OS Diary Archive July 06

chickadee

Hi everyone, I've not been around for a while, just bobbing in now and then. Its good to see some of the old faces still here and some new ones too.

Moggins - It is so difficult when families come together as there will inevitably be differences. It may be hard for him too you know. After all, you were doing a very good job before he came along so he may feel a bit 'surplus to requirements' if you know what I mean. I don't have any solutions I'm afraid and I know how hard it can be. My OH isn't DS's dad and DS sometimes tries to play us off against each other. On the other hand, OH's son comes to stay with us every other weekend and then the shoe is on the other foot. I don't know whether to tell him off, etc. Also he really winds me up by tutting at me (and saying things like 'My mummy says you are a bad lady') or refusing food I know he has happily eaten before and has been bought especially for him or completely ignoring me. But he's only seven so I just make allowances and get on with it. It is also infuriating when OH's parents come to stay in my house and spend the first hour establishing how OH's Ex-GF is. We have been together now for longer than they were and sometimes I feel like a second-class citizen. But I tell myself they don't mean any harm and don't know any better but I seethe quietly inside.
None of these issues actually affect anyone else though and I'm not sure how I would react if I could see my child unhappy as a result. Would they be happier with only one parent though? Only you can make the decision, it is tough! Could you try counselling?

I am now starting my new life as a SAHM. DS is at school for the next three weeks and until then I an as free as a bird. I have been to the gym, been running, done some gardening and the time has come unfortunately when I have to start cleaning and tidying the house. I have a huge pile of clean laundry to sort through and iron/put away. It has been wonderful having my first few days off being so warm and sunny. I'm off to Wales on Friday morning to stay with OH, who is working there at the moment.

Its great to have the time to make proper food for myself and DS, instead of quick and easy rubbish. Am off to check out the elastic chicken recipes as I roasted a chicken and have quite a lot of meat left to use up.

Have alovely day everyone, enjoy the sunshine if you still have it and (((hugs))) to those in need of one.

chickadee
x

Lillibet_2

Moggins, without knowing anything more about your relationship & how your OH would react, I think you should consider showing him your post. It very succintely puts your perspective (sp?) on the situation & should at the very least open up a discussion about how both of you can proceed. Whatever you end up doing, my thoughts are with you. Good luck;)

manicdays

(((moggins))) hope you are ok my love

Lillibet, fab news about the job!

I found my passport, have been to the post office & did that check & send thing. Cost £58 in total but was worth paying for check & and cos she made sure the pics were the right size & also pointed out that I hadn't dated the form. DH is taking me to Munich in August!

Lisa x

summerday

Afternoon all,

At work so not much OSing going on! Moggins hugs to you I really feel for you, maybe Aussielass's suggestion would help about looking at parenting books together. I think that Jo Frost Supernanny from the telly does a magazine, that might feel a bit less formal? Try not to make a hasty decision you regret but he def needs to understand how much this upsets you and your kids.

Great news for both Lillibet and Pooky, I'm so pleased for you both.

Hope everyone else is enjoying their day. I won't have much chance to do any housework as I'm working this evening as well.

Teresita_2

Hi there folks

(((((HUGS))))) to Moggins - Parenting is not only the most rewarding thing in the world its also the hardest.

Well it's been raining here all morning seems to be drying up now but still really dull. Have resorted to letting DS1 watch teletubbies to be quiet, don't know what has got into him but wish it would leave soon. I really should ahve called him Damien.

Did all my ironing yesterday all 5hours of it. Now have nother 2 loads to do in the wm. Have tidied round upstairs but downstairs looks like tornado alley as DS1 thinks its funny to throw all his toys around the place. There is no hope for me to have a tidy house in the near future.

On a better note we are off to Pontins on monday on a freebie (well was till upgraded the apartment) Its a treat for me and OH as we have just got together again after a 2 month split. Something I have to say was the best thing we ever did even though DS2 was only 7 weeks old :rolleyes: . We are are actually getting on better than ever. The am home 2 days and off on a girly hokiday to Haggerstone Castle Haven Park. There are 4 adults, 4 under 2's and a 9 year old. Are we nuts????

Am also due back to work in september and can't face going back to the school I work at so busy sending in applications as there is just no way we can survive on only OH wage. Pity as would love to stay home and be a SAHM.


Breakfast: Teacakes and coffee
Lunch: Leftovers in fridge
Dinner: Chicken curry or leftovers again

I Still have so much stuff from the BBQ

Well off to say what else little satan has destroyed.

T


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nicki_2

Moggins - (((((((()))))))) Sounds like a similar situation to what's here. I'm fairly lenient with DD but use time-outs quite alot :rolleyes: Most of the time it works but OH has a tendancy to "kick off" for the smallest thing. He shouts at her which usually results in tears and her getting sent to her room by him. Usually, once DD is out of the way or is out of earshot I quietly say to OH "You're doing it again. Calm down, remember she's only 5" and things improve at least for a time. What I have noticed is he hardly tells her off when we're in public, and only tells her off without punishment (other than the occasional "now stay here and...") when we're around family.

