The giving up/cutting down alcohol thread part VI

mollypolly

Lilith1980 wrote: »

Thanks for the support guys, appreciate it

Doesn't help that hubby actually thinks I lied about what the doctor said to me

But his drinking levels are serious so maybe he's reacting that way cos he knows he needs to sort himself out too. Anyway, I can only work on myself so I will carry on.

Hi Lilith.
As you say your DH sounds as if he has a bad relationship with Alcohol and needs to sort it out.He probably knows this but is burying his head in the sand and thinks if he denies your drinking problem his will go away too.

But you must look after yourself.Dont let other people persuade you to drink if you dont want to.Be strong and let your liver repair itself.

Good luck on your cutting down/giving up journey.

Take care of YOU
Love Mollypollyxxxx

mollypolly

Lurkio wrote: »

Right! That's it! I'm changing....... I'm Aries too

Oh No You Arn't:rotfl:

Lurkio

mollypolly wrote: »

Oh No You Arn't:rotfl:

everyone else is... I want in

mollypolly

Lurkio wrote: »

everyone else is... I want in

Oh go on then...just this once....but you can't always have everything you want you know;)


It is odd though how many of us are Aries:cool:

Mollsxx

paybacktime2008

Lilith1980 wrote: »

I remember reading that book when I was 19, but I think I was too young to really appreciate it. Maybe I should give it another go.

Now that I am being more careful I'm starting to see the possible reasons for my excessive drinking.

Hubby and I are going through a sh*te time, not sure if we're going to get through it and this afternoon at work I was sat there nearly in tears just really feeling the need to drink to numb it all out. But I now know it's much better to feel what's going on and much healthier to cry than sink a few bottles

Hugs hun.

I read it in the 'denial' years...where I was looking for some reason for feeling low and pants. Now I know downing so much booze was probably the root cause of my 'downess' Boy I could of saved a fortune on counselling!

Re reading it now...it all makes more sense.

I feel you are going to have a bit of a roller coaster ride but in the end it's YOUR life and you'll make the right decisions. good luck.

So_Sad_Angel

Hiya Lili....<<<hugs >>> Hun....

I can only speak from my own experience but I so identified when you said that you would normally have forced the half a glass down even though you did`nt want it....because you decided to tip it away instead tells me that you are taking control of your relationship with the drink instead of it controlling you.....that should make you feel empowered...well done.

Keep talking & getting your thoughts on here.....it really helps to share those innermost feelings & that sort of `gets them out there` so that you can start to deal with them.

This may be a public forum but in a way its very private...sharing with folks that understand how excess drinking can overtake lives will give you the confidence you need.

Angiexx ( sorry I can waffle for England)

So_Sad_Angel

paybacktime2008 wrote: »

Now I know downing so much booze was probably the root cause of my 'downess' Boy I could of saved a fortune on counselling!

I feel you are going to have a bit of a roller coaster ride but in the end it's YOUR life and you'll make the right decisions. good luck.

How true PBT....my frame of mind has also significantly improved since I became AF & thats down solely to the drink.

So_Sad_Angel

Hi Folks.....been hit & miss posting on here lately but I`m still doing fine.Nearly 7 months now!!

12 days AF for March please.

I no longer think about drinking in the evening or any time. I never notice it in the supermarkets either as I have taught myself that its just `off limits` for me & thats that.

I am noticing that I can freely talk to people (in the real world) about the drink now. Also I have been pleasantly surprised by how I am now happy to admit that I was drinking too much before I stopped.....back then I would have denied a drink just so that people though I did`nt drink much....then I`d go home & drink a whole bottle.:eek::eek: ....funny thing denial....& very scary:eek:

Have a good weekend everyone,

Angiexx

DecemberBaby_2

I think I have that book tucked away in a drawer. Borrowed from someone many years ago and never gave it back or read it
Might dig it out and give it a try.

Well done for chucking that wine away Lilith. Sorry to hear what you are going through but you are right. Numbing the feelings with alcohol doesn't help. It seems to at the time but it doesn't. I've been there often.

I'm AF tonight and waiting for teens to come home. Always anxious at this time of night but better to be anxious than anxious and drunk!

Lots of lovely supportive posts tonight.

DB x

DecemberBaby_2

So_Sad_Angel wrote: »

Hi Folks.....been hit & miss posting on here lately but I`m still doing fine.Nearly 7 months now!!

12 days AF for March please.

I no longer think about drinking in the evening or any time. I never notice it in the supermarkets either as I have taught myself that its just `off limits` for me & thats that.

I am noticing that I can freely talk to people (in the real world) about the drink now. Also I have been pleasantly surprised by how I am now happy to admit that I was drinking too much before I stopped.....back then I would have denied a drink just so that people though I did`nt drink much....then I`d go home & drink a whole bottle.:eek::eek: ....funny thing denial....& very scary:eek:

Have a good weekend everyone,

Angiexx

Great stuff - I'd love to be like you in 7 months! I so identify with not drinking out then going home and downing a bottle.

PBT - you too. Very inspiring to know that your frame of mind has improved so much since stopping. I guess a lot of us think we drink
to help with the "downness" then find the "downness" is caused by the
drink.

DB