depression

rose07

Agutka wrote:

Snap out it, why are you crying, no point in crying, what's the matter? why are you upset, stop being upset. you're always in a mood. what is it now? god, you're always like that, why can't you be happy?

I can hear people say these things all the time. There are no answers and they can't accept that.

I was diagnosed with depression some 10 years back, but I got better within a year, stopped medication and sessions. Except reading this thread I am wondering if I am better at all. Thanks for making me think about it... It explains a lot. I'm not crying or feeling particularly blue, but have complete lack of motivation, ambition - could just be lazy :rolleyes: . But reading through my old diaries I am horrified at how unhappy I have been all my life. Which is making me question who I am? I don't think I know myself at all... If I am right to relate to the world as I do. Feeling extremely hard done by, but also feel I am misleading myself in some way. That I perceive the world all wrong. Should talk it over with someone really.

A recent incident - we decided to try for a baby, and after our first attempts didn't work I got, well, depressed. That is the correct word for it. I have never felt anything like it - like a huge black weight fell down on top of me, I knew it was wrong. It only thankfully lasted for four days but it scared me - I did not smile once, cried a lot, felt a weird restlessness and worst of all I felt an incredible urge like I wanted to hurt myself - that's what got me out of it - I literally walked it off one afternoon, as I was getting no support and was very close to something stupid. Very overwhelming. I can't see how people can live with that.
Mentioned this to my family and all I got was 'why? you shouldn't get upset, it's perfectly normal not to conceive at first' Yes I know that thank you. There is no reason for it and people just don't understand that.

Sorry to charge in there unannounced. Hope y'all are great this evening.

hi agutka welcome to the thread

yeah i have had people say those things to me, it doesnt help does it. some people seem to think its all about getting over it and snapping out of it, but its more about coping and dealing with how we feel and doing what we need to feel better, being it councelling, distarctions, or whatevers best everyone is different.

its ok to feel down sometimes and have set backs. have you felt like this a while? lack of motivation and things can be a sign of depression yeah, but it can also be if there has been something happening and a set back can bring back those things ou may have felt before? hey hope im making sense here, lol its late.
i think i have alot of confusion about where i belong as it were too, i think my depression has caused me to loose myself somewhat. i know what i want in life and have achived alot, but i have also a feeling of not feeling like a belong anywhere.

talk to someone hun, yeah def, can you talk to a hubby or friends? if you are able to tell someone then they might be able to help you.

soz to hear about trying but not getting what you wanted, but there will be more times wont there, whts that saying if at first you ont suceed try and try again. its hard when you want something soo much and it doesnt happen but if you can get through it with your hubby and talk to him, then you will grow stronger and things will happen in time, try not to put too much pressure on yourself.
hope i have mmade some sense there, lol ?
take care
and be kind to yourself
xxx

rose07

mclaren wrote:

its neither - its simplly plain ignorance imo. These people who are mentally ok think that its a joke and just are plain ignorant and dont care about what we think about etc....

i feel it is sometimes people dont know what to do, some people are ignorant and just cant understand depression, they are soo :mad: that they dont understand how we feel they prob even feel depressed themselves but dont admit it. then there are people that care and want to help but feel useless and like they will just make things worse all depends what kind of person you are i guess.

Slayerx

Hi I hope everyone is well.

I felt really down yesterday but I don't know why. I was at work and I just felt really upset and had to deal with it alone I didnt want to let it out I was afraid I wouldn't be able to control it.

It passed after a while but it just scared me to be upset for no apparent reason, I think I'm going to return to the GP next week and ask to see a diffrent doctor this time.

bettyboop61

Hello everyone,

Just been reading thru the threads for the last day or two, Rose I hope you're feeling better now after a good cry, you are like me, I try not to cry for ages until it just builds up and then you explode, then I feel stupid for crying, but afterwards I do sort of feel calmer, its better than what I did last year when I got all het up, I took a golf club and attacked all my potted plants in the garden, totally decimated them I did, and I think it only confirmed to my family that I was totally losing it, and I had to clear the mess up afterwards.... so having a good cry is the better option. I hope you have a good time with your mates Rose, its good to get together with friends.

