elantan's diary

elantan

thanks seaxwyn it is a hard one ...i cant even get hubby to do ebay yet i doubt i could get him to re-train ...but i will deff be putting that to him cause he is gonna have to do it ...even if we made money from renting out the downstairs he still needs to work and he is right he cant go on doing what he is doing ...hey it makes a nice change from worrying about my son though lol ...



ok debt wise i will be debt free by the end of this year i will be even if it kills me ..i have decided to go for it

The_Dragon

Elantan, you will need to look into this carefully because you are changing your house from a single dwelling into two, also if you do go through this then DO charge your son a proper rent, you are doing him no favours by letting him live rent free

Gemmzie

I agree with Dragon. Uni is a great learning curve and even if he's at home he'll get a substantial (well I think it is anyway) loan. Even if you are taking it from him as rent and saving it back for him - don't let him live rent free.

hypno06

Hi El! What a lot of thinking you two have been doing!! I think it is something to think of for the longer term - save up, don't rush into it. Take the time as you mention to get OH to give up (if he can) his "luxuries/essentials" whichever way he sees them and to think about the alternatives.

Also, get a builder or two in to give you a rough idea how much it would cost, then double it for a more realistic figure, and start saving - if you do the work you will have money towards it, and if you don't do the work, you will have money for a rainy day etc etc.

BTW, good to see the diary made a re-appearance!!

elantan

hey everyone thanks for the ideas etc sorry i havnt been around been night shift and back shift...explained to hubby my plan and he seemed to see where i was coming from but still wants to do it ...when i mentioned re-training for another job again he said to me ...hunny youve ben doing that for years you have qualifications and look were it's gotten you so far ..point taken i spose

hypno06

Ah yes....but think of where it WILL take you.....

Seaxwyn

HI Elantan. It's a shame he has that attitude. I know it's not easy to get jobs, but I wonder if there is somewhere he could get some career advice. As you say, he can't carry on in his present job til he's 65. He must have lots of transferrable skills.

elantan

i know it is gonna take me places (fingers and toes crossed) hubby though is just so short sighted about some things

hypno06

I have an OH just like that too.....

Perhaps we could bang their heads together, and see if it makes any difference

elantan

yep i'll go for trying that one see if it works lol