depression

feelinggood_2

CCStar wrote:

I am having to use leftovers as it is shopping day tomorrow.

I found some lettuce so making a side salad for the spuds. We have cold meat to add to it too if he want some.

Can I come round? I'm feeling peckish
I'm cooking shepards pie tonight, if OH reminds me when to start it - Im a bit forgetful!

rose07

Hello to all Tiff, Flis, Mrs A, feeling good, dora, CCstar,, betty, natty, slayerx, jellycat, sazbo, razorbladekisses, miroslav and anyone else.
How are you all??
Soz not been on here much, but I have been thinking about you all.
Im really not well at the moment have flu symptoms, but also had a banging headache for about 2 days now, bones ache, sore chest when I cough, it very sore and not nice. x
Not to mention all the other pain I am in and feeling right now, lol.

Flis I am really glad you have started your new job, your old boss sounded like a bit of a monster (have you seen the film the devil wears prada yet? lol) Are you feeling better in yourself now that you have started a new job.? x

Mrs A, how are you doing? Last time you were on you seemed great, things were going well for you, I hope this is continuing and you keep positive.
Well done on telling the people at your work about how you really feel, and your boss sounds very understanding.x

Feelinggood – its hard when we loose someone close we don’t know what to do with ourselves, and can sometimes feel like a part of ourselves is missing or just forgotten about. It doesn’t sound like your OH is very supportive, and im going to agree with tiff here and say he sounds like he has depression too, drinking is one thing I used to do a lot, a lot of binge drinking to start with, Is there any way you could get help together? Or find a way of supporting each other? Or will he just be stubborn? I hope your pain eases soon, x

Hey Dora, how are you doing? Nice to see you pop your head in here. x

CCStar – hi welcome to the thread, I hope it helps and is a place you can talk about anything of what your going through. October is my bad month too, I cant stand it too many bad memories and pain. I hope all goes well for your OH in his new job, financial worries within a relationship can be very stressful, and very hard to overcome. But if you can stay together as a unit I hope you both will see that you are lucky to have each other and battle through it together. x

Bunnie, hi welcome to the thread, sounds like you are getting the help you need, and well done in going back to the doc to explain to them emotionally how you are feeling. Good on you, keep positive and keep going x

Muffin – hi, nice to see you back here, and glad to know that this thread helps, it is truly great that we can all be here for each other. I started to get ill in more ways than one in childhood too. I seen Stephen fry the other night, it was a bit of an eye opener and your right this is the same to anything else. I just don’t think a lot of people understand. But you seem on the right path, and even though you may not be aloud back to work you want to. x

Has anyone here been told ‘oh its all in your head, if you just think differently all will be fine’. Snap out of it, you are not unwell, carry on, these seem to be the things people say prob coz they don’t know what to say, but I do think more people should be aware of it.

(right just off to get another blanket, sitting on bed bit crooked coz cant move much, laptops are very handy things.lol)

right where was I, . . . .. .

ah betty and natty haven’t seen yas in a while, hope your are ok? Keep posting so we know you are out there even if its just to say BOO. x

Slayerx, hows things going with the doctors?, are you waiting still? Or did you manage to see someone, I hate docs and things, well hate is too stronger word, I just am more scared of them than anything.

Jellycat, , hi, how are you? Your oh sounds like he really cares for you asking you how you are all the time, but understand that this can become patronising. It is nice to have people there that care but sometimes it can become too much, keep talking with him, and if he becomes stubborn then hit him with a frying pan, lol. I have found that some people just don’t know what to do.

Heya sazbo, how are you hun? Ah yes men can be strange, they want to be there, but can be strange things. And no you shouldn’t stop talking to him about how you feel, if we cant trust and get help from the people we are closest too then who? We all need to keep those we love close to us, or the illness could come between the relationship and cause great disruption. X

Hi razorbladekisses, how are you doing? Nice to see you on here, and hope you are ok? X

Oke Miroslav, I am very glad to see you back, but you did scare us there. I totally agree with tiff on what she said to you, so wont repeat it, as long as you understand we are a team here and help one another and if someone isn’t ok we try and help, we cant help in the long term tho that needs to come from you, you need to get out there and as people say get some support, see GPs and even a councellor, just make sure you get the support you need.
Ok about this girl im agreeing with tiff again, lol. (tiff I think we have the same thinking and you got there before me, lol.) But you need to look after yourself before you can be with her, and you talk as though you want to be with her because she isn’t ok, its not all about taking care of each other its about supporting each other but also giving one another space and time at the same time.
Pleease don’t pin your heart on this one girl you have been through a lot before of people you know and love disappearing, and if you get involved too close too soon, it could all end in tears.

I want you to know im not trying to be harsh but I have been there hun, and for your and her sakes makes sure its what you really want and get to know each other before you dive in, all the best though I really hope it all goes ok, and let us know, don’t runaway again.

welcome all new people, hope you settle in well and just talk about what you want to x

Hi tiff, my huni, how are you?;)
You seem to know how I am, having an awful time of it at the mo. And being unwell isn’t helping things. You make a lot of sense hun, and I hope you are ok?
I am also not sleeping well at the moment getting very little sleep and having nightmares, and soo severely ill etc. . .generally making me feel awful, lots a pain both physically and emotionall, I couldn’t move this morning my physical health is that bad, and I cant afford to be ill. On the up side of all this feeling soo bad, I have made an appointment to see my GP, I never go see my GP unless I have to,:o but I have had headaches also for a few days now, and I have a bit of a list to see him now.

