Oh Lordy, some advice here please!

whitewing

I would fill in a CEOP report:

http://www.ceop.gov.uk/mediacentre/pressreleases/2009/ceop_04082009.asp

They will probably be able to handle the situation quicker than anyone, in the best way. The fewer people who see it the better.

mandi

Hi Shell

If you decide to call you do so anonymously . I have done in the past , also if you check the link you can have an online chat so you dont even have to make the call.

Lets know how you get on , good Luck with it x

shellsuit

pavlovs_dog wrote: »

although the girl in question is extremely silly, if it's been posted to facebook by someone else then it's cyberbullying. if you feel comfortable doing so, print off the info or do a screen dump of it.

Good idea! It just feels wrong snagging a pic of a kid in their underwear, but like you said, it's not her that's personally put that on facebook.

If I ring school, do you think I'd be within my rights to ask to discuss it with a female teacher, or is that being sexist?

I wonder if I could get into my daughters facebook account ~ if I ask her to go onto it so I can print it off, then it all blows up, my kids will know it was me and they could have repercussions. (Your Mum grassed me up blah blah blah)

I need a stiff drink! :cool:

shellsuit

mandi wrote: »

Hi Shell

If you decide to call you do so anonymously . I have done in the past , also if you check the link you can have an online chat so you dont even have to make the call.

Lets know how you get on , good Luck with it x

Oh I don't mind doing it online, thanks Mandi, I'll grab a drink and get onto that xx

SUESMITH_2

please please call the school ASAP as this is so serious

my dd was a victim of facebook bullying, we knew nothing about it as she hadnt been online the previous day (thank god) but it was other kids and parents who took the time to phone and actually go into school to tell the head about it that helped get it sorted very quickly

CG77

Hi Shellsuit,

I'd leave it at that for now-by reporting it, you've done your bit. :-)

In terms of speaking to school, I'd just speak to the Head of Year 9 and trust them to deal with it sensitively. Heads of year are used to dealing with sensitive issues and will pass on the info to the appropriate people.

Now sit down and have that drink-there's not much more you can do until 9am. :-)

CG. x

pavlovs_dog

shellsuit wrote: »

Good idea! It just feels wrong snagging a pic of a kid in their underwear, but like you said, it's not her that's personally put that on facebook.

If I ring school, do you think I'd be within my rights to ask to discuss it with a female teacher, or is that being sexist?

I wonder if I could get into my daughters facebook account ~ if I ask her to go onto it so I can print it off, then it all blows up, my kids will know it was me and they could have repercussions. (Your Mum grassed me up blah blah blah)

I need a stiff drink! :cool:

oh shell, i don't envy you - what a situation to be in!

assuming it's your daughter who had the problems earlier in the year, i think she will understand better than most how important it is that the school has cold, hard evidence to deal with rather than hearsay and accusations.

your daughter is not the girl's only facebook friend - you yourself said how many people have commented on the picture. it could have been anyone of them who brought it to the attention of the school.

you can also ask the school what they will do to ensure your daughter's annonymity.

shellsuit

pavlovs_dog wrote: »

oh shell, i don't envy you - what a situation to be in!

assuming it's your daughter who had the problems earlier in the year, i think she will understand better than most how important it is that the school has cold, hard evidence to deal with rather than hearsay and accusations.

your daughter is not the girl's only facebook friend - you yourself said how many people have commented on the picture. it could have been anyone of them who brought it to the attention of the school.

you can also ask the school what they will do to ensure your daughter's annonymity.

I now have the girls name who is in the picture, and the girls name who posted the picture.

The girl who posted the picture had made some derogatory comments underneath it ~ when I just went up again to speak to son and daughter, there were 151 comments on the pic.

It didn't even dawn on me about bullying at first as I was so shocked to learn about the video.

But Yes, if someone posts a picture like that, just to gain nasty comments about one person, then it is clearly bullying.

stef240377

Didnt want to read and run. I have children in same year at school and when my daughter had some bother last year at army cadets - a lad pulled a knife on her and was mouthing off - the school didnt want to know because it happened out side of the school even bearing in mind the lad is in her year and known to carry the knife in school for protection after getting a smack in the mouth for gobbing off at someone obviously bigger and harder than him.

I attempted to persue it through the school emphasising the anti bullying guidelines etc they print in the kids planners and the actual welfare of my daughter and others while the knife could still be in school and just got told to raise it with the police if i were concerned - and all this at a time when knife crime is at its highest.

So i can see the school telling you that as FB is blocked from school access (it is in both the high schools my kids attend) that it is a private matter that you must raise with her parents if your concerns warrant you to.

My daughters case was resolved with the Staff Serg removing the knife on the next cadet night after he had been flaunting it again and we paid a visit. His parents were mortified when they found out as they had no idea what was going on but it has now been destroyed.

Like others have said report it to fb and let them block the account.

daska

Personally I would still print off the offending pic and comments and send them to the school because this kid has obviously made herself vulnerable to bullying, the school might not be able to do anything about FB itself but this is likely to impact the behaviour of their students while on school premises. It's also possible that the school might know, or have an inkling that something is going on that might mean the girl needs more support/intervention. But if I were you I'd send it direct to the head, not via the useless item that dealt with your daughter's problem. You don't even have to put your name to it, if it identifies the girl it's enough.