depression

flis21

Thanks for that Nemo, it is always good to hear what has worked for other people, but we must also remember that the same things do not work for the same people. In the same way most of us have to try many different medications before we find one that works just for us. Depression is a very personal condition and is different in every person who suffers from it, in the same way what will help them out of depression is different.

Also as depressing as it sounds, I don't believe (well not in my case anyway) that depression is something you get once, then recover from. It is an ongoing condition that has to be managed so you can live your life as normally as possible. (Ok, my counsellor tells me off for using the word normal, but it seemed to fit here!).

This thread has grown so, as depression and mental illness are taboo subjects and it is very difficult to talk about them in the 'real' world without people judging you and treating you differently because of it. Here is the one place most of us can be totally ourselves and know that we are talking to people who can empathise with where we are coming from.

flis21

clipboard2 wrote:

A man was caught in a flood. Two men came by in a boat to rescue him, but he waved them away shouting: "NO THE LORD WILL SAVE ME".
One hour later another boat came along, but again the man said: "NO THE LORD WILL SAVE ME". Eventually, a helicopter arrived but the man insisted, "THE LORD WILL SAVE ME".
Unfortunately the man drowned and at the gates of heaven he asked St Peter:
"WHY DIDN'T THE LORD SAVE ME?"
and St Peter replied...
".....for crying out loud - He sent two boats and a helicopter;
What more do you want?!"


Joy to you all

Love, Angie

(am I being a fraud posting here when I've never suffered depression??)

Hello clipboard,

Posts are always welcome from anyone who is supportive and friendly. I am not sure what point your parable was intending to make? Maybe you could explain / elaborate, as it could be taken in different ways.

Sazbo

Morning everyone. Apologies for my being a bit scarce - or maybe that's not such a bad thing?! Work's been manic and then stuff in the evening too. Just catching up a bit with all your news...

Hi flissy - glad to hear you're back online and that you're doing ok. But maybe you should try feeding your rabbit a bit more! :D xx

FG - know you're travelling today and that you weren't looking forward to it. I just hope you're not findong it all too stressful. What happened with the doc, did you get referral hun? xx

Jilly - maybe best thing for your hubby is to concentrate on getting well right now? Because maybe otherwise, even if he did get another job, the underlying issues wouldn't have been adequately addressed. Just my thoughts. Take care. xx

Ethel - (((BIG HUGS))) sorry that your daughter's been taken ill. Will you be able to see her? Is she doing ok? Re your compassionless b/f...... :mad: Words fail me!! xx

Hi CCStar - how are you and how's the packing going hun? FG's right - try to focus on what you want and what you need to do to get there. As she says too, far easier said than done when people are trying to bring you down all the time, but try to keep going xx

Blinky - you've been great supporting everyone on here, thanks so much hun, especially since you've been under a lot of pressure at work yourself. Hearing from R hopefully has put your mind at rest a bit. When are you seeing her again? Hoping you have a slightly easier day today. xx

Hi to the rest of our gang, including Elona, Miro, rose and Tiffy - hope you're doing ok, much love to you and to everyone my single brain cell has inadvertantly missed.

Have a good day hunnies.

Love,
Saz xxxx

flis21

Hi Saz,

How are you?

I have just done something very scary. While I was really ill I lost touch with all my friends pretty much. Well, I went through my email address book and have just emailed everyone, apologised for not being in touch and told them what has been wrong with me. I wonder if I will get any replies? Haven't been in touch with most of them for nearly a year, as it was last December when I got really sick. (Although in my defence, none of them have tried to contact me in this time either!)

Well, just have to wait and see now!

Sazbo

flis21 wrote:

Hi Saz,

How are you?

I have just done something very scary. While I was really ill I lost touch with all my friends pretty much. Well, I went through my email address book and have just emailed everyone, apologised for not being in touch and told them what has been wrong with me. I wonder if I will get any replies? Haven't been in touch with most of them for nearly a year, as it was last December when I got really sick. (Although in my defence, none of them have tried to contact me in this time either!)

Well, just have to wait and see now!

Well done you! Takes guts to do that hun. Maybe you don't know how many will reply, but you can be fairly sure that the ones who do are true friends.... that's how I'd look at it anyway

I'm hanging in here hun. Everything feels like a bit of a slog at the moment though y'know?

