depression

rose07

Sazbo wrote:

You never know - you might make friends at you're new job; see how it goes. And you may still keep in touch with your mate even though she moving. That's happened to me - one of my closest friends move to America two years ago, I was devastated, but even though we obviously don't see each other every day, we're still very close. I'll bid you night, night. Take care, Sazx

thanks saz
i guess your right
true friends never leave you, no matter how far away they are, they will always try and be there for you even if its just a phone call.
i have a friend that lives a long way away but we email and she rings me every now and again just to check i havent fallen off me typerope, lol. (she knows how bad i can get)

yes, good night saz, sweet dreams
and take care as well.
xxx

Horasio

rose07 wrote:

aaww i hpe your cold gets better soon, its rotten that.
glad your hubby is settling in to his new job, hopefully that will take the wait off your finanaces. yes its good there is a possibility for your son as well, very good is he old enough to live on his own?

but dont leave yourself with nothing to do during the day try and fill yor day, not to the point that you collapse just things to keep you going.
x

Our son is 18 nearly 19 and I feel should leave home. I have asked for advice about whether he should stay home for his final two years at uni or have a spell of student life. He had a serious girlfriend until June this year and he is now being a single man, socialising excessively, which we don't mind in moderation. This is affecting our life, with his coming and goings but we have houserules about times he can come in, as he disturbs us.

He is a grumpy old sod and very selfish which is annoying us. He needs a dose of reality so he grows up.

If he gets good pay in this job, he will be able to leave home. It is mutual, not us throwing him out!

I would like to get a job but we have so much to sort out. We are wanting to sell the house in the new year and downsize, and maybe get a second home afterwards down south for our retirement.

Also, I find running a house and working too much just now. If someone would run the house or take a lot more of the chores from me, I would love to go out to work.

rose07

CCStar wrote:

Our son is 18 nearly 19 and I feel should leave home. I have asked for advice about whether he should stay home for his final two years at uni or have a spell of student life. He had a serious girlfriend until June this year and he is now being a single man, socialising excessively, which we don't mind in moderation. This is affecting our life, with his coming and goings but we have houserules about times he can come in, as he disturbs us.

He is a grumpy old sod and very selfish which is annoying us. He needs a dose of reality so he grows up.

If he gets good pay in this job, he will be able to leave home. It is mutual, not us throwing him out!

I would like to get a job but we have so much to sort out. We are wanting to sell the house in the new year and downsize, and maybe get a second home afterwards down south for our retirement.

Also, I find running a house and working too much just now. If someone would run the house or take a lot more of the chores from me, I would love to go out to work.

i hope you didnt think i was having a go?

ah yes teenager age, and uni. like my bro.

well i think its up to you both and your son as to what he wants to do in his final years of uni, i lived at uni because i had too, and the experience of it is great but at the same time i would say exercise with caution as it can get a bit manic. lol

its good that you have rules in place, this can make sure he is not tooo disruptive. But he will learn things in time. as im sure you know.

i am sure he wants to feel independent soon enough and expand his wings in the real world as it were. lol

i think for the moment do what you feel is right for you, dont worry about having to go out and get a job, just take it one day at a time.
i havent had a job since may so my new job is either going to be right or very wrong.

you could always get some in house help, but that would of course require money, and well its like a circle aint it?
x

rose07

heylo everyone, x
how you all doing?
jina havent heard from you in a while.?
well you all know how my day went, phew!! what a long day. lol
and i still aint well. :rotfl:
Mrs A, how you doing? are work still ok with you and being understanding, are you able to help yourself? x
oh betty i meant to say before, if you do hurt yourself think about the care of your cuts and see you GP after it. how is your support going?:)
flis you not been here in a bit, how are you hun?
Miroslav, try and eat hun, i havent been able to eat for days, so i understand but you need to give yourself some energy for sunday. take care
Tiff, calling tiff, where are you hun?
i hope you ok and being a busy thing
here, there and everywhere.
i dont have you to bounce of tonight,
i hope you doing ok, and im here if you want to talk, (and i know your like me).

well here is hoping you all get some sleep and happy dreams
much love evryone
take care
xxx

