14 month old refuses to sleep for mummy.

RoxieW

dont know the ins and outs as OP has deleted first post - but just to say that 2 of my sons grew out of naps before 18mths. A friend of mine has a similar age child who has 2 naps (approx 2 hours each) per day while she gets on and does stuff or has 'me' time - then she wonders why he doesnt sleep through when she puts him to bed at 6pm.

SkintGypsy

In contrast Roxie, my DD is four and still will have an afternoon nap on a weekend for two or three hours, then will go to bed at 7pm and wake at 7am next morning. I definitely feel it when she doesn't nap! They are all different animals, that's for sure.

mumslave

I think its easy to jump to conclusions when its a thread on a forum, when I initially read OPs DH holds down their child, I took it to be a bit of a clumsy attempt at restraining a tantrum at bedtime, kind of like the technique of restraining your child on your lap when tantruming (not that I have ever done either, never had to).

Actually when reading through this post, I didnt think it screamed 'abuse' at all, but rather a mum whom is stressed and probably feeling quite insecure, I know I did with my first baby when my husband seemed to be so much better at it all than me. The defensiveness reminded me just of myself, with my first.

Op if you are still reading, I wont offer anymore advice, save to say, try your best not to get too stressed, you arent doing anything wrong and yes its very very normal for toddlers to have sleep issues. Try to remember, this will pass along with many more phases that will come and go, I have lost count of the amount of times I have stressed over one of my three not doing this or that, only to find within a few short weeks, that phase has ended and a new one has begun. Best wishes.

dieselhead

I am shocked at this thread, and the self righteous abuse that the OP had received.

We have no idea of her personal circumstances, and all I read into her posts was that she was really stressed and that may have been the source of her defensiveness. To be honest most people would get defensive if they or their partner were accused of abusing their child.

No-one should judge based on information written on an internet forum, normally this section of the forum is sympathetic and helpful - not today it would seem.

Blackpool_Saver

Originally Posted by chickywiggle
difference is hubby doesn't read him a story and is more physical (too much so in my eyes) when DS is 'naughty'. I prefer to use time out then a smack.

he pins him down by the dummy and won't physically let him move after we have done 8 episodes of crying (leaving it longer each time) sorry but I do not agree with this method and refuse to do it.

Blackpool_Saver

he pins baby down with its dummy, she uses time out and a smack for a 14 month old....... no abuse, don't be silly.

LegalBlonde

Blackpool Saver the OP is obviously gone and there is nothing we can do so I don't see the point of repeating what she has said and sarcastically saying no abuse don't be silly. All we can hope is that she (a) saw the good advice regarding her genuine original question (b) comes to her senses some day. Apart from that, there is not much else we can do.

Pink_Princess_1

shellsuit wrote: »

I just don't think (IMO!) physically chastising a baby at that age is right.

What possibly could a 14 month old baby do, that would warrant a smack or holding down where they can't move?

My thoughts exactly - I am quite disturbed by this behaviour towards a baby.

Savvy_Sue

Well, I remember I sometimes used to hold DS1 down in his cot if he really really needed a daytime nap, because if I didn't, he would pull himself to standing, howl until he fell asleep, fall over because he was asleep, wake himself up when he fell over, pull himself up to standing and start howling all over again.

Just enough force to stop him standing up, making gentle shushing noises and telling him it was time for a sleep, it took a while but it did work eventually. I think when it stopped working was when I started taking a day time nap.

Oldernotwiser

Some people seem hell bent on discovering child abuse whether it's there or not!