MSE Parents Club Part 10

money_maker_3

tarajayne wrote: »

Friggen dusting is soooo pointless!!! It just comes back.

I know !! Same as putting toys away ..:rotfl:

My_Fathers_Daughter

FWIW I am frequently a little freaked out by BF!!

Most of the time I think it is a wonderful thing and my body is a miracle for producing something that makes my child grow

Other times I think it is freaky, especially as Benjamin gets a bit older and there are no real 'symptoms' of BF for me, that Benjamin just latches on and my body turns on a tap


My niece decided not to BF after she had a dream that her nipples fell off :rotfl::rotfl:no amount of reassurance that BF doesn't leave you nippleless helped!!!

searching_me

on the cheese and jam sandwich ... throw an egg on that and thats one of my bros fav sandwhich _pale_ x

emlou2009

I send a invoice every day til they pay too! I opened a case on someone on day 4 last week cos I sent an invoice every day and they didnt pay, they paid within 3 minutes of the case being opened, willy heads!

Can someone please come and make me some mac and cheese? I only have asda smart price penne though and it doesnt go as delightfully squidgy as macaroni

three2be

Dose anyone know why it is so bad to use a pillow with a NB, please don't stone me but i used a small pillow last night when Aiden wouldn't settle and i desperately needed to pee(literally could not stand upright lol), when i got back he was sound asleep. So i removed the pillow and within a few minutes he was up, put the pillow under him (under his back not just his head) and he fell asleep again, but he woke up a couple of minutes after i took it away again.

He seems to like the position of it won't sleep on his back and turns himself onto his side but wakes after a few minutes but last night he slept for as long as the pillow was under him.

Anyone any ideas how to recreate the effect of the pillow without using one?
Would it be OK to put something under the legs of the cot or the mattress.

Lovely projectile vomit....................... back in 10 min

emlou2009

Aless, how about sleeping him on a wedge? IIRC Angelfairy got one in wilkinsons cheaply. I think its the squidgyness of the pillow, if they turn their heads or manage to roll over they couldnt get themselves out of it?

chopsticks

Just on really quickly and C has just woken up, so am going again but Three2be how about putting the pillow under his sheet?

SusanC_2

I also think your experience of what people around you and your family have done and their sttitudes probably makes a big difference. Aside from the fact that I didn't even realise breastfeeding wasn't the norm, my mum breastfed us (although she did supplement with some of us), my mum was breastfed, OH was breastfed and I've never experienced negativity from anyone about my breastfeeding (not even when breastfeeding a 2 1/2 year old in public). Even my grandad told me (after asking whether I was breastfeeding) that he and my grandma always thought it was best to breastfeed as long as you can.

Sami_Bee

Weezl - I think you should but on your notes that you are not going to/unable to BF and are not willing to discuss this choice during or after labour. What you described you feel day to day sounds like an incredible thing to live with nevermind making it worse by attempting to feed a baby. xxx
FWIW I think you are crazy if you try it again (but I understand why you might and I think you are a much better person than I for it )
I like to think I can provide a balanced view esp as I have had 2 children in different ways Chris was un planned, hospital birthed, cord clamped/cut quickly, managed 3rd stage, 'unsucseffully' BF for less than 2 weeks then FF and 'early' weaned.
Edgar was planned, homebirthed, delayed clamping/cutting, physiological 3rd stage, BF exclusively for over 6mths and still not really weaned and occasionally worn. Phew!

I think mfd put it quite well earlier about an inclusive group.
Although I don't' think there is a purpose for it in my area as the HV support is very good, I had no problems getting help with FFing at weekly clinic plus we have a new parent course thing that covered it and FF feeding is also covered during the ante-natal parent craft group (I'm not sure what happened as I didn't go to that class as it was all about HVs FFing and carseats all of which I felt confident I wouldn't benefit from having 'done it all before')

Susan - did Alice plait her own hair? if so I am amazed at her skill!!
have you considered making her a sling for her 'babies'
/ I saw Fritha has posted some photos today of Celia wearing a mini sling with a doll it - cute!

SusanC wrote: »

And going back to breastfeeding, I do sometimes worry about whether I will be able to go through that initial pain barrier again with future babies.

if it helps any, I found it much easier 2nd time around because I knew it was coming. Also I'm guessing that you won't be as sensitive to it now and you have more experience to spot and rectify any poor latch etc issues

jillie1974 wrote: »

going to Lowry is fine with me...but Tuesdays are 'Senior Day' so be prepared for lots of tuts at noisy babies or them all trying to poke, hold and smile at babies...
maybe another day???

this particular meet would have to be on the tuesday as mdw is taking Katie to the lowry theatre to see the Gruffalo

Mazcabs wrote: »

... Sami how Chris is with you as you BF Edgar. It totally changed how Henry was with me and I couldnt cope with that - going from doing loads for him to him crying when I even tried to change his nappy as he didnt want me... All changed when I started FF!!!

He played up a bit at first but was soon used to it, he preferred OH for a bit but has always kept his need for mummy when he's bumped :A
He sometimes pushes things when I'm mid feed because he knows I'm less likely to take Ed off at that point *tut* sometimes he says "oh don't feed Edgar now" but I have managed to find a position where I can feed Ed and have Chris cuddled up with me too (I didn't get it for a good few months though, the earlier times were hard and occasionally had all 3 of us in tears)

Sami_Bee

weezl74 wrote: »

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MIL said: Oh well since he's not BF I can do the bottles this weekend

I dumbly nodded and then watched her hold the bottle with the airflow hole in the wrong place every feed and then get painful trapped wind.

I also ended up making guests cups of tea and chocolate brownies while they bottle fed fergus. Whilst desperately wanting it to be the other way round but feeling I couldn't justify it.

this made me cry I know exactly what you were feeling! I would go and cry in the toilet because I was so worn down that I couldn't even manage to voice my need to feed my own child.
I think you need to discuss this with OH so he can be strong for you and let everyone know that they won't be allowed to feed K for a few weeks/months. I made the decision that if I didn't BF Ed I would give him all but 1 feed per day, OH would get the 'other' one and no one else could feed him for at least a month when I'd re asses and decide if anyone else could do a feed.
I hope that helps you xxx