Now What Would You Do In This Position?

scottish_lassy

SallyUK, I do hope you are keeping a journal of all this - there's a book in here somewhere!!!!

We are all all tenterhooks for the next installment.

NickyBat

scottish_lassy wrote: »

SallyUK, I do hope you are keeping a journal of all this - there's a book in here somewhere!!!!

We are all all tenterhooks for the next installment.

You took the words right out of my mouth, i can't wait , i hope they get their comeuppance.

SallyUK

Thankyou Scottishlassy and Nickybat - I hope they get their comeuppence as well! lol

Sal
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scottish_lassy wrote: »

SallyUK, I do hope you are keeping a journal of all this - there's a book in here somewhere!!!!

We are all all tenterhooks for the next installment.

ford_prefect_3

SallyUK wrote: »

Morning Ford Prefect

Thank you for that reply, it's much appreciated.

Do you know if I can do any of that without using a lawyer, or would I have to go back to my no good lawyer and get her on the case - or at least try to get her to do something again?

Sal
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Hi Sally

I didnt use a lawyer, I spoke with the collection company and they explained how the law was on my side in Dubai and to threaten the other party with it first.

If you do have to use the company you will have to show proof of the debt so an unpaid court order for maintenance may well be enough as they take it to the courts on your behalf, its usually done on a no win no fee basis but they do take a fair chunk.

Its worth a shot if you can prove the debt, after all, its not going to make your relationship with your husband any worse!

SallyUK

Thanks Ford Prefect

Is it the collection company who operate a no win, no fee basis?

Sal
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ford_prefect wrote: »

Hi Sally

I didnt use a lawyer, I spoke with the collection company and they explained how the law was on my side in Dubai and to threaten the other party with it first.

If you do have to use the company you will have to show proof of the debt so an unpaid court order for maintenance may well be enough as they take it to the courts on your behalf, its usually done on a no win no fee basis but they do take a fair chunk.

Its worth a shot if you can prove the debt, after all, its not going to make your relationship with your husband any worse!

[Deleted User]

Hello,

Just read through this thread and found it amazing!

Have you thought of contacting the embassy for the country in which he is living for some advice? I am right on thinking that he is is the UAE? If so have an look at their website on the FAQs as there is some interesting information including :

QUESTION :
Is it legal to share a hotel room in the UAE with my partner if I am unmarried? ANSWER : No.


So if he is unmarried, but with children he may be in a very difficult position due to their laws on relationships.


Good luck.

ford_prefect_3

SallyUK wrote: »

Thanks Ford Prefect

Is it the collection company who operate a no win, no fee basis?

Sal
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Yes they usually assess a case for viability and then if its got legs they take it on but always check the terms.

You could try some brinkmanship and tell him that the maintenance agreement from 2003 (or whenever it was) is going to be enforced in the Dubai courts as a debt, that may well focus his attention

SallyUK

Hello Spider In The Bath

Thanks for that info - I was taking a look myself and some of this is rather interesting:

Many (usually western) couples wonder about living together in Dubai when they're not married. Note that the following comments apply to Dubai, there are differences in how the rules are applied in other emirates.

• In the UAE and Dubai, it is against the law to live together, in the western sense, with someone you are not married to. You can only live together with a member of the opposite sex if you are married to them, or they are a family member. So the western expression about "living in sin" is taken more literally in the UAE.
• Dubai police do not spend their time walking through apartment complexes and hotels knocking on doors and asking for marriage certificates (although in Sharjah they do according to news reports in April 2010), and there are no morality police as is the case with the Mutawwa in Saudi Arabia. However, if someone makes a complaint about illegal activity, then the police are obliged to investigate, and if the complainer has more wasta than the police and/or the alleged criminals, then the police will naturally investigate the complaint even more thoroughly.
• Strictly speaking, it is illegal to be in a private room, or even in a car, with an unrelated member of the opposite sex. This applies to rooms in Dubai hotels also. The rule is referred to as the Tawajed clause.
• In reality, the situation is not quite so harsh. This is what one official was reported as saying in November 2007 (in a Gulf News article - see Unmarried couples living together in Dubai forum topic for more comments on Sharia law, culture, customs etc with respect to men and women mingling in the UAE): "Mohammad Yousuf, Deputy Director of the Dubai Courts Department, said while the Federal punitive law is implemented in the UAE, the situation is different in Dubai. The Tawajed or Tahseen Al Ma'asiya clause, he said, is not implemented in Dubai."
• It is almost unheard of for anyone to get into trouble because they're sharing a car with someone of the opposite sex that's not related to them. If there is a problem, it's more likely because of another reason, for example the police think an illegal taxi service is going on, or there's been an accident involving alcohol.
• Nationality and/or culture can make a difference - Asians seem to appear in newspaper reports more often than western nationalities as getting into strife especially unmarried mothers. A Muslim woman living with a non-Muslim boyfriend, or 2 unmarried Muslims living together, are more at risk of legal problems than a Muslim man living with a non-Muslim girlfriend.
• Your place of employment can make a difference also, since usually your employer is also your sponsor and might be held responsible if you step out of line. A conservative employer, or government employer, is unlikely to view a couple living together very favorably, especially if they're in company provided accommodation.
• Note also that while it is possible for one party to obtain a residence visa for their spouse in the UAE, if you're not married, that will not be possible. At least not a husband or wife visa. If you employ your boyfriend/girlfriend, then it might be possible since they're an employee as far as the authorities are concerned.
• If you're living with someone who is married to someone else, then there is a greater risk of problems, especially if their spouse also lives in the UAE. If they file a complaint with the police about their husband or wife in an illicit relationship, then the police will almost certainly investigate. If a couple is separated but not divorced, then legally they are still married.

I could do some damage there, if I was of a mind to do so, couldn't I!?


Sal
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Just read through this thread and found it amazing!

Have you thought of contacting the embassy for the country in which he is living for some advice? I am right on thinking that he is is the UAE? If so have an look at their website on the FAQs as there is some interesting information including :

QUESTION :
Is it legal to share a hotel room in the UAE with my partner if I am unmarried? ANSWER : No.


So if he is unmarried, but with children he may be in a very difficult position due to their laws on relationships.


Good luck.[/QUOTE]

claire16c

Just read this whole thread! I really hope you get a good result in this whole thing. What a sad little liar of a man your ex is!

SallyUK

Thanks, Claire

Sal
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claire16c wrote: »

Just read this whole thread! I really hope you get a good result in this whole thing. What a sad little liar of a man your ex is!