Whereas I will warn her twice, then raise my voice, without shouting, and say "right, time out" - she goes in time out and usually starts blubbering which gets a "The longer you cry the longer you stay there"..result, one quiet contemplating 5-year-old After every timeout I just call her over to me, ask what she did wrong, wait/ask for an apology, hug, kiss, "love you but don't do it again". It doesn't always work, and there is usually repeated offences of minor things like using the TV remote when she's been told not to :rolleyes: but time outs are getting fewer. Not had to resort to time-outs while in public yet, usually a "Come here" and then "do you want to go to/have..." whispered in her ear when she's having a tantrum/being naughty is enough to change the situation around.

I just try to remember we've been brought up in 2 totally different ways/situations so we have to find a middle ground some how. So far it's working, but is much easier when OH isn't stressed about work (or lately the world cup :rolleyes: ) and I'm not stressed out due to hormones :rotfl:

Just realised I'm rambling again so I hope you manage to work things out and I'll be off now :wave:

Aril

Hi everyone!
Hugs to everyone who needs them.
Have done a dark wash today and hoovered through but not much OS happening today as am at work. OH is looking after the small person as he's got a tummy bug and seems to be attached to the loo by piece of elastic at the mo...continuously pinging up and down the stairs poor little chap. I measure how poorly he really is by how quiet he is and how still he is. He'd obviously got up during the night and I found him conked out on his bean bag this morning with all the lights still on...he'd obviously not made it back into his bed bless him.
Shall need to dust down my ancient bike tonight [it's 23 years old] and try and find some lights as I'm cycling out to a pub and having a meal with some of the people I used to do PTA with tomorrow.
No major plans for when I get home although I'm sure my mending pile is breeding....everytime I look at it it's increased...aah perhaps that's the problem...all I do is look at it!! Tea will be tortilla wraps with smoked salmon and creme fraiche filling. Still haven't made the weetabix cake...perhaps this weekend.
TTFN
Aril

comping_cat

Good afternoon everyone,

Moggins - i agree with everything that has already been said, cant really add much more, but hope you can work it all out. x

Lillibet - wonderful news re the redundancy, just at the right time for you!!!!

Pooky - and wonderful news re OHs job!!!

Well, ive done lots of sorting out, but still havnt managed to get my accounts started , ive got about 10 minutes now, before the little ones get up, but think i may leave it now until later as ive been ignoring the pull of MSE all morning, and think i might treat myself to that last 10 mins!!!!

Take care, hope everyone has a good afternoon xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Kazonline

Hi again all.
Not read the entire thread thoroughly - boy does it get long! Just popping in to say a few bits

Moggins - did you just have a strange sensation? It was me sending you a huge virtual hug.
For what it's worth I think you've got the right approach, and he is bang out of order. It sounds as though you've been bringing up beautifull children and the only thing that is souring that at the moment is his attitude. I hope the two of you can work it out - I know my little one misses his dad, but then things were so bad between us I also know that for the most part he is far happier now that we're on our own. However, until my ex decided to move back to his parents (some 100+ miles away) things were still stressfull due to contact etc. If ever you want to, do feel free to pm me. x

Catowen - I found my mung beans in Julain Graves at a designer outlet (bridgend) They also had the 'jars' there for just under £4. As I don't have any old tights I figured it would probably be just as cheap for me to buy the jar...

Lillibet - really pleased that it turned out so well for you.

Catch up later (I hope)
Kaz x

skystar

Afternoon everyone

:grouphug: to those that need it. Especially Moggins. I hope you find a resolution. Remember tho' that every couple have disagreements/different points of view/arguments. A lot of time I forget this and think me and hubby are the only people who argue.

It is absolutely boiling here today. A small breeze has just started that is finally cooling me down a bit.

Haven't been feeling too good this week. Lightheaded/sickly/sore head.....think it might be the muggy weather or a small bug as a few other girls at work been feeling the same.

Finished work yesterday until Monday :j :j :j
Then finish next Wednesday for two and a half weeks :j :j :j :j :j

Been to Morrisons this morning for the weekly shop. Just got the bare minimum due to us going on our hols next week. Just going to eat whats left in the freezers and cupboards.

One of my closest friends had a baby girl on Tuesday morning. So today I went to Next and got some really cute little outfits. Hoping to go and see her tonight but will see how she is first.

Went to a newly refurbished Brewers Fayre today (coz I had a voucher . WOW!!! What a transformation. Lovely wooden floors, leather seated booths, big suede covered sofas. I could have stayed there all day!

Loads to do in house but its too blooming hot so it will have to wait.

Take care folks