depression

EthelBloggs

evening all.. hope you're all holding on tight

Not feeling too bad today.. just knackered!!!! spent the evening doing some research for one of the essays I've got to do and it's soooooooo dull so I thought I'd come and annoy you lot a bit while i have a cuppa, lol

B/f is sooo annoying.. I made a comment that at least one of us bothers to do stuff in the house and he asked if I wanted him to give up his job so he can help too.. !!!!!! he's home by 5 every dayand he only works 8 hrs!!! most days I don't get home before 8 or 9 after an 11 or 12 hr day ... 5 would be lovely.. !!!!!!! lazy git he is!!

He wont even go the shop which is about ermm 100 metres from the house to get milk... really p's me off at times he does!

Mum's doing me nut in too.. she expects me to be there every spare minute of every day - she doesn't seem to take my studies seriously at all and she gives me such a hard time if I don't 'do my duty' crying down the phone and all that.

weird huh... even with all that sheeite going on, I don't feel too bad at the mo, hehehe

edited for typos :eek:

blinky

EthelBloggs wrote:

evening all.. hope you're all holding on tight

Not feeling too bad today.. just knackered!!!! spent the evening doing some research for one of the essays I've got to do and it's soooooooo dull so I thought I'd come and annoy you lot a bit while i have a cuppa, lol

B/f is sooo annoying.. I made a comment that at least one of us bothers to do stuff in the house and he asked if I wanted him to give up his job so he can help too.. !!!!!! he's home by 5 every dayand he only works 8 hrs!!! most days I don't get home before 8 or 9 after an 11 or 12 hr day ... 5 would be lovely.. !!!!!!! lazy git he is!!

He wont even go the shop which is about ermm 100 metres from the house to get milk... really p's me off at times he does!

Mum's doing me nut in too.. she expects me to be there every spare minute of every day - she doesn't seem to take my studies seriously at all and she gives me such a hard time if I don't 'do my duty' crying down the phone and all that.

weird huh... even with all that sheeite going on, I don't feel too bad at the mo, hehehe

edited for typos :eek:

- except the deliberate one. I didn't think young ladies new such words

Be careful of the frustrations...

With me the frustrations end up with me beating myself up and in the worst cases dispare

Don't want you wearing yourself out either.

Might be time to be try and be a bit firmer with your mother and explain you need some 'me' time and it would be better for both of you - you would have more energy when you saw her.

Tell BF to get off his fat lazy a$$. :eek: Okay we all forget to do things and nobody's perfect but just tell him if he helps out you'll feel better faster. Not stretching the truth but if you are less stressed and tired you will feel better.

Working silly hours and silly workloads isn't good - I know I've suffered for it too many times and it was the main reason why it I first posted here.

Sorry I haven't managed to catch up on all the posts, are you a student and if so what are you studying?

Thanks Sazbo, :A

I think I've had more than my share of bad days over the years. Just trying to keep busy enough at work so the days pass quickly without overdoing it. Soon be Friday and I can see 'R' again. We both miss each other - trying to keep feet on ground but it's hard (too early to use the 'L' word yet :blushing: ).

Got a 4 day week too - my car due for MOT and service so I'm using some of my leiu time :j. Gives me a chance to do some Xmas shopping in Toon as well.

Trying to pickup on reading some self help stuff.

Anyone had any experience with NLP (Neuro-linguistic Programming) and TLT (Time Line Therapy)? Would be interested in hearing all views positive or negative.

Sleep well and I look hearing from you tomorrow.

Paul
xxx

EthelBloggs

hiya paul.. yeah I'm a 'mature' student, lol Social Policy with Criminology and mostly loving it, just there's an awful lot of reading and if I didn't have other commitments I'd be absolutely fine, ya know? My mum is pretty old and her health isn't good so she does need lots of help.. I've got children and a cat and a lazy b/f and sometimes I do a bit of part time work, plus my daughter is in a long term hospital 90 mins from home (would only be 20 if I still had a car) and it just seems that I have to fight to get study time or time for me. You're right.. I do plod along pushing myself and then I crash every so often.

