unbiased opinions plz

kegg_2

He cheated on you. Dump him.

newcastlebelle

has changed home number once and mobile twice, but she still gets them as he speaks to his daughter every day

he told me

Caroline73_2

He only told you because he knew you would find out anyway.

Why do you want to be with a man who has so little respect or love for you that he sleeps with someone else?

floss2

newcastlebelle wrote: »

has changed home number once and mobile twice, but she still gets them as he speaks to his daughter every day

OK, he needs to ask her to stop. Or ask his mobile provider to block the number.

he told me

Better that you heard it from him than from her.

You need to have some serious talks with your OH - has he told you EVERYTHING? Only you can decide what you do, but you both need to agree a plan of action re the ex-wife and stick to it.

rocketdog_2

Trust him - are you mad?! What he did with you he has now done to you and you seem surprised! I think this is time for you to move on, be on your own and work out what you need. You can count that he's cheated twice - with you and against you, how can you be so sure it won't happen again....till you're the one moving out. BTW - he didn't waste much time sleeping with his wife since you moved in did he?

thorsoak

In my opinion, this will go no-where. Get out now before you expend any more emotion/time on a weak man.

mumslave

He is with you. He cheated with another woman, doesnt matter the history. No way would I trust him. How did it all come about exactly? His wife just happened to pop along to his hotel room and proposition him? Keep your dignity, tell him to clear off and find someone worthy of you.

Lotus-eater

LOL

Always makes me laugh on forums how quickly everyone tells the OP to "LEAVE NOW!"

When they nothing about the people in reality. Most of them don't even bother to read the posts properly.
Why don't you just put it in your sig. Leave now, he's a man, he will only hurt you.

mumslave

It always makes me laugh on forums how many ladies AND men stay with partners whom clearly have no respect for them. Different if you have kids or other commitments, but if not, run for the hills and dont look back.

If it was a bloke posting that his gf had slept with her ex husband, the advice I give would be the same. How weird of you to assume its always the man whom would hurt someone.

Errata

It seems to me that as you've only know this man for less than a year, you probably don't know him that well yet. Until you do, you will have difficulty in understanding what drives his behaviour and how he will behave in the future.

As a first step, I would suggest you get yourself checked out for STD's, and tell him you are doing so and why. His response to that may give you a little more insight into his character.