depression

blinky

I have been following the thread today. Sorry I can't post to everyone.

Ethel - Nobody deserves to be treated this way, least of all you. Kick him out.

McClaren - No need to be sorry about your post.

Everyone I am thinking of you I know some of you are in a really dark place now.

It will get better
The pain will pass
It is worth going on
You are all good people and have a lot to offer the world.

I wish I could do more to help

EthelBloggs

Well.. he's calmed down now but i'm not interested in talking to him. I've made it clear that he's crosssed a line and it's over. Thing is he's saying he cant afford to go til he gets paid and i know he's going to use that time to try and softsoap me back so for me the sooner he goes the better. I don't want to involve the police cos it would just make things nastier

MushyPeas

mclaren wrote:

At the moment, i feel about a 3 on the scale

0 - the end - cant cope
1 - 2 - danger
3 - 4 sad
5 - 6 ok
7 - 8 good
9 - 10 feeling really good

Sorry for this post

Hey Mclare, don't feel sorry for the post, isn't this what the thread is for? Hope you are feeling a bit better tonight x

MushyPeas

EthelBloggs wrote:

Well.. he's calmed down now but i'm not interested in talking to him. I've made it clear that he's crosssed a line and it's over.

Gosh Ethel, what a huge and important decision, you are so brave. Good luck x

elona

Ethel

Do you have the time, space, energy and money to take care of another kid - albeit a big one - that is not yours and that is not your responsibility?

He needs to grow up but that is not your problem.

You deserve better and would be better off on your own without this waste of space battening on you.

The trashing of your home and putting you in fear is the last straw.

It has to end - the locks have to be changed - the police contacted and an injunction taken out to keep him away from you and your children!

stenny_2

EthelBloggs wrote:

Well.. he's calmed down now but i'm not interested in talking to him. I've made it clear that he's crosssed a line and it's over. Thing is he's saying he cant afford to go til he gets paid and i know he's going to use that time to try and softsoap me back so for me the sooner he goes the better. I don't want to involve the police cos it would just make things nastier

Everyone is just worried Ethel,
No woman should take that abuse from a man.
I know you have inner feelings but you desrve more than this.
I know it might be sad but this time next year you will be cured and thinking, 'what the hell was i doing'.

I really hope you do it, for the sake of your insanity and the kids well-being.

Big Huggzzzzz

blinky

EthelBloggs wrote:

Well.. he's calmed down now but i'm not interested in talking to him. I've made it clear that he's crosssed a line and it's over. Thing is he's saying he cant afford to go til he gets paid and i know he's going to use that time to try and softsoap me back so for me the sooner he goes the better. I don't want to involve the police cos it would just make things nastier

Brave decision hun. Will be thinking of you tonight

Horasio

Ethel, I am really concerned. Please keep posting, so we know you are OK

I hate days like today, starts out OK, then gets turned upside down.

Big hugs to who needs them

Sazbo

CCStar wrote:

Ethel, I am really concerned. Please keep posting, so we know you are OK

I hate days like today, starts out OK, then gets turned upside down.

Big hugs to who needs them

And to you hun. It's just been a horrid, nightmare day, CC. I'll be glad when it's behind us...

Horasio

I feel so alone and sad.

I thought we (OH and I) were making progress and getting along.

Every time I assert myself and stand up for what I believe in, I am painted to be the bad guy.

I care about everyone but I would like to be considered by my husband. I feel his mother rates above me (even if she is well), in fact I feel everyone rates above me when I am with him.

I believe I matter too but he has a way of making me feel bad about who I am.

Realising that, makes me realise it is over. Our son is copying him and I am really scared. I am living with two selfish people and I can't take feeling second rate around them any longer.