elantan's diary

hypno06

ZTD wrote: »

Sorry to hear you're having a bad time Gorgeous. It's probably best that you brought someone external in, it "opens out" a pressurised situation.

The OH's mother sounds a bit of a troll. Shame you can't just click the little red triangle to get rid of her...

What he said xxxxx

Seaxwyn

Hi elantan, I've just caught up with your diary and I'm so sorry to read of all the hassles you're having.

It sounds like the right decision to get someone outside the family to deal with your son - well done for that.

Worrying about your OH's blood pressure, really hope that goes down now he's not dealing directly with your son and too right, tell that unsympathetic MiL to back off.

The most important thing is for you and your OH to feel OK in yourselves without other people piling on the stress.

i'll be thinking of you tomorrow, hope the funeral goes as well as these things can. I'll miss you for a housework challenge too.

System

Thinking of you elan and your family. Hugs. Lenny xx

elantan

cheers seaxwyn and lenny to be honest i would rather be doing the house work challenge and not because of the funeral but because i felt i achieved so much last week and i actually enjoyed it ...i mean i enjoyed house work phew there is a first for everything lol...

lenny i havnt forgotten those recipes honest have mentioned it to hubby but he's been kinda busy ...will get him to do it over the weekend if i can ...hope everyone is ok


do you know its amazing but hubby and i have had issues now for a while (drinking etc long story dont really want to go into it ) but since the son moved out with the exception of one incident we have have never got on better we have this sparkle that has been missing and its only when things with son happen that we get stressed and the best thing is we both agree on the course of action he backs me fully and i him ...in a weird way it actually feels the best to be at one again and mutually supporting the love of my life ...ok im sad i know

Snaggles

You're not sad, that's what everyone wants isn't it?

Sorry to hear you have been under more strain, and I hope you and your hubby both start to feel better soon. There does come a point when you have tried your best and you can do no more, and it sounds as though you have reached that point with your son now. I think what you have done (getting a neutral 3rd party involved) is very brave, and I really hope it helps.

These things have a habit of working themselves out in the end, some of the nicest adults I know describe childhoods full of all sorts of ups and downs, driving their parents mad etc.....but we all grow up eventually, and it's sometimes only then that we see how much pain we've caused to those that love us.

And er....then we have kids or our own and the cycle begins again....lol!

hypno06

Morning El, I hope that today is ok for you xx

elantan

thanks hypno and snaggs ...so much for not doing a challenge today i've landed up doing plenty ironing washing (all getting ready for the funeral) popping out to shops (flowers) now i'm getting ready as we have to go soon ...snaggs you might have it right i might just seem as if i am too happy at the moment (apart from th funeral obviously)

ZTD

elantan wrote: »

i'm wishing i could click my heels together three times and she'll disapear lol

Perhaps you've got to get her to wrinkle her nose. Or sneeze like Mrs Popov...

elantan wrote: »

..hows you sexy not seen you in ages ...

Not fantastic - but these things are sent to try us...

In_Search_Of_Me

oh dear sorry to hear that things have been so tough renetly...hope they sort out soon for you! Big hugs.

itsarichmansworld

Morning El

Seems your having a rough time!!

Hope your ok sweetie x