depression

maryotuam

I know this is a bit weird and probably of no use to anyone feeling depressed.
I suffered severe depression between the ages of 16 and 21 and again with two bouts of postnatal depression lasting about 6 months each.

However I was diagnosed with terminal cancer and given 6 months to live. (That was over 4 years ago and luckily for me it's progressing much slower than expected). The strange thing is I've rarely been depressed and have never felt mentally healthier than since my diagnosis. Every day is a precious day of my life and I wake up so glad to have another day. I'm not worried about what other people think any more and I'm greedy for every moment of life I can squeeze out.
Of course everyone being nice to me has helped and my medication keeps nasty symptoms at bay.
I have experienced the dark cloud and I know how overwhelming it can be but relish any minute with your loved ones however irritating they may be.

skintas_2

marytotuam i have also suffered from depresionn many times i ahve been told to snap outof it, sometimes it s better to tlak to people, i had sevre depression, first started when i was 12 my parents spilt up, then when i was 16 my sister diagonsed with sof tissue sarcoma sadly died, then in 2002 when i was pregant, had my drink spiked, assauletd. just remeber dont get to down tomorrow is another day take care g x

mclaren_2

skintas wrote:

many times i ahve been told to snap outof it

Nobody can just "snap" out of it - Depression is a serious thing - i used to think pepople could snap out of it but since ive had it, ive realised its not as easy as that:(

mclaren_2

flis21 wrote:

Well, it is fine to cry, it is a brilliant way to outlet your emotions.

ofcourse its ok for a woman to cry - its a natural thing

rose07

i def agree you can never just snap out of it its something that requirs support time and care.
think i am learning its ok to cry but to have never felt like i am allowed or to be hit or told of for having emotiona and not being able to release things, things just build up and explode like tonight.

flis21

mclaren wrote:

ofcourse its ok for a woman to cry - its a natural thing

It is ok for anyone to cry, Man or Woman.

My Mum has told me to 'snap out of it' before now, I think it is hard for people who haven't had it to understand that that is impossible.

Clazza - not all GP's are useless, just most of them!! Could you try requesting to see a different GP? or get him to do you a referral to the Community Mental Health Team, who will be more understanding.

Mary - thank you for posting. It does help the rest of us see that there is hope, depression is not necessarily something we will suffer with forever. I agree with what you say about relishing time with your loved ones, but it is difficult when you are in the black hole of depression and they just don't understand.

I hope everyone feels ok today, will talk to you all later.

Tiff_2

rose07 wrote:

thanks flis and djl
well my family are all out at the mo so they arent here.
just scared as i keep thinking things i shouldnt be.
got a banging headache now.
is it ok to cry then? my things always get locked and then explode. dont know if im making much sense?
x

Hi Rosie! :hello:
Bl**dy hell - I leave you on your own for 5 minutes & look what you've been up to!;) I'm not making light of it hun - are you ok? Families can be so stressful sometimes. Maybe you should sit them down and tell them how you feel & why. We often ASSUME that they know how we're feeling but some people need it spelling out to them. Being the woman you are, I'm sure you've tried this already - I just wish I could be of more help to you.

Right tea and sympathy over - grab yourself some cushions/pillows, give each one a name representing someone or something you hate right now and then beat the cr*p out of it! This will work in two possible ways:
- a) You'll feel better from the stress relief and also have had a good workout

OR

- b) You'll be quickly removed to the nearest clinic - especially if you did the cushion thing in public!;) - where you will be monitored, fed, allowed to sleep and the nice nurses will give you some pretty tablets!:rotfl:

Crying is actually very good for you angel. I was told that crying is your bodies way of releasing all the stress symptoms/chemicals from your body. Makes sense as we usually do feel better after a cry. At least you had the guts to post on here & get some replies offering good advice. You're a survivor Rose and you give great advice to posters. I'm thinking of you & I'm sorry I wasn't online last night to chip in. I just thought of a 3rd choice...
Do you want me to send said family members a special Tiff Letter?:rotfl:

I won't bore any of you with my stuff Rose - this would also have 2 possible outcomes...
a) - You wouldn't believe me if I told you!

OR

b) - You'd all end up even more depressed and I'd be banned from posting!:rolleyes:

We've got some new folks enrolling haven't we? Hi Everyone! Hi Betty, Flis, Slayerx!
Be kind to yourselves everyone. More Tiff later - did I just hear 16,000 PCs shutting down rather quickly?! :rotfl:
Much love x

rose07

thanks flis and everyone for last night
and thanks tiff

oo i know tiff cant be left 5 mins, lol
yeah i have tried to talk to my family tiff, but they are all busy at the mo, my mum comes home soo stressed sometimes. and i dont want any hassle. she can be very irratable and arguements can begin quickliy.
arh the cushion thing is great tiff, whack the cr*p out of it is great and imagining people .

i like the sound of a tiff letter. lol :rotfl:

yeah it was good to cry last night got some things out, and i think in the long run it did help. i may not have been told its ok to have feelings and cry,etc... but i am learning that each day and each step in this battle can make me stronger, and even though i had the set back of last night, im not going to let that get to me, (im too much of a tough cookie). so it is like a rollercoaster one minute you can be fine and the next right down, but i think if i and others are able to be strong from the rough times and think right last night was awful but today is a new day and i am not going to let it win, i will fight till the battle is won by me. hope that makes sense tae ya all.?

anyhow thanks everyone for the support last night it really helped to post how i was, dont do it often but good to know that when i need it the community here is here together.
and i feel alot better today so thanks :T

and tiff dont think your getting away from me that easily, im interested to know how you are, your like me. (a tough cookie) so share you gotta talk hun. ok so im being patronising now. lol . but i am a hard one to shock, and nothing gets past me. thanks tiff, you give good advice here and post and help soo many people, so why not let us return the favour and see if we can help or advice you on your situation? ok stopping now.

right hope everyone is ok, Mrs A, betty, slayerx, flis, welcome new people?,
take care of yourselfs
xxx

mclaren_2

flis21 wrote:

It is ok for anyone to cry, Man or Woman.

My Mum has told me to 'snap out of it' before now, I think it is hard for people who haven't had it to understand that that is impossible.

not in my book - male crying, i see it as weakness thus i never do it lol. im weak enough in peoples views dont wana go any further.

As for snapping out of it - as i said, it is impossible. shame some people cant see how it is impossible but thats the ignorant ones

flis21

Hi Rose, hope you are feeling a bit better today?

Am going to be off for a couple of days, am going to see Robbie Williams in Milton Keynes, so travelling up to my friend's in Horsham today and then we are continuing up to Milton Keynes early tomorrow morning.

It is a great way to beat depression, having something you are really looking forward to. I keep getting panicky about all the arrangements, but I am sure that it will be fab whatever happens.

Hope you all have a good night / day tomorrow and will speak to you all on Sunday.