depression

rose07

jellycat40 wrote:

Hi FG, can't believe that OH did not believe you.

I was raped 22 years ago and never once has my partner not believed me.

I had to go through it all again recently when I met my current partner and for the first time let myself really feel it. I can so understand what you were feeling. It is just like being back there in that situation so powerless and desperate you will do anything to make sure you survive.

Please be very, very kind to yourself today.

Louise

hi jellycat
how you doing?
it seems there are a few of us that have been through similair events.
i only told my parents last christmas, they were shocked, and did not know what to say, i was doing a project at the time all about my experience, and they wanted to know what it was about, i ended up telling them and they thought i was joking, i never joke. lol
it was soo hard to not tell them for two years, each time i went home i pretended nothing had happened, i told my closest friends and that was it.

how did your appointment go today? is all ok?
xxx

feelinggood_2

Evening all
I'm feeling good at the moment, still missing person X tho
And I'm still dressed! A whole day with clothes on, rather remarkable!
Still not decided on the med's side of things, the doctor wasn't really that helpful. Suppose I should just research it - want to find out what sorta % of people get worse on Prozac.
Miroslav - I'll be thinking about you tomorrow, hope you manage to get some sleep tonight.
Oh, I spoke to an old freind earlier - we were never that close (she actually broke a bone in my face when she punched me once lol) and we had a big chat - turns out she was raped by a family friend at the same time as me, and has had all the similar problems - drink, sex, anxiety, depression, self harm and things. Nice to talk to someone in real life, and it sort of helped us both understand why we were like we were in highschool.

flis21

Hi All,

Well you were right. Posted on here that everything was good and I was feeling fine, then something !!!!!! happens! My hamster has died today. She was 2 years and 8 months old, which I know is really old for a hamster, but it still hurts like hell. We got her to keep me company when oh was at work, as he works shifts and was often away in the evenings or at the weekends. I spent hours talking to her and playing with her, used to build her little assult courses and let her run round in her ball for ages, which she loved.

I know some of you will think I am silly being that upset about a hamster, but I was so close to her and I loved her a lot. Sorry to go on, but I have tears streaming down my face. I feel like getting really drunk, but don't want to go into work with a hangover tomorrow, would not look good when I have only been there 1 week!! Think I will have to take a sleeping tablet tonight tho, otherwise no way I am getting to sleep.

Sorry to dump on you all.

feelinggood_2

Oh Flis, I'm so sorry.
I'm writing a longer reply, hold on...

Don't feel silly at all! I've got a hamster (my 6th - lovely things aren't they!) and I know I'm going to be devestated when he leaves. They really do bring so much happiness, they are right characters aren't they! Each one of mine had such different personalities, and they really do help cheer you up.

You must be feeling really sad, but that is a good thing - it means you loved her very very much. It hurts when pets leave us, but remember that the pain will ease.

Allow yourself time to grieve, and don't for a moment think it is silly. You loved her, and it does hurt. Look after yourself, have an easy night, and maybe plan something nice you could do after work tomorrow?

If you want to talk to a fellow hamster lover, I'm here!

**loads and loads and loads of hugs**

Sazbo

flis21 wrote:

Hi All,

Well you were right. Posted on here that everything was good and I was feeling fine, then something !!!!!! happens! My hamster has died today. She was 2 years and 8 months old, which I know is really old for a hamster, but it still hurts like hell. We got her to keep me company when oh was at work, as he works shifts and was often away in the evenings or at the weekends. I spent hours talking to her and playing with her, used to build her little assult courses and let her run round in her ball for ages, which she loved.

I know some of you will think I am silly being that upset about a hamster, but I was so close to her and I loved her a lot. Sorry to go on, but I have tears streaming down my face. I feel like getting really drunk, but don't want to go into work with a hangover tomorrow, would not look good when I have only been there 1 week!! Think I will have to take a sleeping tablet tonight tho, otherwise no way I am getting to sleep.

Sorry to dump on you all.

flis, you're not being silly at all. Although my hamster died when I was a child, I was devasted for ages about it. We form attachments to pets as much as humans, so it's understandable to grieve them when they go. Hope you get some sleep tonight. Saz x

Miroslav

rose07 wrote:

ok firstly, yes im glad you wash and things, you are truly one of the good guys.

ok is it tuesday tomorrow, i am not very good with all this (the whole days of the week):o

she may not be used to a guy like you but give it all a chance you are jumping the fence bfore you can see it. she sounds like she may need someone and you may need someone too, but as i say just be yourself, and try and chill.

its good you want to be just friends, make this clear to her, or even if you wanna be close friends, have a good communication from the start.

ok good way to start things tomorrow

say hello my name is .. . . . .
how are you?

thats it. then you wait.....

and conversation will start

i realli hope it goes well
will be thinking of you
xxx

It is Tuesday tomorrow

What happens if we meet (remember my f/m8 will be there) and we talk and stuff, but afterwards we just say goodbye? Would it be too forwards to say i'd like to meet again? What do I do..........tell her to go through my f/m8, give her my number........???? Never had to do this before

I hope I am 'normal', I mean, I could make a prat of myself, or not say much, or make her think I was after something else

My flatmate will introduce us......

