depression

Sazbo

EthelBloggs wrote:

Howdy peeps.. I'm having helluva time at the mo..

Spent the weekend doing 5 black sacks of washing which daughter brought home because she moved to a new place today. B/F been like a bear with a sore !!!!.

Me and daughter had to leave the house early today (7.30) and so I ddn't realise b/f skived the day off work. He started harassing me with text messages from about 2.30pm onwards.. like...... I got about 50 msgs in less than an hour. come home to find hes smashed up the kitchen, my son's room - including his PC, various other parts of the house - he's thrown the cat litter tray everywhere... and he wont leave me alone. He keeps coming into the room where I am and screaming in my face. He slammed the laptop shut on my fingers and he's smashed some of the plugs on the wall so they're not usable. The phone's not working either.

My son will be home soon and I don't know waht to do.. if I send him to my mum's she'll get wound up too.. but I don't want him to be in the middle of all this

OMG Ethel - what's wrong with him? Why is he behaving like this?? You must tell him to leave, for you own safety. Don't let him stay in the house any longer. Are you ok? Sx

Horasio

My husband called me filthy names and of course my son sees this and he treats me badly. He is following his bullying example. My husband spoke to me like a child in front of visitors.

I am sick of being treated badly, my feelings being put down when I say I am upset, then blamed for it all. They are rude, they don't see it and it gets me down. Of course, I am to blame for feeling upset by it.

Of course, my husband is playing the, 'my mother is very ill' card and you don't rate game. I care about her being ill but I also care about respect in my home and my son and husband learning some basic respect!

EthelBloggs

thanks stenny.. problem is he's broke. He's wasted a month's wages in less than 2 weeks so he cant afford to go anywhere unless i give him the money. So far he has demanded I borrow money off me mum to give him and when I refused he said I should give him whats in my account. but even that's only enough to cover his train fares for the week so he stil wont leave. either that or I have to put up with im til he gets paid on the 20th.

your right bout him being the cause of most of my problems, he just makes things vey stressful al the time. wy do people change from being lovely sweet guys into monsters? i keep wondering if it's someing i do to make this happen or what cos it seems ot happen every fukkin time.

I'm just siting here in me corner trying to avoid him as much as poss which is how im able to be online, in case anyone is wondering. he's two floors above me so i can hear him coming a good few seconds before he gets near me

stenny_2

elona wrote:

Just wanted to say hello.

Spent most of the day in Leeds and got DD new shoes for work which she needs.

Got other DD pair of fluffy p.j.s as an early Christmas present from Primark.

Treated myself to a new pair of shoes ( o.k. then 2 pairs) as the ones I had on were falling apart!

Just got back and am sitting here with a nice cup of tea before I have to get my B** in gear to make tea for the family - probably pasta.

Hugs to everybody.

Hi Elona

Looks like you had a happy day shopping.
Glad you treated yourself, all you need now is a night on the tiles :rotfl:

EthelBloggs

Sazbo wrote:

OMG Ethel - what's wrong with him? Why is he behaving like this?? You must tell him to leave, for you own safety. Don't let him stay in the house any longer. Are you ok? Sx

hey sazbomb

from what i can gather.. it's because last night i was so knakcered i dint load the dishwasher, i asked my son to do it and he didnt bother.. also I left no money in the house for him this mornin.. well I din't know he was skint so didnt know i needed to.

stenny_2

EthelBloggs wrote:

thanks stenny.. problem is he's broke. He's wasted a month's wages in less than 2 weeks so he cant afford to go anywhere unless i give him the money. So far he has demanded I borrow money off me mum to give him and when I refused he said I should give him whats in my account. but even that's only enough to cover his train fares for the week so he stil wont leave. either that or I have to put up with im til he gets paid on the 20th.

your right bout him being the cause of most of my problems, he just makes things vey stressful al the time. wy do people change from being lovely sweet guys into monsters? i keep wondering if it's someing i do to make this happen or what cos it seems ot happen every fukkin time.

I'm just siting here in me corner trying to avoid him as much as poss which is how im able to be online, in case anyone is wondering. he's two floors above me so i can hear him coming a good few seconds before he gets near me

So what if he's broke , who comes first your safety and the kids or him?
What will he do next? ask yourself that!
Don't ask him to leave, go out and phone the police and get it done properly and get a restaining order put on him!
This is very serious Ethel.

This is gonna make you ill hun, please do something.

I know you have feelings but yourself your kids should be your main priority!

Sazbo

EthelBloggs wrote:

hey sazbomb

from what i can gather.. it's because last night i was so knakcered i dint load the dishwasher, i asked my son to do it and he didnt bother.. also I left no money in the house for him this mornin.. well I din't know he was skint so didnt know i needed to.

NONE of which is grounds for smashing your house up though is it? Nor are you to blame for him behaving like a complete t0sser. You really should tell him to leave asap - if he doesn't have any money well tough, you gave up work because he promised to provide for you - so how come you're giving HIM money? Sorry to be blunt hun, but I do think you should tell him to go... (((BIG HUGS))) Ethel hun xxx

stenny_2

EthelBloggs wrote:

hey sazbomb

from what i can gather.. it's because last night i was so knakcered i dint load the dishwasher, i asked my son to do it and he didnt bother.. also I left no money in the house for him this mornin.. well I din't know he was skint so didnt know i needed to.

That's a nice excuse for him, mmmm she's left me no money so i'll trash the place, smash up the PC, slam it down on her fingers, scream in her face?

God forbid, what whould he be like on a REALLY REALLY bad day?

Your worth more than this Ethel and deserve better!

elona

Ethel

You have got to get him out of there and do not believe that he will ever change.

You should not be in fear in your own home.

Could you phone his mum and tell her you are so scared a neighbour will call the police and he will be locked up.

Maybe she could calm the ***!

Is he drunk or on drugs or just a complete loon?

Bunnie1982

Feeling cheesed off today, had a really unproductive day at work because not many people were telephoning in.

Woman next door ran into our car on Saturday and we have been quoted £400 for repairs, so were gonna have to go through our insurance and we have been told that we may have to fork out £250 for the excess which we cannot afford to do (regardless of the time of year)

Had a right down day, jumped in the bath as soon as I got in and taken tablets for my headache.