Bf doesn't think there's anything wrong with me so no help there, even tho I've explained to him lots of times the whats and why's etc.. grrrr he seems to forget or something, I dunno.

awww.. it's lovely hearing about you and 'R' There's nothing like the beginnings of a new relationship.. it's all so shiny and lovely and exciting.. I've got everything crossed for you to have a lovely time with her

Enjoy your day off and the shopping - reminds me I've got to do mine too. Urrggh.. I hate shopping, lol

Cya soon

PS I've no experience of nlp or the other thing you mentioned, although I do have a therapist who's about as much good as a cup of cold sick! Just takes up time I could spend on something more productive, lol gawd I'm cynical

blinky

EthelBloggs wrote:

hiya paul.. yeah I'm a 'mature' student, lol Social Policy with Criminology and mostly loving it, just there's an awful lot of reading and if I didn't have other commitments I'd be absolutely fine, ya know? My mum is pretty old and her health isn't good so she does need lots of help.. I've got children and a cat and a lazy b/f and sometimes I do a bit of part time work, plus my daughter is in a long term hospital 90 mins from home (would only be 20 if I still had a car) and it just seems that I have to fight to get study time or time for me. You're right.. I do plod along pushing myself and then I crash every so often.

Bf doesn't think there's anything wrong with me so no help there, even tho I've explained to him lots of times the whats and why's etc.. grrrr he seems to forget or something, I dunno.

awww.. it's lovely hearing about you and 'R' There's nothing like the beginnings of a new relationship.. it's all so shiny and lovely and exciting.. I've got everything crossed for you to have a lovely time with her

Enjoy your day off and the shopping - reminds me I've got to do mine too. Urrggh.. I hate shopping, lol

Cya soon

PS I've no experience of nlp or the other thing you mentioned, although I do have a therapist who's about as much good as a cup of cold sick! Just takes up time I could spend on something more productive, lol gawd I'm cynical

Thanks for your lovely comments. It's wierd with 'R' as even after the first date we both felt as if we've known each other for years. All good signs I hope. I wish we didn't have the blip the other week when I had a bad few days - I honestly think I'd blown it . Looking at the positives I think it helped her to understand me a bit better.

Social Policy with Criminology eh? Sounds interesting though for me I think I'd enjoy the Criminology part more. Glad you're enjoying it. I love studying and learning but I know I cannot take anymore on at the moment it would be too much.

Don't worry about being cynical - I can be incredibly cynical and self depricating too I wonder if it's related to our constant negative thoughts leads us to be more cynical? (Hmm.. I'll ponder that).

As for the boyfriend maybe it could be time for some tough love and stop doing things or at least stop doing things he 'forgets' to do? I was just wondering if you make things too easy for him to do nothing? (It's easy to become a doormat - done it too often myself). Would explaining you're not up to doing things and you'll become really ill if he doesn't help more? Are there any friends or relatives who could help out your mother (maybe even your boyfriend)?

Sorry to hear that your daughter is in a long term hospital. She's in my thoughts now.

Sleep well and I look forward to hearing from you tomorrow.

blinky

Morning all :hello:

Hope you all made it safely through the night and are doing well.

Look forward to hearing from you all and I'm thinking of you.

EthelBloggs

Mornin blinky.. mornin everyone

Well, it seems I got an unexpected day off.. buses are on strike and the victoria line is suspended so I've no way of getting to uni.. :eek: bit of a pain that but on the plus side it gives me a load of extra study time I wasn't expecting.

You're right blinky.. the criminology part is the more interesting, also doing social psychology and genes and society and sociology.. I'm doing the social policy part simply because it opens a lot more doors.

I think realistically b/f and I have come to the end of the road, it's just that he wont see it when I try n talk to him about it. There are a lot of issues, his lack of support is just one thing on a list, lol. That said, for the most part we still get on pretty well (apart from the odd row), its just that he makes my stress levels go thru the roof at times!!

have a good day everyone!