And remember everyone we are all human and we can feel pain, we can push it out as much as possible but it wont disappear. keep talking and keep fighting x

Your all great no matter how low you get think of how you are also surviving.:T

Much love to all
xxx

Slayerx

Hello all been away from this forum a little while, I got a referal letter through the door last week and I'm now waiting for an appointment I have been told could be about a month to wait.

Strange thing is Prozac isnt having the same side effects that it did last time and I feel ok with it, anyway I hope your all keeping well.

Horasio

I am feeling a bit wary tonight.

My husband and I were able to talk but I mustn't get too hopeful, otherwise I am setting myself up for a fall.

I asked for advice on another forum before I found this one and feel ganged up on now. I have asked for it to be closed and keep hoping the thread will go away but everyone is adding their bit and keeping it up high. They are writing it as advice but I feel it is aggressive in tone. It isn't helping me at all and I have stated how I feel but they are saying I am ill. Maybe I am, maybe I am not but the way they are handling it is counterproductive to me. I am feeling humiliated by them now and want them to leave me alone. I don't object to hard facts and tough love but I feel they should have sent me a PM rather than put it on the site. It seems to have got everyone else putting their twopenny worth and it's horrible now.

I really hope I don't get the type of responses on here that I got on there, it doesn't help and I am feeling really upset just now. Harshness doesn't work with me but when I tell them I am not appreciating how they word it, they won't budge and see me as some nasty person.

I am going to ignore them now. I have been firm in my answers and they are not responding in a decent way.

I can't be doing with rigid people who don't listen

Horasio

Slayerx wrote:

Hello all been away from this forum a little while, I got a referal letter through the door last week and I'm now waiting for an appointment I have been told could be about a month to wait.

Strange thing is Prozac isnt having the same side effects that it did last time and I feel ok with it, anyway I hope your all keeping well.

Hi

I am new to this thread.

I am glad things are getting better for you.

regularsaver1

Hi again

I have not been in my PJ's as have been in work today - actually today it was not bad. although the bad days still outway the good.

Feeling much better today,

thanks guys

LizEstelle

Ok, let me add my tuppenceworth here - and I apologise straight away if what I say has been mentioned either here or on any other thread.

Going back to the original post - if difficulty with waking up in the morning was one of the worst things about living with depression, I would not consider this a major obstacle to getting on with life.

What I have found to be a besetting, chronic problem about depression is the way it does not allow you to think straight or come to good decisions about really important matters. Again, if this was only to do with, for example, saving money/financial planning, I would not cry foul.

Within limits, money is not an overriding consideration in my life.

No, I mean REALLY important matters - family, relationships... people we love...

Oh for a time machine...

Miroslav

rose07 wrote:

Oke Miroslav, I am very glad to see you back, but you did scare us there. I totally agree with tiff on what she said to you, so wont repeat it, as long as you understand we are a team here and help one another and if someone isn’t ok we try and help, we cant help in the long term tho that needs to come from you, you need to get out there and as people say get some support, see GPs and even a councellor, just make sure you get the support you need.
Ok about this girl im agreeing with tiff again, lol. (tiff I think we have the same thinking and you got there before me, lol.) But you need to look after yourself before you can be with her, and you talk as though you want to be with her because she isn’t ok, its not all about taking care of each other its about supporting each other but also giving one another space and time at the same time.
Pleease don’t pin your heart on this one girl you have been through a lot before of people you know and love disappearing, and if you get involved too close too soon, it could all end in tears.

I want you to know im not trying to be harsh but I have been there hun, and for your and her sakes makes sure its what you really want and get to know each other before you dive in, all the best though I really hope it all goes ok, and let us know, don’t runaway again.

:wave: Rose

I probably am pinning my hopes on this, but I have been preparing messages to text after she's turned me down, saying thanks anyway, so I am getting used to the idea she doesn't want to know, although when it's official, it's gonna hurt like hell

I just want us to be able to support each other and do things together. I'm not gonna jump on her

On a side note, lost 9 pounds in last 3 days. Just another 33 to go!

Miroslav

LizEstelle wrote:

Ok, let me add my tuppenceworth here - and I apologise straight away if what I say has been mentioned either here or on any other thread.

Going back to the original post - if difficulty with waking up in the morning was one of the worst things about living with depression, I would not consider this a major obstacle to getting on with life.

What I have found to be a besetting, chronic problem about depression is the way it does not allow you to think straight or come to good decisions about really important matters. Again, if this was only to do with, for example, saving money/financial planning, I would not cry foul.

Within limits, money is not an overriding consideration in my life.

No, I mean REALLY important matters - family, relationships... people we love...

Oh for a time machine...

Welcome along.

Think a time machine is what we all need, but would agree that the most important things, are the ones we love, either now, or in the past, but maybe for some of you, in the future.

clazza_3

Hi
I posted on here a few weeks ago has anyone any experience of taking venlaflexine. Did it help?