*DFW lets get rid of the lbs without spending £££'s Weight Loss thread*

spud30

Buffythedebtslayer wrote: »

Yeah Spud, I have a similarr thing with Mum, she barely eats so if I do go on a "diet" and cut down so does she, but then I worry about her not eating enough, hence the monthly thing, I can manage a decent breakfast and lunch, just have to hope for the best at dinner.

perhaps you can do an 80/20 thing? eat well during the week and treat the weekends like normal? What kind of things do you think you eat that are so terrible?
xxx

Ahh hun, we do have similar issues dont we. You eat to keep your mum healthy, I do it to stop my man from having a flippin sulk.

What do we eat? All sorts, most things bad. We had curry last night, and he makes his own onion bhajis. Today wasnt too bad - seafood paella. He just seems to think 'famine' as soon as I suggest we/I lose weight. He'll crave pastry and cakes and biscuits and all things he thinks he wont be having.

We do tend to have a bottle of wine or 2 at the weekend, which is as much my fault as his....and we've both developed a taste for ginger beer which isnt good for the figure, but so nice on a hot afternoon

80/20 sounds fab, but he really needs to lose weight too. I want to reduce our portions, but it's so hard once you get used to eating a certain way. Maybe I should eat less of what he makes at weekend, set a good example and he may follow :cool:

elfen

spud, I think with Oh it is sounding psychological, he's thinking he can't have things at al and his brain goes into "OMG I'm losing the fatness but yummy foods" syndrome. Think he needs to sit down and have you tell him that if he can stick to a diet Mon-Fri he gets a coupla treaty things at weekends - so maybe the onion bhajis, or a nice bottle of wine with a healthy dinner, or a yummy pudding. Is why I have my once weekly (now going to be fortnightly cos of finances) takeaway....but I need need need to stop buying crap and binge eating and puking....roll on the 8th...

Nomnoms for today:
B - nuts and raisins (cinema and had pot in my bag)
L - small bag of Doritos
D - beef grillsteak with sweetcorn and peas.

Knocked out of my eating today by staying round a friend's and going to the cinema with them....But I didn't buy popcorn, and they gave me the choccy to look after....and it needed to be eaten really.

Burlesque_Babe

When I was with my ex he used to say (usually around week 3) that we'd have a takeaway. I would say I'd rather not and he would always say 'there must be something on the menu you can have' (usually Indian) and I'd end up with something that would be at the lower end of the fat/calories but that would be the start of the end.

From reading the Mike Scott stuff, he says it is about choice and not about feeling that you are imprisoned. If you (the generic 'you' rather than aimed at anyone!) feel you are hating being on a diet, can't have this, can't have that then eventually you will rebel and eat everything in sight. However, if you remember that you can have anything you want, when you want, but choose not to, then you are in control and you are choosing to do what you do by your own free will.

Or summat like that....

Burlesque_Babe

spud30 wrote: »

One mention of the 'd' word, and he sulks, nay strops. Some of you might remember a big falling out a few weeks ago, turns out I'd mentioned the 'd' word. He becomes like a bear with a sore arriss even though I never ask him to do the diet, he feels like he should, then strops and I fail after a week or 2 just for an easy life.

sounds like something psychological/touching a raw nerve spud. Does he need to lose weight? Perhaps he is trying to avoid the ultimate 'I need to lose weight and have to stop pretending I don't because I'm fine as I am' thoughts.

spud30 wrote:

Ohh I dont know. Maybe I should just do it anyway, ignore the moods and sulks. It's so difficult though

yes, do it anyway. He'll come round when he sees you aren't missing out on nice food.

beanielou

Good philosopy from that man.
I keep telling myself Im doing it for me & for my mobility.
Its hard though.
BUt neurologist indicated it will help.

Burlesque_Babe

I know that losing weight will help me with my back beanie. When I did SW 5 years ago and lost over 4 stone (I'd need to lose a total of 7 stone now to get back down to that ) I needed virtually no medication. I still had the permanent issues of the numbness and unable to wear heels/drive a manual car, but a lot of the pain stuff went.

Thing is, I've been too ready to stick my head in the sand and pretend the problems I have aren't aggravated by my weight.

But they are. I'll always have issues sadly, but losing a load of weight will really help in so many ways.

beanielou

We CAN do this.

We can encourage each other.

spud30

Burlesque_Babe wrote: »

sounds like something psychological/touching a raw nerve spud. Does he need to lose weight? Perhaps he is trying to avoid the ultimate 'I need to lose weight and have to stop pretending I don't because I'm fine as I am' thoughts.



yes, do it anyway. He'll come round when he sees you aren't missing out on nice food.

BB, he needs to lose lots of weight, maybe 9 stone or so.

I will definitely try. The kids have said they want to lose some as well, so the 3 of us need to stay strong. Tough when he's tempting us with naughtiness, especially for the kids.

spud30

Burlesque_Babe wrote: »

I know that losing weight will help me with my back beanie. When I did SW 5 years ago and lost over 4 stone (I'd need to lose a total of 7 stone now to get back down to that ) I needed virtually no medication. I still had the permanent issues of the numbness and unable to wear heels/drive a manual car, but a lot of the pain stuff went.

Thing is, I've been too ready to stick my head in the sand and pretend the problems I have aren't aggravated by my weight.

But they are. I'll always have issues sadly, but losing a load of weight will really help in so many ways.

Same here. Been suffering from sciatica since I was expecting DS, but it's much worse over the past 6 months, its dreadful today. Everything I've read says losing weight will help

spud30

elfen wrote: »

spud, I think with Oh it is sounding psychological, he's thinking he can't have things at al and his brain goes into "OMG I'm losing the fatness but yummy foods" syndrome. Think he needs to sit down and have you tell him that if he can stick to a diet Mon-Fri he gets a coupla treaty things at weekends - so maybe the onion bhajis, or a nice bottle of wine with a healthy dinner, or a yummy pudding. Is why I have my once weekly (now going to be fortnightly cos of finances) takeaway....but I need need need to stop buying crap and binge eating and puking....roll on the 8th...

Thanks Elfen, I'll give that a try. I've even suggested we just look at smaller portions, instead of changing what we eat. Portions seem to get bigger following our chat, not smaller.

Please dont everyone think I'm just blaming him, I'm not. Of course I could say no to the naughty food/drink and put up with the backlash.

He's a wonderful fella (most of the time ) who likes his food. I guess I've just got to be stronger.