Sx

Sazbo

Hi all, just stopping by to say I've gotta crash soon. Feeling tired. Also, tomorrow morning is my initial assessment for counselling. If any of you have time tomorrow morning to send me some virtual hugs, I'd really appreciate it. I know it's not a big deal really, loads of people have done it, but it's taken everything to get me to this point. Good night everyone. Sweet dreams, Saz xxx

blinky

flis21 wrote:

Hi Saz,

How are you?

I have just done something very scary. While I was really ill I lost touch with all my friends pretty much. Well, I went through my email address book and have just emailed everyone, apologised for not being in touch and told them what has been wrong with me. I wonder if I will get any replies? Haven't been in touch with most of them for nearly a year, as it was last December when I got really sick. (Although in my defence, none of them have tried to contact me in this time either!)

Well, just have to wait and see now!

Great and good luck!
It's often too easy to drift apart from friends even when you're well. When you're ill I always find I just want to withdraw from everyone - I feel as if I don't deserve to know anyone and I will contaminate anyone who comes close with my illness.

Blinky - you've been great supporting everyone on here, thanks so much hun, especially since you've been under a lot of pressure at work yourself. Hearing from R hopefully has put your mind at rest a bit. When are you seeing her again? Hoping you have a slightly easier day today. xx

I've always found it very hard to take compliments and I find it hard to understand why anyone would want to spend time with me - which is one reason I find 'R's interest in me difficult to understand

Sorry I haven't been around much v. busy at work and couldn't get a sneaky 10 mins to write a reply. Didn't get all my work done and kicked some of it back to boss.

This evening 'R's been battering me with texts (she's out on the lash with a mate) and it takes me ages to write a text.

Off work tomorrow - car needs MOT and service. Will do some Xmas shopping. Round at 'R's tomorrow night :happyhear so might not post back until Saturday.

Take care all and thinking of you all

xxx

blinky

Sazbo wrote:

Hi all, just stopping by to say I've gotta crash soon. Feeling tired. Also, tomorrow morning is my initial assessment for counselling. If any of you have time tomorrow morning to send me some virtual hugs, I'd really appreciate it. I know it's not a big deal really, loads of people have done it, but it's taken everything to get me to this point. Good night everyone. Sweet dreams, Saz xxx

Not sure if I'll have time in the morning but good luck!

Try not to get too nervous before hand, try and relax in the session (I know it's hard to do). Be honest - no point in the counsellor getting the wrong idea of what you are looking for or need, ask questions about any further sessions will work.

Be warned I've always found counselling bl**dy hard work. It does help you understand things better. As you're talking about things (especially in your past) it can be quite painful at the time and often I felt like sh*t when I came out.
Hopefully it will work out better for you. There are some good counsellors - I had a great one in Cambridge.

Sorry for the language

Good luck Let us know how you get on.

Anyone heard from EthelBloggs today? I know she's busy but I'm a little concerned she hasn't posted. I hope I haven't upset / offended her.:o

Thinking of you all.

Paul
xxxx

Some more hugs

EthelBloggs

I'm fine thanks for being concerned blinky

Just busy as hell.. grrrr.

Not really anything new to report today other than that I've almost finished the essay that's due in tomoorrow.. just doing the referencing which is the part I hate the most and find th emost time consuming, lol

Have a lovely time tomorrow blinky and make sure you relax and make the most of your day off

HOpe everyone else is fine.. sorry for causing worry

have a good day tomorrow and I'll see you over the weekend probably :hugs:

Horasio

Had a very strange day. Felt very good but only when alone. Firstly, my husband upset me by being gruff. Our son is meant to stay in Thursday nights but didn't come in till Midnight and was only allowed out for a short time as a one off. He disturbs us when he comes and worry he is OK if he is later than he says. I can't wait till he leaves and we sell this place. It seems to be taking forever. I feel so tested and drained. I can't have a life in these circumstances.

I told my husband I didn't feel supported by him and he was OK about it. Maybe it is a breakthrough but he also said we have different approaches to life, so maybe we are not compatable. I want to get rid of our son and him treating us like dirt and get away from the crap neighbours. I feel I am being treated badly by people around me. I am OK when I go out.

As I am writing this I feeling so angry and it should be time to sleep.