Horasio

I feel really switched off

I am supposed to be packing and sorting but somehow gone blank

I also feel my family two males take their time over everything. I have to nag and of course I am the bad guy but nothing gets done if I leave it to them. I have to live three lives, no wonder I am tired.

I am the bad guy if I feel cheerful/loving and they don't want to be and the bad guy if they are chirpy and I don't feel it. Why do I feel wrong in this family? Is it me or are they a/holes or is it a male thing towards women? I feel they are being passive aggressive towards me, yet if I am anything, I am wrong but they are OK being slobs.

I wish I was a good manager, so I could get them to do things without needing to be nagged, to do things cheerfully and run an efficient house, where I don't have to be on their case all the time or end up doing it myself and hating them for it. I would sack them if they worked for me.

I keep trying not to nag and be cheerful and nice to them but I feel angry with them most of the time. I have told them how I feel but it makes no difference. I get ignored or shouted at/put down for it.

I want to leave and be alone so I don't have them dragging me down - I need to be with people who aren't so lazy and uncaring.

Sazbo

CCStar wrote:

I feel really switched off

I am supposed to be packing and sorting but somehow gone blank

I also feel my family two males take their time over everything. I have to nag and of course I am the bad guy but nothing gets done if I leave it to them. I have to live three lives, no wonder I am tired.

I am the bad guy if I feel cheerful/loving and they don't want to be and the bad guy if they are chirpy and I don't feel it. Why do I feel wrong in this family? Is it me or are they a/holes or is it a male thing towards women? I feel they are being passive aggressive towards me, yet if I am anything, I am wrong but they are OK being slobs.

I wish I was a good manager, so I could get them to do things without needing to be nagged, to do things cheerfully and run an efficient house, where I don't have to be on their case all the time or end up doing it myself and hating them for it. I would sack them if they worked for me.

I keep trying not to nag and be cheerful and nice to them but I feel angry with them most of the time. I have told them how I feel but it makes no difference. I get ignored or shouted at/put down for it.

I want to leave and be alone so I don't have them dragging me down - I need to be with people who aren't so lazy and uncaring.

Hi CCStar. The thing is, if they both did their share then you wouldn't have to be nagging them in the first place would you? Why should it always fall to you to do all chivvying? And then be made to feel like you're in the wrong for doing it? Grrrrr! I just cannot deal with people who are a constant drain, which is why I've spent long periods of my life alone. Although if I'm being completely honest with you hun, that's not been a whole load of fun, either. So I don't know what the answer is. Hang on, oh yes I do - people we live with should be supportive. **Saz pinches herself and wakes up from dream** Hopefully the 8 weeks will pass, soonish... Sxx

Sazbo

blinky wrote:

Tell BF to get off his fat lazy a$$. :eek:

LOL! :rotfl: Blinky, that cheered me up no end! Sazx

Hi everyone. Hope you're not studying too hard today Ethel. I'm sure there must be a use for a cup of cold sick, but I must admit I can't think of one! :D (hmm, maybe a query for the Old Sytle thread?! )

Thinking of you all, lovlies.

Saz x

Horasio

Sazbo wrote:

Hi CCStar. The thing is, if they both did their share then you wouldn't have to be nagging them in the first place would you? Why should it always fall to you to do all chivvying? And then be made to feel like you're in the wrong for doing it? Grrrrr! I just cannot deal with people who are a constant drain, which is why I've spent long periods of my life alone. Although if I'm being completely honest with you hun, that's not been a whole load of fun, either. So I don't know what the answer is. Hang on, oh yes I do - people we live with should be supportive. **Saz pinches herself and wakes up from dream** Hopefully the 8 weeks will pass, soonish... Sxx

You are so right there. Trouble is they need to get packing too and then the house has to go on the market, so then how long that will take I don't know.

It is cold and rainy today, which isn't inspiring. I need a food or drink (not alcohol) to get me motivated to cope with the tedium and them coming in later. It all feels like an uphill drag to me and feel I have to do it all single handed. Thankfully, you are all a great comfort.