Hello, i'm Miroslav, it's lovely to meet you? (Shake hand???)



If it goes ahead

Miroslav

feelinggood wrote:

Evening all
I'm feeling good at the moment, still missing person X tho
And I'm still dressed! A whole day with clothes on, rather remarkable!
Still not decided on the med's side of things, the doctor wasn't really that helpful. Suppose I should just research it - want to find out what sorta % of people get worse on Prozac.
Miroslav - I'll be thinking about you tomorrow, hope you manage to get some sleep tonight.
Oh, I spoke to an old freind earlier - we were never that close (she actually broke a bone in my face when she punched me once lol) and we had a big chat - turns out she was raped by a family friend at the same time as me, and has had all the similar problems - drink, sex, anxiety, depression, self harm and things. Nice to talk to someone in real life, and it sort of helped us both understand why we were like we were in highschool.

Nice to hear you spoke to someone today, and you had clothes on all day!!!

I'm not sure i'm gonna get any sleep.......gonna go bed early though, try and stop the panic!

rose07

flis21 wrote:

Hi All,

Well you were right. Posted on here that everything was good and I was feeling fine, then something !!!!!! happens! My hamster has died today. She was 2 years and 8 months old, which I know is really old for a hamster, but it still hurts like hell. We got her to keep me company when oh was at work, as he works shifts and was often away in the evenings or at the weekends. I spent hours talking to her and playing with her, used to build her little assult courses and let her run round in her ball for ages, which she loved.

I know some of you will think I am silly being that upset about a hamster, but I was so close to her and I loved her a lot. Sorry to go on, but I have tears streaming down my face. I feel like getting really drunk, but don't want to go into work with a hangover tomorrow, would not look good when I have only been there 1 week!! Think I will have to take a sleeping tablet tonight tho, otherwise no way I am getting to sleep.

Sorry to dump on you all.

your not being silly and you dont need to apologise, we are here for you.

i am soo sorry to hear about your hamster, what was its name?
animals in our families, no matter how small or tall make a big impact on our lives, they are our companions.

try to think of the good times,
may not me wise to drink, try and breathe instead.

im very soz, and we are here if you want to talk
much love
xxx

feelinggood_2

Miroslav wrote:

It is Tuesday tomorrow

What happens if we meet (remember my f/m8 will be there) and we talk and stuff, but afterwards we just say goodbye? Would it be too forwards to say i'd like to meet again? What do I do..........tell her to go through my f/m8, give her my number........???? Never had to do this before

I hope I am 'normal', I mean, I could make a prat of myself, or not say much, or make her think I was after something else

My flatmate will introduce us......

Hello, i'm Miroslav, it's lovely to meet you? (Shake hand???)



If it goes ahead

I personally wouldn't shake hands, just a nod and a smile I think is best. Some people don't like having to shake hands, might make her feel a little bit uncomfortable.

If things go well, I'd just casually mention that you'd like to do this again, if she seems keen, then say, do you want me number to let me know when your free? That way, it leaves her in control, and lets her think about things, which she will probably want to if she isn't used to nice guys.

Try not to fret (easier said than done!), try and be yourself. You don't have to try and prove anything, or be anyone, or say anything witty or funny. Just be you - hopefully she'll be able to see how nice and genuine you are.

What time is it tomorrow? Will you be back to let us know?

Miroslav

flis21 wrote:

Hi All,

Well you were right. Posted on here that everything was good and I was feeling fine, then something !!!!!! happens! My hamster has died today. She was 2 years and 8 months old, which I know is really old for a hamster, but it still hurts like hell. We got her to keep me company when oh was at work, as he works shifts and was often away in the evenings or at the weekends. I spent hours talking to her and playing with her, used to build her little assult courses and let her run round in her ball for ages, which she loved.

I know some of you will think I am silly being that upset about a hamster, but I was so close to her and I loved her a lot. Sorry to go on, but I have tears streaming down my face. I feel like getting really drunk, but don't want to go into work with a hangover tomorrow, would not look good when I have only been there 1 week!! Think I will have to take a sleeping tablet tonight tho, otherwise no way I am getting to sleep.

Sorry to dump on you all.

Not silly at all, sorry to hear about the Hamster

When my cats pass, i'm gonna ball my eyes out............it just so happens, 4 of the 5 will be 12 tomorrow (the other is 12 already) maybe it's the only thing i'll celebrate tomorrow

It'll take time to get over a loss, pets are important to us, part of the family.