depression

stenny_2

Hi sazbo,

I hope it all ended well with work.
Picking on you they are just leaving someone else alone!
God help them when sazbo gets back! lol

stenny_2

I must go,

Everyone, chin up and spread love and happiness. x

Nighty night all

xxx

Sazbo

stenny wrote:

Hi sazbo,

I hope it all ended well with work.
Picking on you they are just leaving someone else alone!
God help them when sazbo gets back! lol

Too true, stenny. God help them indeed. What happened was my assistant arrived at work this morning to discover that he and I have been moved lock, stock and barrel to another floor. Without our being either told, or consulted. Call me paranoid, but I am suspicious that this just happened to be done on the first day of my holiday... when I wouldn't be around to do anything about it. But I called my boss and tore a strip off him on the phone for not letting me know. He claimed he didn't know himself... yeah, right :rolleyes: He's just a weak son of a b1tch with no spine, guts or spherical objects. :mad: I was absolutely furious earlier today, and then really upset. I've just about had enough of that place. I really wish I could win the lottery and stick two fingers up, you know? Have calmed down a bit now, but need to crash as I'm feeling emotionally exhausted. Have an acupuncture treatment tomorrow morning, and boy do I need it.

So I shall bid you goodnight stenny and all the lovely people on here. I'm thinking of you all and sending you big hugs.

Love,
Saz xxx

mclaren_2

EthelBloggs wrote:

Well.. he's calmed down now but i'm not interested in talking to him. I've made it clear that he's crosssed a line and it's over. Thing is he's saying he cant afford to go til he gets paid and i know he's going to use that time to try and softsoap me back so for me the sooner he goes the better. I don't want to involve the police cos it would just make things nastier

He sounds like an awful guy. You need to think about you hun - and make sure you are safe. Dont let him get th ebetter of you hun - he will try every trick in the book for you to stay with him including, "oh it wont happen again" or "i promise, i will change". As a guy, i know those 2 lines are BS - please dont listen to him hunni, and get out of the situ asap.

And if it gets worse, you should call the police. We're all thinkin bout ya hunni xx

mclaren_2

MushyPeas wrote:

Hey Mclare, don't feel sorry for the post, isn't this what the thread is for? Hope you are feeling a bit better tonight x

I try my best at things - atm i am at a 7 so i am quite good - and i know i can report here if i am sad

u guys are ace xxxxxx love to all xxxxxx

Tiff_2

Hi ethel hun.:grouphug:
I felt I had to reply to this straight away as soon as I read it - though obviously it's not of the moment. I'm sure the guys have already given you sound advice.

EthelBloggs wrote:

Howdy peeps.. I'm having helluva time at the mo.. B/F been like a bear with a sore !!!!.
Me and daughter had to leave the house early today (7.30) and so I ddn't realise b/f skived the day off work. He started harassing me with text messages from about 2.30pm onwards.. like...... I got about 50 msgs in less than an hour. come home to find hes smashed up the kitchen, my son's room - including his PC, various other parts of the house - he's thrown the cat litter tray everywhere... and he wont leave me alone. He keeps coming into the room where I am and screaming in my face. He slammed the laptop shut on my fingers and he's smashed some of the plugs on the wall so they're not usable. The phone's not working either.
What prompted the texts ethel? Was he sober? Actually angel - I don't give a damn - there's no excuse for what he did and there's no need for you to find one for him - he's a grown man!
Angel, get yourself out of that house and go to a neighbours if possible and call the police from there. This man is seriously losing it hun - you're already a victim of domestic violence (emotional and physical) whether you'd admit it or not. You've listed your fears hun - you shouldn't be afraid in your own home. It will only escalate, trust me. Been there, got T-shirt and I'm now selling them for £4.99! When someone loses it like this, it's a part of them you can't change. As he's smashed up the phone etc, did you know that you can call 999 on your mobile for free? - pop into the bathroom and do it.
My son will be home soon and I don't know waht to do.. if I send him to my mum's she'll get wound up too.. but I don't want him to be in the middle of all this