Mclaren I think it is ok for men as well as women to cry, why shouldn't men experience the same feelings of sorrow and despair, they are only human too, I think it shows great sensitivity in a man that can show his feelings.

Flis I hope you have a good time in Milton Keynes seeing Robbie.

Hi Tiff, how are you today? You know I agree with Rose, if you feel you want to unload sometime we are here for you, as you know yourself it is not good to hang onto unwanted baggage(so to speak). I often wonder about you, because you give out excellent advice on here, but I worry about how you are coping yourself. I know how hard it is to get by day to day, but your posts always seem very upbeat, you're desperately trying to hide your sadness me thinks. Anyway enuff said by me I think. Just take care of yourself ok.

I hope the weekend will bring something nice for everyone on here, me I'm just doing yet more cleaning and ironing and cooking and washing etc you get the drift!!

Take care everyone and big hugsssss to you all
Betty

MinnieSpender

Hi all - I've been off this thread for a few days waiting for my meds to kick back in and trying to do positive stuff (like loads of exercise). Hands up all those who know how hard that is - oh! that's all of you then!

The good news is that I'm feeling a little better for being back on the ADs, the bad news is that the side effects are back - but I think I'd rather have them than depression. They should wear off in time.

My doc thinks that I may have to stay on ADs indefinitely (i.e. the rest of my life) which is kind of crushing news. However, she explained it well. She told me consider it as part of me and reminded me that treatment does work. A diabetes sufferer wouldn't stop taking insulin, for example.

I'm still waiting for psychotherapy (may be a long wait) but I'm feeling more hopeful at the moment.

It makes me sad that so many of you have had bad experiences with your docs. I did for eight years and finally changed docs which changed everything. Consider doing this if your current doc is no good.

Hugs to all xxx

Tiff_2

Natty68 wrote:

Hi everyone, hope everyone is doing okay..

Rose, hope you are feeling okay now hon, and you have had a good cry and you feel better for it.

I wish people wouldn't say "snap out of it", thats the last thing anyone needs to here - and I have lost count of how many times it has been said to me. I admit even DH used to say it at the beginning of my illness but now knows better. Well it wasnt until a nurse at the hospital I was in explained things to him that he stopped saying it..

I won't be around for the next week everyone - we are off on our jolly holidays to the sunny Cotswolds. We'ved rented a cottage and are going to take our lovely dog Bear with us, and the cats have their own cat sitter coming to look after them. See you all when I get back, hopefully fully rested

Have a great time Natty.

rose07

heya tiff, betty, mrs a, flis, slayerx and anyone else.
how are you all?
what a night. lol

tiff hope your being kind to yourself and that goes for all of you.
xxxx

Slayerx

Feeling a bit better today always do after going to church and having lunch at my friends.

flis21

Hi everyone. Had a fantastic time at the Robbie concert last night. Feel really tired and that this morning. At one point thought I was going to have a panic attack because it was soooo crowded, but I breathed through it, my friend helped me. I was determined not to be carried off and miss the concert.

Am doing ok, but have to go back and see my doctor on Friday, just for a check up. Things have been a bit better since I have been back on my medication and it helps that I have had a few things to look forward to recdently. Am having a job interview on Friday, which is good, but makes me feel very nervous and anxious. I just have to remind myself that it is normal to be anxious before interviews.

Anyway I hope that everyone is ok. I fieel a bit down, but that is mostly tiredness. Don't really know what to do with myself. Too tired to do anything, but am getting really restless just sitting here!

rose07

hello all

how is everyone today?
slayerx glad your feeling a bit better.
flis - wow robbie williams, that must have been great, what was the atmosphere like?

well i think i have a hang over, silly as that sounds but its been so long since i have had one i have no idea, not very well anyway. but ok.

tiff i forgot to wear me wellie boots, :rolleyes: ,
anyhooo hope your all ok
just a quick post as not feeling to well
xxxxxx