Tiff_2

Good morning guys! There again, that could be a matter of opinion!:rotfl:
Big hi's to bettyboop, rose, saz, slayerx, feeling good, ccstar, miroslav, muffin, jina,Mrs.A., razorb.,dora, bunnie and the whole gang as it were. I'm sorry I've been so out of things for this last couple of days - tbh, have been quite poorly and with with one thing or another going on, my 2 little brain cells (yeah y'know - the ones at the back looking frightened!:D) have been doing overtime. lol.
So hopefully I'll get chance to get to some posts now. :rolleyes:
Best wishes
Tiff x

Tiff_2

CCStar wrote:

Hi guys (and gals:))

I am feeling more positive today but have faced a problem that I need some tips to deal with.

I felt close to my husband last night and it has really made me feel better again. Trouble is I am scared he might upset me again, so don't want to build too much on it.

I have seen it before in my life. I feel happy with a person (male or female), then if they cool for any reason, I am gutted.

How come I need other people to make me feel good, why can't I do this for myself?

Hi CC - hope you're cold is getting better angel. Good that you recognize that you had managed to feel better. We can miss that sometimes. We always hurt twice as much when it's someone we love that hurts us. Don't miss out on any more good times hun because of your fear - I'm sure we've all hurt someone when we're at our lowest or angry. Those closest to us sometimes have to let off steam too. Not that I would advocate violence or emotional abuse at all!
People drift in and out of our lives angel - happens to everyone don't worry. The ones that hang around are the ones worth having. The people that go were not meant to be - just passing through.
I think we need other people to make us feel good because we are so low on self-esteem and confidence that we can't do it ourselves. Have you ever heard of a happy depressive?!;) Once it's been stripped away from us, it takes a long time to put it back. We can also get over-sensitive too and because of our health problems, we become anxious about what people might think of us.
Nothing wrong with how you're feeling angel. After all, we all want to be loved.
Tiff x

Tiff_2

feelinggood wrote:

I've not got dressed since tuesday :-/

Hi fg! Sorry you've been feeling so low. It's okay to spend time in your pyjamas hun but a little self care can make us feel better. It's hard to break the cycle I know.
I think we all have this terrible habit of 'I must..., I should...,I have to...' There are no laws about pyjama-wearing and if we want to spend the a.m. in pj's, it's allowed.;)
Tiff x

Tiff_2

Bunnie1982 wrote:

Don't worry I am the same, we have got to go supermarket shopping tonight so I am just going to throw on my most comfortable clothes.

Have come up with a nice healthy meal plan for the week but for no reason I feel really insecure about it, have posted on "old style" to get some reassurance and some general cooking tips.

Snuggled under the quilt at the moment and don't feel like moving, not even to make lunch.

Still feeling really groggy today and woke up at 5:55 again last night

hi bunnie
You may not feel like you're doing much hun but well done you on planning a week's healthy menu and going shopping too! :T Or a menu of any kind in my case.:rolleyes:
A lot of people, including ourselves, forget or don't know how exhausted mental ill health leaves you. Most of us don't get to sleep 6 or 7 hours in a row. I wonder how many well people are duvet-snuggling? But they're allowed to right? Just try and eat something though angel.
Tiff
xxx

Tiff_2

towseriv wrote:

Feeling very depressed today, Life is a pile of !!!!!! and the only plus is my wife.

Hi towseriv - welcome. That's how depression makes you feel - it gives you the most negative view of our lives but if we can just remember that, it can help.
Well hun, thank God for your wife. Some people aren't that lucky. You at least have something precious in your life in her.
Tiff

Tiff_2

Dora_the_Explorer wrote:

Why not have a look at this for some tips?

http://www.livinglifetothefull.com/elearning/index.php?option=com_frontpage&Itemid=1

You might find the answer to your question.

Hi Dora,
You're a mine of good information angel. When we can, I think distracting our attention to something else or new is great. When I feel really low, I trawl the net looking for funny quotes or education. Keeping active - even a little - is so good for us. I'm hoping all is well with you Dora.
Much love
Tiff x