Your son needs to be out of there angel. Don't worry about who'll say/think what - do whatever you have to do to get yourselves safe. My son remembers all the awful things my ex-husband did to me - in situations like this, you can't hide it from them - they know what's going on. And for your son's peace of mind, get yourself out temporarily too or he'll be fretting over you angel. Call the police hun. This isn't something to be brushed away ethel hun. Also, take photos of all the damage, write down for your own benefit exactly what happened and in what order and then change the locks angel. That last one is probably the most important and effective to prevent a repeat of this event.
Ethal hun, I know from this thread, what a kind, funny, sensitive, clever ethel you are. You deserve better than this but you know that. So I'm hoping that you will give yourself the greatest Christmas gift you can - get rid of this hound - you'll have lost 170lbs in dead weight (what a diet!) and you and your son can have the peace of mind you deserve and a happy holiday together!
And don't worry about what will happen to bf - he is solely responsible for this- or where he'll go or it being Christmas - he made his own decisions and he acted on them. He's not your problem! As for daily practicalities (bills etc.) hun, don't worry - things have a habit of falling into place in situations like this.
I haven't read any further than this post angel so I'm sorry for repeating anything. I hope you're okay ethel and I'm thinking of you sweetheart.
Huge hugs ethel.:grouphug: If you need anything, just yell hun.
Much Love
Tiff xxx

EthelBloggs

I'm sorry for worrying you all... I'm fine, son is fine. House is a bit of a mess but i'll fix it.

After a lot of arguing, things calmed down and we talked. He's having a crap time at work and worrying about his dad who had a burst ulcer a few months ago and isn't recovering as well as hoped. He hadn't told me any of this - although it doesn't justify his behaviour, THERE IS NO JUSTIFICATION. Turns out he's also been smoking a lot of weed ... here was me in my naivety thinking he'd given it up months ago . I've been so busy that I didn't notice.

He knows I don't want to continue the relationship.. there have just been too many things over too long a time for it to be fixable. He's gone to work today thankfully so... bit of peace, lol. He'll be calm for a while now so I'm not worried bout him being here but there is no going back to what we were.

elaine373

EthelBloggs wrote:

Well.. he's calmed down now but i'm not interested in talking to him. I've made it clear that he's crosssed a line and it's over. Thing is he's saying he cant afford to go til he gets paid and i know he's going to use that time to try and softsoap me back so for me the sooner he goes the better. I don't want to involve the police cos it would just make things nastier

Whilst he is at work , change the locks and pack his stuff. You deserve better! you and your kids deserve safety! Why wait coz as you say he will manipulate you into giving him another chance and its 99% certain its only a matter of time before he flips again. Good luck

Sazbo

EthelBloggs wrote:

I'm sorry for worrying you all... I'm fine, son is fine. House is a bit of a mess but i'll fix it.

After a lot of arguing, things calmed down and we talked. He's having a crap time at work and worrying about his dad who had a burst ulcer a few months ago and isn't recovering as well as hoped. He hadn't told me any of this - although it doesn't justify his behaviour, THERE IS NO JUSTIFICATION. Turns out he's also been smoking a lot of weed ... here was me in my naivety thinking he'd given it up months ago . I've been so busy that I didn't notice.

He knows I don't want to continue the relationship.. there have just been too many things over too long a time for it to be fixable. He's gone to work today thankfully so... bit of peace, lol. He'll be calm for a while now so I'm not worried bout him being here but there is no going back to what we were.

I agree with Elaine, Ethel hun. You really do need to draw a permanent line under this situation, as soon as possible. He will flip again. Don't let him manipulate you into thinking otherwise. Much love Saz xx

Sazbo

Morning everyone. Well, slept fitfully, but feeling a bit calmer this morning after yesterday's shenanigens at work :rolleyes: Right now I'm having my front door undercoated - see what an exciting life I lead?! :rotfl: Toast and tea, then acupuncture at 11. Hope you're all doing ok today.

Much love,
Sazzyxxx