when we get home from nursery, she goes into the cupboard and starts eating breadsticks or whatever, so by the time dinner is ready she isn't hungry so has no incentive to actually try anything.

So I starve her until OH gets home. No pudding if she doesn't try it, which is just TERRIBLE for her, no ice cream? WAAAAAAAAAH.

And she is sleeping in her own bed tonight, she peed on my leg last night! One side of her pullup rid up a bum cheek so when she peed it came out.

I actually better get a new plastic sheet for her bed, as the cats ripped hers up, OOPS!

Fritha_2

Mazcabs wrote: »

Hi fritha - long time no see :wave:

Hello :-)

Sami_Bee wrote: »

I saw Fritha has posted some photos today of Celia wearing a mini sling with a doll it - cute!

Yup, it was an improvised muslin sling and she was really quite taken with it! I was very proud! Her positioning wasn't perfect, we may have to have a chat about protecting dolly's back and airway, but for a first time... ;-)

tarajayne

Jakesmummy wrote: »

Buttons meant to say kieras school pic is gorgeous! does kiera have dinner at school, jake has started on dinners this week and so far has ate nothing:( i feel so guilty 1- for making him have dinner there, 2- cos its probably my fault he's so fussy.
Oh and he crys when i drop him off now, i hate it, he never cried before, but when they start full time they have to have school dinners theres no option to take packed lunch, which am not pleased about but hey ho.. so he's gonna have to get used to it i suppose, i just feel so bad!

That's so sad, when I was working in school there were little ones like this. I asked the dinner lady to give then the smallest portion possible. That way they weren't overwhelmed at the thought of eating it. Took some time but they got there. Was literaly 4 pieces pasta, 8 peas and a teaspoon of spag bol. ( just an example)

Jakesmummy

Sami_Bee wrote: »

OMG that is awful, do the dinner ladies not make sure he eats something?
Do the school know he isn't eating? at my mum's school they make sure the kids eat something even if its just a piece of the free fruit :undecided

Yea they try and encourage him to at least try a bit but he's so stubborn, i think he's saying he doesnt like things now even if he does, yesterday the dessert was cake, which he likes, but told them he didnt! the thing is though they dont want to push him cos he's already upset! i feel awful, am hoping that he's ate a bit today, it was a roast dinner so he should have cos he eats that here, fingers crossed!!! in fact im sure his tears are only for my sake, he was laughing with his little friends today when they were all washing their hands then he caught sight of me and the bottom lip came out!!!! little monkey!

tarajayne

If they don't eat it you can't force them or it really becomes an issue, and how much of their playtime do you want them to miss. And when they are new that's the most important building block of the day.

SusanC_2

jillie1974 wrote: »

you see, IMO b/feeding ladies do get a lot of support.

They do get support in terms of the medical professionals supporting the idea of them breastfeeding but not necessarily in terms of practical help. So say you are having trouble with Kian taking his bottles, you might mention it to the HV and she might say, "Have you tried the next size up teats?" and then you try that and it works. (I have no idea if that would be right - I'm just making it up.) Whereas say if someone is having a breastfeeding related problem (e.g. baby won't feed - it took Alice 24 hours before she fed or if someone has problems with over or under supply etc.), the medical professionals advising you often don't seem to have any idea of what might be a practical solution and therefore a lot of people give up as a result. So there is lots of "support" - it's just not necessarily the right kind. Does that make sense?

I actually have a friend who's baby ended up in hopsital because she persevered so long with breastfeeding but her baby wasn't latching on and feeding properly which ilustrates how harmful the "breast is best" mantra can be without the right support.