MSE Parents Club Part 10

Sami_Bee

SusanC wrote: »

:grouphug: TBH (although I've never particularly thought about it particularly before) I would never think of asking to feed someone else's child as I would feel it was intrusive to do so. It's different if the parent asks you to (I have a friend who had her first two 13 months apart and I used to go round to help one morning a week and she would ask me to feed the baby) but otherwise I just wouldn't.

Thank you Susan, its just a shame others can't see it too. I find that family are desperate to do it, it's like you have a new toy and they want their turn to play with it *rolls eyes*

MFD - I'm not sure about your hubby concerns, I will say though that you're having a bad day and probably not seeing things clearly because of it. :grouphug: B will be fine to not see you much for one day.
I expect OH will be a bit useless for a good few weeks after the op, my mum had a big hernia op last year and it was about 3 months before she could lift Chris without any pain/discomfort.
to make hubby more comfortable I'd smuggle him tasty foods and make sure he has a photo of the 4 of you and the right amount of pillows etc so he feels cosy and homely

money_maker_3

we have to pay daily for school dinners !! I have changed Jas to acked lunch now though, but that used to annoy me having to find change every morning !!!

jillie1974

Millie's_Mum wrote: »

I've mentioned before that I am on the parent forum for a surestart group, I am fighting at the moment for a feeding group, rather than a BF group, some of the surestart/HV people do not understand why I am adamant it should be a feeding group rather than a BF group.

Would any of you mind if I used some of your comments in my argument? Jillie, particularly what you said about feeling that there is no support.

thats fine. have been thinking that way for a while.

feelinggood wrote: »

Feeding groups - I see no problem with them, but don't think it should encroach on breastfeeding support. There is too little breastfeeding support as it is, and many women (wrongly) feel uncomfortable breastfeeding in front of non breastfeeding women, so it might deter more women from getting advice, which isn't a good thing I don't think. Personally I think we should do more to get people to breastfeed - more information, advice and support. To be honest, I don't understand what help a FF Mum would need - I thought all the instructions were on the tin?

you see, IMO b/feeding ladies do get a lot of support. When I have a question about FF, yes i can ask at the weekly clinic but who do I phone??? my mum b/fed as did my MIL. and i wont pass too many comments on 'instructions are on the tin' remark but i am very hurt by that remark. however i note that you did apologise later. i'm lucky that i can come on here and ask q's but a lot of the time i have to google it myself.

money_maker wrote: »

Morning all

MM I think a feeding support group is a fab idea !!
Feelie, instructions on the tin tell you how to make it up - nothing else !!!! We struggle with what teat to use, what bottle to use, which brand of formula, how the bottles should be stored, what to do if they throw up every bottle, what temp to serve it at, when to change to a different milk, how to ensure they are made up as safely as possible and many many many other issues.
FF mums are not evil, but yet are pretty much just left to their own devices as its just making up a bottle !! If only !! I FF Jasmine, and I picked a milk and she was fine ... I FF Dylan and we have had so many problems you wouldnt believe !! As a 2nd time mum, I am expected to know everything , but how am I supposed to know that when it wasnt an issue with my first !!
I am very lucky and have a fantastic HV who has helped me through a lot of things, but if it wasnt for her, I would have had no one to turn to for all that support

Sorry long winded

MFD ((hugs)) hun, I know what you mean about it being easier f you cant visit though, I did it with Chris when Jas was a baby and I was at work, and you will be more than exhausted at hte end of it and end up sick yourself. Even if they do allow visiting, just go once a day and dont feel you have to stay for the full 2 hours or whatever, your OH will understand

its little things like...
do i need to change bottles after a period of time?
how often should i replace the teats?

there were other posts i wanted to quote but havent a clue how to quote more...

a 'feeding support' group to me is a fab idea!!! it would have helped me enormously when i had to start FF. would have been nice to chat to someone about how i felt with this etc.... by the time i had to change to FF i had been signed off by the MW. so i couldnt ask her and at the clinic i always think everyone is listening to you

I really did open a can of worms this morning. and then i went lol!! meant to post i was off to mum and baby group.

Buttonmoons

See, so it's totally normal to pay upfront then. Why do they look at me like a leper then!!!

They are the sort that don't pay for weeks and have to be chased up for it. I'd be affronted if I was being taken aside and told to pay up £6. I'd die of shame!

Thing is, their kids have all the best named stuff, Next and sports gear (ick) whitest trainers in the world, but they cant pay £2 a week on time.

The mind boggles with peoples prioritys.

jillie1974

lovely photos posted this morning

jillie1974

Sami_Bee wrote: »

this particular meet would have to be on the tuesday as mdw is taking Katie to the lowry theatre to see the Gruffalo

ahh, knew it was to coincide with that but i didnt realise it was a Tues.

Jakesmummy

afternoon everyone,

hope everyones ok??

i did quote some people but its took me too long to post so its already been replied to ect,

ff- i formula fed both my children, with jake tbh it never really occured to me to breastfeed which i suspect is because id never really been around bfeeding, my mum ff all 4 of us, and as far as i know i dont think she tried bf. with jasmine i really wanted to but a combination of things led me to ff. i had a reaction to the spinal anestetic and was being violently sick for the first day and wasnt really able to feed her. I had a couple of trys feeding her when we got home but i was geniunely shocked at how painful it was! i just pulled her straight off, i really wish id tried harder and i felt guilty over it for ages, but at the end of the day both my kids are healthy and happy and hardly ever ill.

in the hospital you get no feeding support if you bottle feed, when i was in hospital with jasmine they kept giving a bottle with a teat on iit that had 3huge holes, sooo not suitable for a newborn, she was choking on the milk it was comin out so fast, and anything she did drink she was bringing back up. I felt my baby was being punished for my choice to bottle feed:(. When asking the midwife about alternitive teats she wasnt interested and said theyd never had anyone complain about it before (yeah right the teat would be better suited to a toddler!)

anyway i think a joint feeding group would be a great idea, i'd be quite upset to think a bf mother would be offended by seeing me bottle feeding my child!

x

anyway hope you all had a good meet yesterday!

x

Sami_Bee

redmel1621 wrote: »

I realisemy post may have been slightly aggressive so have edited to a milder version, seeing as feelie has already apologised and withdrawn... Although I suspect she still 'believes' what she wrote, I will try to say no more about it.

Mfd sorry you are having a down day:(

I'm sorry but I think it's a bit rude to basically call feelie a liar, she apologised for how some read her post (FWIW I read it as she hasn't FF and is therefore is not aware of issues that can need help with that) and has had the FF problems pointed out to her, I see no reason why anyone should think that she doesn't beleive these problems exist now?

feelie - sorry for talking on your behalf here, hope thats ok

SusanC wrote: »

I was impressed too and yes please if you are sure?
...

yes I'm sure, I get given at least 1 scarf every Christmas and never use them. I'll find my big box full and PM you later so you can pick which one you'd like

tarajayne

2 of mine came home with school trip letters yesterday, total £19, bl00dy ridiculous!!!

Sami_Bee

jillie1974 wrote: »

ahh, knew it was to coincide with that but i didnt realise it was a Tues.

oh I thought you'd looked and it was a tues lol crossed wires! 7th April is a wednesday:o