The giving up/cutting down alcohol thread part VI

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sneaking in with a quiet 16

Lurkio

Different_Corner wrote: »

When I'm down the alchohol pushes me further down. It's not good.

Spot on.

Again (to bore everyone) - similar to cigarettes. People smoke because they have an anxiety, little realising that the previous cigarette actually CAUSES the anxiety in the first place, so they are in the spiral

Drinking pushes people down. What do they do when they are down? drink. Into the spiral.......

I think they key is realising this and fighting against it. Know your enemy.


Not exactly a jolly post for a Friday... sorry about that

I'll get me coat......

honeybear_2

Morning all

Thank you for your birthday wishes

Mr HB has a rotten cold

And Bear Towers gift to me is that the cold tap in the kitchen isn't working properly :mad:

Icandothis_2

Different_Corner wrote: »

When I'm down the alchohol pushes me further down. It's not good. I know it's only a couple but it stills sends alarm bells of dependency to me.
Things really have to change.

I agree completely. I have a few family problems at the moment and my reaction is to reach for a glass of wine (or a few glasses ) to help me "cope". the reality is that it makes me less able to deal with things and it doesn't even numb things anymore. My capacity for alcohol is WAY higher than it used to be; I very rarely get drunk but I do get weepy, panicky and very low. As DC says "things really have to change"
As a baby step towards that change, Shaggy I have managed another MAD day for a total of 11.
I haven't had an AF weekend (Fri - Sun) day for a very long time (I can't remember when it would have been) SO I'm aiming to be AF on one day this weekend. I'll let you all know how I get on next Monday.
Happy birthday HB and hello to everyone :wave:. Have a good weekend.
ICDT

maman

Morning all.

9AF for me please Shaggy.

:T:T:T on your Debt Free status. You are having a good month all round. Also, a big thank you for your March MADness.

I've got quite a social weekend coming up but will hit my target on Tuesday or Wednesday.

Have a good Friday everyone.

Lurkio

honeybear wrote: »

Morning all

Thank you for your birthday wishes

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Happy brithday, HB



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lil superstar :kisses3:

paybacktime2008

Happy Birthday Bear:j

graemecarter

Different_Corner wrote: »

Morning
I've lapsed and fallen in to a couple a night habit since Monday. It's so easy. Made it to 15 AF so far.
What I don't like is the instant effect and change in my feelings and actions it has on me. Particularly as it's been just me and the children this week. I've had no driving duties, both of them have been in - due to weather - so I've slipped. I've been falling asleep halfway through Masterchef or whatever at 9pm. Admittedly already snuggled up in bed.

Got a bit of a social weekend coming up. But I really only want to drink socially. Not at home. Hmmm, that sounds like I'm justifying it....

When I'm down the alchohol pushes me further down. It's not good. I know it's only a couple but it stills sends alarm bells of dependency to me.
Things really have to change.

Very honest post. Thank-you
Sometimes I think how easy it is to drink and how difficult it can be to not drink. That's how I know I am alcoholic. Why I was so drawn to alcohol, even though it had so many negative implications.
Why did I do something that made things so bad? Other areas of my life I was so rational and sensible, yet with alcohol it was crazy. That's my alcoholism.

I felt things had to change for many years (and they did have to change!!). However, they only changed when I became willing to do anything.
That meant stopping drinking altogether and getting help.
It was the best thing I have ever done. While not everything in my life has changed, my perception has changed about everything.

I realised that only I could change - I cannot change other people, places or things.

115K

I can't remember if I already said this but Happy Birthday HB.

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honeybear_2

:j Yay to all the cake!:D

honeybear wrote: »

And Bear Towers gift to me is that the cold tap in the kitchen isn't working properly :mad:

The water problem is due to a burst main at the Olympic site affecting East London - phew!