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I want to leave my OH but he owes me money

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  • sunshine_shell
    sunshine_shell Posts: 607 Forumite
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    Oh I have the biggest smlie on my face and i am so happy for you!! Be strong and if you start to waver read this thread, have you cut all contact now?? change your SIM and then you never have to hear from him again!! I'm so PROUD of you xxx
  • thorsoak
    thorsoak Posts: 7,166 Forumite
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    Well done! You now have control over your life again!
  • Aruna
    Aruna Posts: 61 Forumite
    sunshine_shell wrote: »
    Oh I have the biggest smlie on my face and i am so happy for you!! Be strong and if you start to waver read this thread, have you cut all contact now?? change your SIM and then you never have to hear from him again!! I'm so PROUD of you xxx

    thanks you, spoke to the mobile phone company today, number can be changed instantly for a tenner, no need to change the sim, :) or for free if i wait 10 days, i've lost 1600 so i can easily part with a tenner:D
  • Emmzi
    Emmzi Posts: 8,658 Forumite
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    well done Aruna. Lots of practical advice and emotional support for you here whenever you need it too.

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  • Ladyhawk
    Ladyhawk Posts: 2,064 Forumite
    Well done Aruna - what a brave and amazing step you have taken. I have nothing but admiration for you for escaping this dreadful man.

    All the best for the future - don't forget to keep us up dated from time to time as to how you are getting on.
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  • Firefly
    Firefly Posts: 3,024 Forumite
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    Fantastic! You've done the right thing but beware the doubts are bound to haunt you at times. We'll all be here to reassure you at those times and you WILL get through them.

    You'll have a bright future ahead.

    Good luck.
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  • curlygirl1971
    curlygirl1971 Posts: 1,367 Forumite
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    Fantastic news!! You're in charge again! You have your life back! I bet you feel like a dead weight has been lifted. It's great - am so pleased for you. Hope you are proud of yourself. You'll sort yourself out bit by bit - you do one thing at a time - You'll get yourself on track and where you want to be. I don't think you'll back

    Best of luck x
  • maggied_2
    maggied_2 Posts: 781 Forumite
    Aruna that's great news - it takes guts to walk away from a situation like yours. Well done for being so controlled and so determined. :j

    Sending you a virtual glass of wine and a huge squishy hug :beer:

    C xxxx
  • DVardysShadow
    DVardysShadow Posts: 18,949 Forumite
    Aruna wrote: »

    Blue - At that time I had already made the decision to exit, the advice here was very usefel


    Green - It takes being in it to understand it does, but in my case it was nasty way before I posted. A man who believes it is his right to have whatever he wants from a woman will get nastier quicker the more his demands are not met.

    :j I left him, no regrets,

    Thanks for giving space to my questions. And thanks to those who PM'd. It has opened my eyes to debt dependency in a realtionship being just the tip of an iceberg. Aruna, hope everything works out well for you going forward.
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  • Money_maker
    Money_maker Posts: 5,471 Forumite
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    Just to echo the others. You have shown great courage in leaving this relationship whilst you still could and an inspiration to other women suffering similar out there. You so often hear from people who have been trod on so much, they fear to leave and wrongly believe they cannot cope on their own.

    WELL DONE YOU, good luck for the future and keep us posted on how you are getting on. We're always here for you x
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