How do I persuade DS(age 10) that TV isn't a participation activity ?

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nearlyrich wrote: »

Surely talking to and with your children is just as important as watching the TV program? Why not record it so you can watch it when he is not around?

We do, with things he won't have any interest in, but these are programmes HE wants to see


And seeing as bedtime is now 8:30 (9 at weekends), there aren't enough hours to watch it after he's gone to bed, cos we like reading etc too.

Anyway, Watching interesting TV programmes is a valid family activity. He gets loads of attention at other times.

We don't watch a lot of telly anyway.

Pepzofio

Haha! I still get accused of doing this and I'm nearly 30! My grandmother was notorious for it, and my 3 1/2 year old is also a pro, so maybe it's genetic...

Not particularly moneysaving, but I've found that in these situations, Sky+ is your friend! I just pause the programme, discuss whatever it is my son wants to ask, then tell him that we need to be quiet to watch it. Works to an extent, although it does take twice as long to watch things...

If things get really bad I just switch the telly off and do something else with him.

ETA: Oops! Cross posted with several others!! My typing must be super slow today...

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amandada wrote: »

That would be why my children don't have TVs in their bedrooms!
Being with the children and watching a programme shouldn't have to be mutually exclusive

Quite.

DS doesn't have a TV in his bedroom, and won't for a while yet, if I continue to have my way.


TV is a very educational resource. I like us to watch some of these programmes together, so it gives us things to talk about at other times (like over dinner, which we eat together around the dining table, not in front of a telly).

jennihen

My youngest is like this - always asking questions so you miss the next bit of the plot while explaining the bit just gone by!! Also she's fascinated to know if 'this is live' - even I go round in circles trying to explain 'yes. but it was shown earlier and this is a repeat!!'
Drives me nuts so we turn it off!!!

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Blackpool_Saver wrote: »

Is this your first child?

This is my ONLY child !!

bank_of_slate

Our son (age 12) is exactly the same, will chip in with questions, comments, sound effects and if something bad happens it's usually "I'd just....." and then come up with some revenge (usually comprising of bombs, AK47s, Bin Laden etc....:rolleyes:)
...Linda xx

aliasojo

bank_of_slate wrote: »

Our son (age 12) is exactly the same, will chip in with questions, comments, sound effects and if something bad happens it's usually "I'd just....." and then come up with some revenge (usually comprising of bombs, AK47s, Bin Laden etc....:rolleyes:)
...Linda xx

You've just described my 26 year old. :rolleyes:

pukkamum

my ds is just the same and the trouble is he uses a million words to explain something when two would suffice.
I hate telling him to be quiet as love that he has opinions etc but it does get really tiresome!!!!!

chloe99_2

I know it would be very annoying if you really wanted to see the program, but i would have thought that any healthy 10yr olds idea of watching tv together would include talking about what they are seeing. Surely this is much better than a passive watcher who just sits there in a stupor trying to recover from his day?

If you are watching together as family time then his wish to talk is very important. If you want to watch it in peace then either watch without him or record for another time/day. If you want family viewing, then in my view, this is exactly what you are getting!!

cheepskate_2

To me this is just part of your sons personality.

Our first DS1 who is now 21 was exactly the same and no matter how many times we told him to be quiet, it just wasnt in his nature to be quiet for long or any more than 30 seconds:rolleyes:. Just to say this boycan still talk and talk.

Along ccame DS2, complete opposite personality, who in genereal can talk but like his dad can sit there and say nothing for hours. If we are watching something and he talks we tend to answer if its relevant and there is space we quickly reply, if not we tell him we will talk after the programme and he's fine with that

All children are different and to some degree they have to conform, but sometimes we can crush their own personality.