Oh Lordy, some advice here please!

soupface

You could also try reporting it to Facebook themselves. Since she is 13 or over, she doesn't fall under the "no children under 13 allowed" rule, but she is still a minor and the content is clearly inappropriate. There should be "Report" links littered around the pages. This misguided girl seems to be after attention above anything else, and the kind she would get if the school got involved would probably be just the ticket ... of course I'm not saying you SHOULDN'T tell the school if trying to get Facebook to take it down doesn't work, but maybe it's a simpler, less dramatic first option.

ETA: Haha too slow. What the above posters said!

flower24

could you possibly ring the police? I read something once, think it was a leaflet for parents about making sure teenagers are safe online, and if any of the boys have egged her on to do it they could actually be done for encouraging her. it's child !!!!!! really isn't it if she's that young.

pavlovs_dog

make sure you tell the school - they need to make sure they are getting the internet safety message across, be that through ICT lessons, PSE or even a special assembly.

as has already been said, you can also report the image to facebook, but I don't know how quick they are to respond to things like this.

depending on how comfortable you feel doing so, it may also be an idea to print the picture and comments so that there is a record of who has said what (in case facebook pulls it before school can investigate). this means you will have hard evidence to show to the school which the school can use to support their response to the incident.

i know you've had issues with the school in the past - hopefully theycan redeem themselves a bit with this situation.

Even if tomorrow is an inset day, it should still be possible to get hold of staff (our inset is offsite for teaching staff but admin staff will be on site).

dieselhead

Contact the school it means you can save your's and your children's blushes and you don't have to speak to anyone directly involved ie her parents.

shellsuit

Just spoken to son, he said the girl sent it to someone in a different school (the posh private school in this area) and that lad sent it to my son and some other lads ~ that was just after they broke up for Christmas). Son said the girl doesn't even know the lad in the private school, so God knows why she sent it to him?!

Son said she's not very popular, and she's probably doing all that stuff for attention.

I explained to him that I'm not asking because I want to be nosey, but because she is being silly and it is soooooo dangerous.

I've told him I'm going to ring school tomorrow and he is fine with that.

Then I spoke to my daughter ~ it gets better! The picture isn't actually on that girls facebook account, it's another girl who has posted it!

I can't report it as she's not a friend of mine, so I've just asked my daughter to report it from her end.

I did ask my daughter to quickly go on the girls page and it's full of comments such as 'slag', 'dirty b!tch' etc....you get the drift.

That girl is in for such a ribbing on Tuesday, silly thing

Thanks for all your advice, and Mandi thanks for that number, I'm in 1 minds whether to ring or not though x

flower24

don't want to alarm you but just read this

"The risk of having one's private pictures distributed among schoolmates or uploaded on to social-networking websites is only one part of it.
It could also lead to a criminal conviction as a sex offender for any teenager who forwards them on to someone else.
Sending or distributing explicit photos of a child under 18 is, in many countries, illegal. It is also illegal to send such photos to a minor - even if both parties consent to it"

those boys who are forwarding the video could get a record

dieselhead

pavlovs_dog wrote: »

i know you've had issues with the school in the past - hopefully theycan redeem themselves a bit with this situation.

Shellsuit may never be privy to the eventual outcome though once she has reported it I suspect she will then be out of the loop so to speak.

Shellsuit I know you are in two minds but please do tell the school about it. You may find that you are not the only vigilant parent and others have spotted it, but they may not and as you have pointed out it is a very silly thing for the girl to do.

CG77

To be honest I think by getting your daughter to 'report' it on facebook, then you reporting it to school tomorrow, you've fulfilled your obligations. If I were you I'd leave it at that for now, but obviously think again if there are any further events after school have been informed.

CG. x

pavlovs_dog

although the girl in question is extremely silly, if it's been posted to facebook by someone else then it's cyberbullying. if you feel comfortable doing so, print off the info or do a screen dump of it.

shellsuit

pavlovs_dog wrote: »

make sure you tell the school - they need to make sure they are getting the internet safety message across, be that through ICT lessons, PSE or even a special assembly.

as has already been said, you can also report the image to facebook, but I don't know how quick they are to respond to things like this.

depending on how comfortable you feel doing so, it may also be an idea to print the picture and comments so that there is a record of who has said what (in case facebook pulls it before school can investigate). this means you will have hard evidence to show to the school which the school can use to support their response to the incident. I wouldn't feel comfortable printing the pic off at all, the comments wouldn't be so bad, but without no pic, there is no proof.

I know you've had issues with the school in the past - hopefully theycan redeem themselves a bit with this situation. Oh so do I!

Even if tomorrow is an inset day, it should still be possible to get hold of staff (our inset is offsite for teaching staff but admin staff will be on site).

I'll ring reception in the morning and just ask for anyone in authority for year 9.

Hopefully parents can be alerted, girl can be warned but it's the video that's bugging me, who else could it have been sent to and who have those people sent it to?

Fingers crossed, everyone who received it has deleted it so it can go no firther.