Trying for a Baby part 5....

Primmer

Dusty - sounds like you are in for a great valentines weekend!
I have dropped lots of hints that it would be nice to do something together over the weekend but don't think he had planned anything. I gave bought a valentines meal from marks, bottle of bubbly and some chocolates so even if we stay in it will be romantic x

dustystar02

Primmer wrote: »

Dusty - sounds like you are in for a great valentines weekend!
I have dropped lots of hints that it would be nice to do something together over the weekend but don't think he had planned anything. I gave bought a valentines meal from marks, bottle of bubbly and some chocolates so even if we stay in it will be romantic x

We did that last year. We had just decorated the bedroom the weekend before Val day so we got the M&S meal deal, cooked it and ate it in bed with a movie on our new tele! Was lovely. We don;t normally do anything for Val Day, the novelty of it soon wear off doesn't it?
The only reason we're going this weekend is cos it was only £90 per couple and my Dad had given us £100 for xmas to do something special so it hasn't cost us anything!
Romantic nights in are lovely, we will prob be doing exactly the same thing as you anyway, meal then night in the room with a film . However I'm trying to convince him that we should go out round the bars (especially in my new outfit!). Hope you have a lovely night....xx

lolly1981

hello all....congrats on the BFP gfh....happy and healthy next 8 months for you

i feel a little down hearted today...i hadnt been on here since yesterday morning and it seems over night everyone appears to be very unhappy!

I have only been on here a few weeks so i guess i would be classed as a newbie...ive only been seriously TTC in the last month or 2 but before that it was unprotected BDing waiting to see what would happen and whether mother nature would be kind.
I too have found the encouragement and wealth of knowledge invaluable...i didnt know about evap lines, EWCM, basal temp, FF, SS etc etc
i feel like afraud being here as i already have 2 sons and have only been TTC a relativly short time, and thankfully never suffered the heartbreak of a MC, but what i do know is i still worry constantly about whether my body is doing what it should, and ppl in RL dont really understand as most see it as i should just be happy with my lot, which of course i am but that doesnt stop the yearning!

so i am thankul for a thread like this...it is one of the first i found that isnt !!!!!y or overly cliquey as some are...i have found it pleasant, lighthearted occasionly but serious and encouraging when needed

tinkwings

So DH & I Have done lots of rowing & being upset & angry but have finally decided that after everything (the MMC etc) we do want a baby and as I have no idea where I am in my cycle and my last period was back in November before i got caught that we are just going to BD just to fun until things sort themselves out one way or the other.

I know that TTC is very stressful & I for one lost sight of the fact that if a baby is made or not you still have to be a couple and be there for eacthother because if the magic happens and you do get some baby dust then you will need eachother more than ever. xoxo :A

ladylegs

“Remember, this is an open forum! Anyone can post so always exercise caution when acting on info” :money:

This appears right at the top of the forum page and may need to be acknowledged by some users again. This isn’t a club for regulars but a supportive platform for anyone planning to conceive a baby whether it is your 1st or 21st child. No-one should feel guilty for being here wanting support or asking yet another "silly question".

The nature of the thread is such that it has to evolve as new members join and older ones move on having (we hope) successfully conceived. Or sometimes users just don't need to be here for a whole host of reasons. Which is ALL FINE!

Change is inevitable and if it is difficult to accept on a thread within a forum, then I expect adapting to parenthood will have you dumbfounded and weeping in a corner.

Exercising caution prior to posting is especially pertinent advice for this thread as naughty hormones rage and may make us provocative, sulky and prone to lashing out once in a while. <<<seeks bunny boiler smilie>>> And contrary to what you may think, disclaimers such as “I don’t wish to upset anyone but”...*are* likely to upset someone so I urge people to really think about the content of their posts.

As Maddie stated, unfortunately this sort of malaise rears its ugly head intermittently on here but soon passes. So as Sammy and Tigtag rightly suggested, let’s draw a pink line under this and move on. (Can you see the line, girls? Try and angle it some more;))

On a personal note, I just wanted to say, no, I don’t want to leave just yet as the majority of forum members are very accepting to new folk or at least have the courtesy to back off when the thread does appear to be’ taken over’ by newbies and there is always the option of simply scanning past posters one doesn’t wish to read or pm-ing an errant ttc friend.

As a compromise, I will post much less from now on, since the novelty of joining an online community has since worn off. So sorry if I posted far too much. I’m an all-or-nothing kind of girl I suppose.

Thankyou for your really supportive words, Dusty and Sammy.:A It cheered me up to know that I’m welcome on here – I read your messages not long after a trauma with OH and they lifted my spirits...which is exactly why I love it on here and it’s significance to so many should not be underestimated.

GROUP HUGS X.XX

Primmer

Tinks - what a lovely post, it is easy to lose sight of each other in all the stress of ttc and it is a time when you need support from each other. Great to hear that you are putting some fun back in to it x

Metranil_Vavin

Hear Hear ladylegs :T

Perdi

I've been feeling a bit like the first day of school, where everyone knows each other and you feel completely out of place. But I have rather traumatic experiences of school and have terrible social anxiety so that may be my nueroses.

So this is me perservering as I am completely clueless about everything TTC and what follows, not got much support close by, and am also very mse so want all the help I can get if it pans out! <<positive thinking

Hi gizmodo, wanted to say hello especially, as we have something in common :oBeen a long road to get here!

On a lighter note, making dinner on Weds OH came in and said 'Just checking, but I'm assuming it's dinner then DTD tonight?' So I said 'Yes, and not to take the romance out of it even further but we're DTD on Friday as well!' He puts a little heart in his iphone app everytime we DTD, and it has a flower on the day I am supposed to OV :rotfl:

retro_bluebell

*Retro stick head round the door*...oh my is it safe to come in?

Havent been around recently as to be honest Im trying to steer myself away from the whole TTc thing- we are still TTC but Im trying desperately to have a relaxed attitude to it all... I was getting a bit like a crazy lady to be honest and I totally lost sight of the bigger picture- I have a lovely family already and if Im blessed (Im not religious but couldnt think of a better word) with another then I will be so happy but Im trying not to let it dominate my life now......Im really hoping Im not seen as part of the clique as Im the most uncliquey person there is....anyway Im still here lurking but have nothing to post at present but Im keeping my fingers and toes crossed for you all xx

*retro slinks back to the cupboard under the stairs*

Sammy_Girl

Hello ladies,

just a quickie cos I'm walking my dog and can't multiquote on my phone! Nice to see you back lady lgs, welcome newbies, big hugs to those going through a low pma patch.

Think I've upset DH cos I want to STD before he goes to work this afternoon. I'm due to ov tomorrow and really want to dtd today! Ok we'll see. Catch you later x