depression

gillette147

Sazbo wrote:

Gilly I cannot second Elona's post strongly enough. I am honestly appalled at how that doctor treated you. You were asking for help, for crying out loud, not the keys to the Pentagon :mad: Quite honestly, the way I'm feeling at the moment, she's damn lucky I wasn't there with you - I'd have socked her one. Please, please see a different doctor. Don't let one curmudgeonly a$$h0le stand between you and the help you need. Boy, when Tiff reads this she'll be a ticked Tiffy...

Much love,
Sazzyxxx

Because I went there with three things I just think I came over as a hypocondriac.

I can cope til january - im not sobbing in the street or gonna do anything silly.

Sazbo

gillette147 wrote:

Because I went there with three things I just think I came over as a hypocondriac.

I can cope til january - im not sobbing in the street or gonna do anything silly.

I guess it just saddens me to think you feel you have to 'cope' for any length of time, because of one doctor with a compassion bypass. Your call entirely, hun, but you are fully entitled to see another doctor. And certainly do if you feel you aren't 'coping'. Big hugs. Sxx

blinky

Even though you feel you can cope I would very tempted to go back and push harder.

As myself and others have pointed out Christmas can be a particularly bad time and it's also a time when it can be more difficult to access the GP.

I did once have a GP complain to me about the cost of my prescription for my antidepressants....

Horasio

Sazbo wrote:

CC - I don't think that sounds horrible at all. You're just trying to be realistic, see things as they are and not get sucked in by all the !!!!!!. But of course doing that makes you a 'tall poppy' - vulnerable to bad treatment from people around you weaker than yourself. They may resent your determination to see things clearly and not settle for treatment less than what you deserve. Hun all I can say is stick to your guns, if you can. Easy said, I know. Hugs, Saz xx

Don't talk to me about tall poppies. I have been one all my life.

Someone once said to me when I was thinking about emigrating to Australia, 'they don't like tall poppies'. I went there on holiday and found them to be rather unfriendly and ignorant. The Aussies here are OK tho'. I still don't know why they seem to glory in any English misfortunes. They sound to be joking but wonder if they really are.

Sometimes it is hard to keep strong when all around are chopping at you.

Horasio

Sazbo wrote:

CC - I don't think that sounds horrible at all. You're just trying to be realistic, see things as they are and not get sucked in by all the !!!!!!. But of course doing that makes you a 'tall poppy' - vulnerable to bad treatment from people around you weaker than yourself. They may resent your determination to see things clearly and not settle for treatment less than what you deserve. Hun all I can say is stick to your guns, if you can. Easy said, I know. Hugs, Saz xx

Don't talk to me about tall poppies. I have been one all my life.

Someone once said to me when I was thinking about emigrating to Australia, 'they don't like tall poppies'. I went there on holiday and found them to be rather unfriendly and ignorant. The Aussies here are OK tho'. I still don't know why they seem to glory in any English misfortunes. They sound to be joking but wonder if they really are.

Sometimes it is hard to keep strong when all around are chopping at you.

elona

Gilly

Any really good doctor would have realised that the comment at the end was the important one that really worried the patient.

She sounds like an opinionated ,intolerant ,insensitive "jobsworth" -just what you do not want as a doctor.

Can you tell that I am a bit peeved!

Is there anyone that could make another appointment for you with a different doctor and explain the situation?

I do not mean that you are not perfectly competent - just that sometimes it is easier for someone else to explain the situation and that they are worried about you.

Big hug and I hope that doctor gets a parking ticket!!!

elaine373

I have wondered lately if i have been depressed alot of my life.How does some-one know? I mean, what if they are sad alot of the time. How would they know what the norm is? Another question. I grew up with a fantastic mother who had to carry the load of her children alone.(Long story but basically we had an alcohoilic father)I was very aware of her struggle and unhappiness . I believe i sometimes set out within my marriage and life (not meaning to,) to behave how she did and to react to things how she did,which is probably what alot of us do after watching our parents behaviour for years. How does one break this cycle? I see things in my kids that i know they have copied so i am concerned that i do all i can , if i can. Is it right to muddle along or should we strive to be happy more than we are sad? IYKWIM.
Bit heavy i know but i would be grateful for any-ones opinion on this.Thanks.

gillette147

Welcome elaine,
You can be as heavy as often as you like here.
This is a wonderful place and we are all here to help and be helped.
I'm struggling with this same question too.

xx

stenny_2

WHAT A DAY!!!!:eek: :eek: :eek:

Picked mum up at 11.30 and took her to Asda's,
after 45minutes she was still in the 1st isle picking cards, i ended up going back and grabbing them of shelf and stuck them in her trolley, was in the shop till 2.05!:mad:

'Can you now take me into Matalan!!!! :eek: :eek: :eek:
1hour 20minutes!!! :mad:

'Can you take me into M&S as i forgot something for your Auntie ****'
(was only in shop half an hour thank god), but then she wants to go round the rest of the shopping centre!!!!:eek: :eek: :eek:

Finaly got her home by 5.10.

THEN

Can you go up in the loft for me, i need tree and decs down! :mad: :mad:
Can you find a radiator, someone is coming to put a new one in!:eek: :eek:

Grrrrr just got back in 10mins ago!
What pi**** me of is, i travel 23 miles to visit her, and my 3 brothers live just round the corner from her!

:mad: :mad: :mad:

Sazbo

elaine373 wrote:

I have wondered lately if i have been depressed alot of my life.How does some-one know? I mean, what if they are sad alot of the time. How would they know what the norm is? Another question. I grew up with a fantastic mother who had to carry the load of her children alone.(Long story but basically we had an alcohoilic father)I was very aware of her struggle and unhappiness . I believe i sometimes set out within my marriage and life (not meaning to,) to behave how she did and to react to things how she did,which is probably what alot of us do after watching our parents behaviour for years. How does one break this cycle? I see things in my kids that i know they have copied so i am concerned that i do all i can , if i can. Is it right to muddle along or should we strive to be happy more than we are sad? IYKWIM.
Bit heavy i know but i would be grateful for any-ones opinion on this.Thanks.

Hi elaine. Thanks for your post and welcome. My feeling is that life is necessarily composed of light and dark, and shades in between. It is not a question of wanting to be "happy" all the time - there will of course be things that make us sad - this is the balance, the yin and yang, the highs and lows - we wouldn't know what it is to be happy unless we knew sadness also. Does that make sense at all? Depression can be moderate or severe, but is something that puts that balance out of kilter and makes it difficult for us to cope with the normal run of light and dark. It can be triggered by internal or external factors, or a mixture of both, and of course ultimately needs to be tackled in conjuction with your GP. As for your children, perhaps it's natural that you, as a concerned mother, focus on those things they do that concern you, but they will have picked up many positive traits from you that will have come from being raised with care and love.

Just my thoughts hun, as always. Much love, Saz x