depression

Tiff_2

Hi rose, saz, cc, elona, blinky, bunnie, flis, fg, miro, slayerx, razorb, gemini, mrs.a, - aww heck, you all know who you are;)

Just popped in quickly.

Hey Rosie:) Glad you felt calmer - that's half the battle angel & now that you know it works, you'll be able to draw on it more and more. Each time you do it, it becomes easier. I want you to see GP angel ok? I know you're frightened but hun, anything will be better than the rough time you're having right now. You've been there before hun and you got some really good help and it got you feeling good again - THAT'S what you have to remember angel.;) I'm proud of you &thinking of you.

Hi fg hope today finds you a little happier. Been reading through your last few threads hun and I think venting is important for you when you're so isolated. look back through the posts to the one I wrote about pillows/cushions etc. Make sure you follow Elona's advice and tell the dr that OH won't let you take the ADs. Also please tell her about the drinking hun. These are all very important things. This is where you have to take responsibility of making sure the dr knows everything - print off your posts on here if you're likely to be unable to find the words angel. make sure you tell dr about your constant thoughts of suicide hun.

To the rest of the Motley Crue ( never an umlaut around when you want one!:rolleyes: ), I just want to remind you to be careful not to diagnose or suggest medications. We're not professionals and the kindest thing to do to help is to point someone in the right direction for help and support them in it. I'm NOT saying that anyone has, but just think we need a reminder every now & then bearing in mind the warning we got last week.;)

I also just wanted to say you're a great bunch of peasants:p , and I think it's wonderful the way we help each other. :T :A
Because we care so much about each other it's hard to read about someone thinking of suicide...no, not you Rosie:rolleyes: .
Please try not to post that 'goodbye' kind of message hinting at suicide. It's probably just me, but I find it really heartbreaking, worrying about people and whether they're about to do 'it' and just being on a keyboard where I can't really do anything.
PLEASE, if you are seriously considering it, see dr IMMEDIATELY or go to A&E for immediate help. You deserve it and it really is the only way.
I know we all get down, really down, & maybe the thought flashes through our heads but goes away fairly quickly. But the difference between thinking about it and posting it to a host of already vulnerable people, involves thinking as they're typing it & that to me feels wrong. If you need urgent help, please get it. We all help each other no matter what but threatening/hinting that you'll commit suicide affects people. I'm probably not explaining what I mean very well :rolleyes: If you're not planning suicide, I don't think you should post it as an intro as to how hard things are for you. You don't need to do that. Equally, please don't post if you're drinking a lot/drunk because you're not then being responsible for what you post and can't take in any helpful comments anyway. But this is just Tiff thoughts, for what they're worth.:o

I hope all of you on a promise for the weekend, get it:rotfl: and that you will be kind to yourselves. :T

Got some stuff going on in Tiffworld :rolleyes: so I'm not sure when I can get back to you guys. Having said that, with all I've just said, you won't have me back and you'll bar me. :silenced: But everything I've said is only meant with love and for the best for the group overall.
Sazzy, please make sure you spend the next 48 hours reassuring our Rose that I'm NOT talking about her, bless her. Make me proud Rosie & get to that GP!
So behave all of you (well not too much:D ) and look after yourself and each other. Thinking of you all as always.:lovethoug :lovethoug :lovethoug :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug:
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

feelinggood_2

Thanks for the post Tiff, will take on board what you said.
Thank you all for your help

blinky

Tiff wrote:

To the rest of the Motley Crue ( never an umlaut around when you want one!:rolleyes: ), I just want to remind you to be careful not to diagnose or suggest medications. We're not professionals and the kindest thing to do to help is to point someone in the right direction for help and support them in it. I'm NOT saying that anyone has, but just think we need a reminder every now & then bearing in mind the warning we got last week.;)
.....

Much Love,
Tiff xxx

I don't think I've overstepped the mark, and if I have I apologise.

While not pointing out specific treatments or diagnoses it is important to remember that there are different options and channels of support out there (in addition to us ).

I know from my own experience and talking to others that it is often very difficult to see that there are any options at all when you are feeling low.

When we are low it can be very difficult to talk about things and you feel even less willing to be pushy with G.P. / psychiatrist / mental health worker to get them to even think about different approaches. Using an advocate or a friend can help as they can be pushy on your behalf.

Anything else I've suggested has been things I know can help, largely from my own experience. I know my suggestions might not help anyone but I'm trying to be supportive as best I can.

Some of the other posters have mentioned isolation. For me that's a biggie - if I feel isolated I get more anxious, panicky and my mood drops lower.

It only took me 30-odd years to realise I am a people person and I need human contact otherwise I wilt .

I find that when I'm depressed I just want to withdraw totally. - How can I expect anyone to want to spend any time with me if I can't stand myself? I feel as if my depression is a highly contagious disease that will spread to anyone who I spend time with. Of course, the isolation just feeds the depression....

I also know from my own experience that it is much easier to give advice but it is much harder to take it on board yourself.:o

I won't apologise for trying to help people. I might be very good at it but it helps me get through the days and I like helping people.

Hope this helps you understand me a bit more and also that it helps you even a tiny bit.

Anyway, meeting 'R' in about an hour so I'd better start getting ready soon. Please all have a safe evening and I look forward to chatting more soon.

Paul
xx

Miroslav

feelinggood wrote:

Thinking of you Miro, hope you feel better soon x

Thanks. I'm not too good and still 2/3 hours to go.

Hopefully 'S' won't cancel tomorrow, i'm clinging to that hope, to get me throiugh.

