Your take on having children later in life?

quickstepqueen

I'm sort of having the same crisis Milky_Mocha. Am 31 myself and my friends are having kids. I don't feel broody and am not even sure if I do want kids (though will never say never.)

When I was younger always thought I'd have kids in my early twenties like my mum did. She had me at 21 and my sis at 24 and now her and dad are still working and are having the most wonderful social life. Mum has said though that when she had us kids all her mates were out socialising and she did feel a bit left out.

I wonder when I'll ever get round to deciding to have kids. I read an article somewhere recently that said women were selfish to have kids in their 30's!! I know at our local hospital women over 30 are now classed at older mums-to-be!! (But at least with this label they give you loads more check-ups and tests etc.)

Don't feel pressured MM but I do know what you mean about hearing that clock tick. I guess you're worried that you'll wake up one day feeling broody but that it might be too late. Go with the flow MM. I do think that your body will tell you when it's ready (well that's what I'm hoping anyway.)

Good luck.

alanobrien

We started to have kids when my wife was in her early thirties. Just our preference, it gave us time to get a decent place to live and for me at least to mature into more of an adult.

We now have two boys of 5 and 2 who drive me nuts but i would not want to ever be without them.

The down side is that the older you get the harder it is to keep up with them but for me especially maturity brought more patience and understanding which i hope the kids will benefit from.

I guess you make you choice........

Milky_Mocha

Well, well well! How time flies! When I started this thread in January this year I didn't think I'd be saying this in November but guess what? Recently found out I'm expecting!! Come to think of it, although it wasn't exactly planned, the timing is right as I'd be 29 when the baby is born. One year ahead of my plan but still not bad at all. DH and I are both very excited and it almost seems as if friends and family are more excited than I am! On my checklist I tick all the boxes for things I want to have done before I have a child. I hope I tick all the boxes in future for being a good mother.

So congratulate me someone :-)

skylight

Congratulations!!


Whoo-ho!!!!!!

skylight

And just to add my tuppence in,

I had my 1st at 19. Now 31 and onto my 3rd.

I was told with the first, that younger mums have more time and energy to devote to their kids, but the older mums have more money and patience!

Swings and roundabouts.

rchddap1

Well done to you.

Milky_Mocha

charlotte664 wrote:

And just to add my tuppence in,

I had my 1st at 19. Now 31 and onto my 3rd.

I was told with the first, that younger mums have more time and energy to devote to their kids, but the older mums have more money and patience!

Swings and roundabouts.

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jellyhead

wahey! congratulations :-)

i had one baby at 24 and another at 33. the second pregnancy was harder, i was more tired but as for keeping up with the baby i don't think there's much difference really. i'm 34 now with a 17 week old baby and everything is fine. 34 isn't old, i'm not ready for the pipe and slippers yet :-) my parents are in their 50's and they still race around beaches etc. with the grandchildren and go on rollercoasters with them. being in your 30's is nothing. neither of the grans are menopausal yet and hopefully mine won't happen until the baby has passed his teens.

whatever your age i think that waiting until you're ready is the best thing. i had a wild time before having my first baby so even though i felt young at 24 to be having a baby i had done everything i wanted to do. i even know people who had babies in their teens and think that they made the right choice. as long as you're ready, it's the right time. i've felt right with both of my pregnancies despite having 9 years between them.

it's so exciting, another MSE baby!!

Kitikat

Congratulations Milky Mocha.

I was like you about 10 years ago, although I had a stable very long term relationship I didn't want children and got sick and tired of people trying to perduade me otherwise. Anyway had my first child when I was 30 and my second 18 months later when I was 32. It was hard work for the first year or so but as soon as they started playing together and entertaining each other life became so much easier. I now stand outside the school gates at 40 and I'm not old, I don't know if it's just the area where I live but I don't know many young mums. We have time and money and patience for our children now and for us it was the right decision to wait until we were ready to have them such that we could give them everything they need. Don't regret being an 'old mum' for a minute.

I bet you'll feel the same in 10 years time.

tru

Congratulations Milky Mocha :T