depression

Tiff_2

feelinggood wrote:

I can't work out why he is being this way
I think one of the main things is that if he comes home and I'm down, or if I haven't done the housework, he finds it really hard to motivate himself to go to work. He keeps mentioning me getting a job, which is scaring the life out of me.
I really don't understand, and I can't talk to him about this.

Oh fg,hun - he's got you chasing your own tail hasn't he? :mad: You don't know what to do for the best!
Ask yourself this, if these were the symptoms of (God forbid) cancer, would he have the same attitude? And if the answer is yes, then I hope your self-preservation kicks in and you change the locks or start running!
I still think that he might possibly have a form of depression. maybe that's why he's so 'aggressive' in his reactions? he sounds afraid - people often act out anger when they're frightened. Have you got any family/friends close by to help angel?
Eventually, you will come to the decision that you have to do what you have to do and so does he. If he can't handle it, then he has the problem. And he'll have to find a solution too. It would be cruel to expect you to suffer like this fg.
Tiff
xx

Tiff_2

rose07 wrote:

yes i agree with you saz, you need to give yourself time fg, do things when you are reay.

i will let you in on a secret tho, i dont know if i am ready for a job yet, but i am in a bit of trouble with money which is causing more stress so i need to see if i am ready to work by going for it.

how are you saz x

Hey Rose - at least you're giving it a try. If it works out you have £s and new people in your life. If not, you're stuck with us!:D I know how strong you are. Tiff x

candygirl

CCStar wrote:

Do let us know how you are on Venlafaxine. I found Prozac pretty good for a while. Didn't like Paxil - I put on too much weight on that:(

thanks hun thought i was being ignored for a minute there:rolleyes: :rolleyes:AND THANKS TIFF TOO

Tiff_2

Sazbo wrote:

Hi rose, well I made it to Friday It was a tough week this week, bosses at work getting on my bl00dy wick, big time. Really had a struggle forcing myself to go in this week. But at least I have the weekend to recover. Well done you though, you've made some real progress, well done, i hope that's helped a bit...
Sx

Hi Saz - your turn! Glad you made it through the week. You did well to keep going in. You're making progress yourself! You've given great advice & we're all herefor you too.

:idea: It seems that we don't only have to fight the illnesses but also the people around us too. Tiff's had a franchise idea! We could get some t-shirts made up saying things like :

"Yes - I Am On Medication!"

"WARNING - I Couldn't Find My Tablets Today!"

" Can You Hear The Voices Too?" (think I read this one somewhere?)

" Are You Looking At Me?!" ( can only be worn after taking self-defence lesons in case they are! :rotfl: ).

"Important Notice: The Day Hospital Is Closed - Approach With Caution!"

" Wait A Minute And I'll Ask The Others!"

" My Other Personality Is The Good Guy!"


yeah, I know, I know - I need to get a life. But I still expect 10% commission!!! have a great day - talk later.
Much love
Tiff xx

Tiff_2

rose07 wrote:

thanks s,

yeah had a very productive day today, just wish i didnt have tonsilitis, it makes me sound bad and makes me feel a bit bad too.
parents keep arguing tho which is doing my head in. :eek:
well done for getting through the week hun, unfortunately i will have no time as i will work monday till friday 9 till 530 everyday, and then at the weekends i have freelance work so i dont know how i am going to handle it all, i guess time will tell if i can handle it or not, too much stress and i get severely ill.

well make sure you treat yourself some time on the weekend, just take 30 mins to stop and sit down and do something you enjoy
x

Good advice Rosie - but we never follow our own do we? :rolleyes:
At least it'll get you out of a bad atmosphere hun. I know you're smart enough to know when to draw the line and taske things a little easier. Much love Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi CC,
At least you're planning a future angel. Dreams are what get us through in the end
Tiff
x

Tiff_2

Rose...Tah-Dah ! (can't afford a drum roll! )- I'm back as you can see from reading The Tiff Chronicles! I'll be okay angel - I know where you are and I can hear your wellies a mile off!
Been a long day and week for us huh Rosie?;) Just make sure you take care of that tonsilitis!

Hi Saz - hope you're well hun?

Bettyboop & Mrs.A - hope you've got people around you right now - we all care about you both.

Flissy - Where are you? Are you all right hun?

Slayerx & razorbladekisses - How are both of you? Hoping all is well with you?

You guys, if you don't let us know how you are, Rosie will only get her wellies on - be warned - look what it did to me! :rotfl:

Sorry to have been posting so long but I needed to catch up and if I didn't care, I wouldn't have bothered! Well, that and the fact that I need to get a life ! :rotfl:
For anyone I've missed,I'm sorry. Be kind to yourself guys.
Back later (you've been warned! )
Much Love
Tiff
xxx

Miroslav

rose07 wrote:

your flatmate sounds alright she has the right idea.
dont rush it, get to know each other and communicate.

as i say tho try not to think too much about it all, it sounds like you have the same group of friends, or at very least like your flatmate is a good match maker, lol. but jjust be careful wont you hun, take it slow, but take it when you can if you see it grab it and keep a hold of it.

dont worry, hang on let me rephase, try not to worry.
and let us all know how it goes.
xxx

I'm having 2nd thoughts now Maybe it's best I don't meet her

Well, we don't really know anyone we share anything mutually with. I'm not sure about good matchmaker either. Last relationship, was with one of her friends she invited back, happened by accident, they ended up hating each other I know nothing will happen this time, but I guess I am just human, wanting someone to like me

I'll let you all know how it goes, but if it goes wrong, I may need a few days on my own.

Miroslav

rose07 wrote:

Miroslav, try and eat hun, i havent been able to eat for days, so i understand but you need to give yourself some energy for sunday. take care

The only energy i'm gonna need is for tears

Miroslav

Tiff wrote:

Hi - you have to try and eat or the first thing this girl will see you do is faint! Thank God for your flatmate - she really does look after you doesn't she? The sleeping and eating thing is probably the depression Miroslav.
Instead of holding your breath until Sunday angel, try and remember slow is good - gives you the best chance of success. So start planningfor the days after Sunday hun - and make dreams for the future either with or without her - just a little daydream can sometimes come true - this way you'll always have a plan b. Good Luck.
Tiff x

Yeah, when she's standing in front of me, I will faint, because she's wanted to get to know me

Well, she is at the moment. Unless I am really really down, and I haven't been this bad for many years, it's like getting blood out of a stone About time I got something back for all my years work with her

I realise the sleeping/eating is likely to be depression. My flatmate reckons I am grieving. Even though I don't live a hectic lifestyle, i've never been able to just 'grieve' and now I am forcing myself too. I've never had anyone to talk to about the people I have lost, because counsellors have never deemed it importnat enough, and never had a friend to talk about it too.

Slow is good, but i'm waiting for the inevitable, nothing that lasts.

Plan B - Britney loves me? Can I dream that?