Miroslav

Sazbo wrote:

Hi Miro - hang in there hun, it's a real drag being holed up with people you don't want to be around. Can you engineer a reason to "nip out for a while" and use some time up like that? And by the way - don't think I missed the brussel sprouts comment earlier, I will be dealing out punishment for that later...

Saz :wave:

I hate this, it brings me down really badly Usually takes me days to get back to any kind of normality, which isn't great anyway.

Praying 'S' does not cancel, especially not whilst i'm still here!!

Can't go anywhere really

Ahhh, the sprouts comment

You should be on way home for weekend now.....:)

Miroslav

I'll try and reply to people over the weekend........see how I feel after today. I'm likely to be totally depressed!

I'm clinging on to the thought of seeing 'S' tomorrow.

EthelBloggs

evenin all

Hope everyone's keeping their heads above water

Saz.. my presentation was ok.. could have been worse but could have been a lot better too, lol although it did start a debate about whether chav culture is structural or a lifestyle choice, lol

Went n had lunch at my mum's afterwards an fell asleep... woke up about an hour ago.... eeeeeeeek!! she wasn't impressed, lol

On the plus side.. it's fridaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay!!!! no plans other than to relax and not worry about deadlines til tomorrow, lol

have a good one everyone as best you can.. Miro you have my sympathy regarding the dodgy relatives.. *hugs* not long to go til you can escape

Miroslav

EthelBloggs wrote:

Miro you have my sympathy regarding the dodgy relatives.. *hugs* not long to go til you can escape

1 or 2 hours..........hopefully that is all!

Trying to find something to do online, to waste some time.

Last time I came here, was the time I started to get really ill again

EthelBloggs

try not to let that happen again.. they're not worth it clearly

*huggs*

Sazbo

Tiff wrote:

Hi rose, saz, cc, elona, blinky, bunnie, flis, fg, miro, slayerx, razorb, gemini, mrs.a, - aww heck, you all know who you are;)

Just popped in quickly.

Hey Rosie:) Glad you felt calmer - that's half the battle angel & now that you know it works, you'll be able to draw on it more and more. Each time you do it, it becomes easier. I want you to see GP angel ok? I know you're frightened but hun, anything will be better than the rough time you're having right now. You've been there before hun and you got some really good help and it got you feeling good again - THAT'S what you have to remember angel.;) I'm proud of you &thinking of you.

Hi fg hope today finds you a little happier. Been reading through your last few threads hun and I think venting is important for you when you're so isolated. look back through the posts to the one I wrote about pillows/cushions etc. Make sure you follow Elona's advice and tell the dr that OH won't let you take the ADs. Also please tell her about the drinking hun. These are all very important things. This is where you have to take responsibility of making sure the dr knows everything - print off your posts on here if you're likely to be unable to find the words angel. make sure you tell dr about your constant thoughts of suicide hun.

To the rest of the Motley Crue ( never an umlaut around when you want one!:rolleyes: ), I just want to remind you to be careful not to diagnose or suggest medications. We're not professionals and the kindest thing to do to help is to point someone in the right direction for help and support them in it. I'm NOT saying that anyone has, but just think we need a reminder every now & then bearing in mind the warning we got last week.;)

I also just wanted to say you're a great bunch of peasants:p , and I think it's wonderful the way we help each other. :T :A
Because we care so much about each other it's hard to read about someone thinking of suicide...no, not you Rosie:rolleyes: .
Please try not to post that 'goodbye' kind of message hinting at suicide. It's probably just me, but I find it really heartbreaking, worrying about people and whether they're about to do 'it' and just being on a keyboard where I can't really do anything.
PLEASE, if you are seriously considering it, see dr IMMEDIATELY or go to A&E for immediate help. You deserve it and it really is the only way.
I know we all get down, really down, & maybe the thought flashes through our heads but goes away fairly quickly. But the difference between thinking about it and posting it to a host of already vulnerable people, involves thinking as they're typing it & that to me feels wrong. If you need urgent help, please get it. We all help each other no matter what but threatening/hinting that you'll commit suicide affects people. I'm probably not explaining what I mean very well :rolleyes: If you're not planning suicide, I don't think you should post it as an intro as to how hard things are for you. You don't need to do that. Equally, please don't post if you're drinking a lot/drunk because you're not then being responsible for what you post and can't take in any helpful comments anyway. But this is just Tiff thoughts, for what they're worth.:o

I hope all of you on a promise for the weekend, get it:rotfl: and that you will be kind to yourselves. :T

Got some stuff going on in Tiffworld :rolleyes: so I'm not sure when I can get back to you guys. Having said that, with all I've just said, you won't have me back and you'll bar me. :silenced: But everything I've said is only meant with love and for the best for the group overall.
Sazzy, please make sure you spend the next 48 hours reassuring our Rose that I'm NOT talking about her, bless her. Make me proud Rosie & get to that GP!
So behave all of you (well not too much:D ) and look after yourself and each other. Thinking of you all as always.:lovethoug :lovethoug :lovethoug :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug:
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiffy hun, thanks for posting, really sorry your having such a hard time - really do hope everything comes good in Tiffworld You deserve it, really you do. I'm typing this right now from the naughty step :) (a specially lowered one ) We all mean to stay in line, but really we're a just a bunch of unruly kids and we need you to keep us on track Tiff! So please don't be gone for long. Take really good care of yourself and check back with us when you can... (I've given instructions to the bouncers that it's ok to let you in )

Take care hunnie, much love meanwhile, Saz xxx