depression

EthelBloggs

Sazbo wrote:

Morning everyone. Well, slept fitfully, but feeling a bit calmer this morning after yesterday's shenanigens at work :rolleyes: Right now I'm having my front door undercoated - see what an exciting life I lead?! :rotfl: Toast and tea, then acupuncture at 11. Hope you're all doing ok today.

Much love,
Sazzyxxx

Hiya sazbomb

!!!!!! are they hoping to achieve at your work? chase you out? fekkers!!

I'm about to have my kitchen sink resealed, and the bath too... oooh the excitement

Have a good one *huggs*

Sazbo

EthelBloggs wrote:

Hiya sazbomb

!!!!!! are they hoping to achieve at your work? chase you out? fekkers!!

I'm about to have my kitchen sink resealed, and the bath too... oooh the excitement

Have a good one *huggs*

Hiya hunnie x Good question!:D Wish I knew! Thinking about it calmly, I do think it was catalogue of incompetence - everyone assuming someone else had communicated the changes, when nobody actually had - rather than a deliberate act of spite. Although I am still very angry at what happened. I'd better not drink too much at our office xmas lunch on friday or I just might throttle my boss! Bl00dy idiots.

You take care hun xx

EthelBloggs

Sazbo wrote:

Hiya hunnie x Good question!:D Wish I knew! Thinking about it calmly, I do think it was catalogue of incompetence - everyone assuming someone else had communicated the changes, when nobody actually had - rather than a deliberate act of spite. Although I am still very angry at what happened. I'd better not drink too much at our office xmas lunch on friday or I just might throttle my boss! Bl00dy idiots.

You take care hun xx

muhahahahahaaha let me know where it is and I'll come and watch


you take care too xx

blinky

Spend most of my time at work sorting other people f**k ups. Had a big one to sort out last Friday. All my bosses were impressed with how I handled it.:j Had a smaller one to sort out yesterday..

Big hugs to everyone

Extra hugs for Ethel and CCStar

Horasio

EthelBloggs wrote:

I'm sorry for worrying you all... I'm fine, son is fine. House is a bit of a mess but i'll fix it.

After a lot of arguing, things calmed down and we talked. He's having a crap time at work and worrying about his dad who had a burst ulcer a few months ago and isn't recovering as well as hoped. He hadn't told me any of this - although it doesn't justify his behaviour, THERE IS NO JUSTIFICATION. Turns out he's also been smoking a lot of weed ... here was me in my naivety thinking he'd given it up months ago . I've been so busy that I didn't notice.

He knows I don't want to continue the relationship.. there have just been too many things over too long a time for it to be fixable. He's gone to work today thankfully so... bit of peace, lol. He'll be calm for a while now so I'm not worried bout him being here but there is no going back to what we were.

I am glad you realise there is no justification!

Bad time at work,
Bad health in relative

Understandly stressed but not the way to behave.

Smoking weed

Tho' it is one of the so called lesser classed drugs, I have also seen people who have smoked it and it changes their personality into one of a mega jerk!

If he is willing to sort himself out and STICKS to it, rather than give empty promises that he go back on, he should seek help himself. Trouble is I rarely see this - they usually go back to their bad behaviour.

You deserve better.

EthelBloggs

CCStar wrote:

I am glad you realise there is no justification!

Bad time at work,
Bad health in relative

Understandly stressed but not the way to behave.

Smoking weed

Tho' it is one of the so called lesser classed drugs, I have also seen people who have smoked it and it changes their personality into one of a mega jerk!

If he is willing to sort himself out and STICKS to it, rather than give empty promises that he go back on, he should seek help himself. Trouble is I rarely see this - they usually go back to their bad behaviour.

You deserve better.

You're dead right... and I'm not going to be a pushover or a doormat. He knows I wont put him on the street but the relationship is over. He's got til payday n that's it. One foot out of line between now and then and he will be out on his ear, skint or not.

You're right about weed.. some ppl can smoke it and be fine.. nicely chilled and relaxed etc... other ppl seem to turn into maniacs... seems he's one of those. I won't live with that EVER

Horasio

I feel Christmas is no more this year.

Our son's nasty behviour towards us in front on his mate.
My MIL health
My husband's attitude towards me when I feel upset by others.
The garage cancelling the test drive
The Bl**dy awful weather, which stopped him being able to put up the outside lights.

Too much going wrong and trying to bring me down.

Is really spoiling this Christmas build up.

EthelBloggs

CCStar wrote:

I feel Christmas is no more this year.

Our son's nasty behviour towards us in front on his mate.
My MIL health
My husband's attitude towards me when I feel upset by others.
The garage cancelling the test drive
The Bl**dy awful weather, which stopped him being able to put up the outside lights.

Too much going wrong and trying to bring me down.

Is really spoiling this Christmas build up.

I never really relax and enjoy christmas.. it's just extra work and expense for me Plus the fact that none of my family really like each other so it's eggshells to avoid the bickering and arguments. I keep threatening to become a jehovah witness so I can avoid it, lol

and it's ONE sodding day!!!! all the fuss and stress over one day just isn't worth it if you ask me

Horasio

I hope I don't sound horrible with what I am about to post.

My MIL has been in and out of hospital several times and my BIL ends up going up to see her. He is the favoured boy. I feel my husband isn't treated very well and my BIL wasn't very nice to my husband yesterday. He takes his family emotionally bullying him. He is the lowest on the rung.

I wonder how bad she REALLY is, yes she had a stroke but how bad is she to warrent her two boys driving 250 miles one way at the drop of a hat? As far as I know she isn't dying.

Whenever his family have trouble, he is horrible to me, I get upset then I am accused of being a nasty selfish troublemaker for standing up for myself and telling him to stop taking out his sh*t on me.

My husband takes bullying from others and takes it out on me. I don't feel supported or cherished like a wife should be.

He goes into rants and rages, much like a crazy dog. He doesn't trash houses tho' but his rants do make me tense and I want to leave. I hear his shouting everywhere, there is no escape. This makes me feel really panicky.

Of course our son has seen this all his life and I feel he is copying his crazy father. He doesn't rant tho.

I used to suffer really badly with my hormones, I had mood swings and rages myself. They were worsened by people who upset me and I got no support or understanding from people who should have cared about me. I knew something was wrong and desperately tried to sort myself out, but it took 30 years to get it sorted eventually!

When our son behaves badly, my husband doesn't discipline him and when I try, I am undermined by my husband shouting at me.

He has always tried to paint me as being the 'bad guy' when I am upset about bad behaviour. I refuse to take this role as it is his fault that he won't do anything about his problems and is taking them out on me.

Horasio

EthelBloggs wrote:

I never really relax and enjoy christmas.. it's just extra work and expense for me Plus the fact that none of my family really like each other so it's eggshells to avoid the bickering and arguments. I keep threatening to become a jehovah witness so I can avoid it, lol

and it's ONE sodding day!!!! all the fuss and stress over one day just isn't worth it if you ask me

I know it does suck - all the hype.

I do try and see the nice in it, the lights and cosiness but my family have managed to spoil that this year.

I want whatever lights are up to come down, it looks daft and I'm not decorating the house this year. It makes me feel sick even looking at nice decorations now.