14 month old refuses to sleep for mummy.

Blackpool_Saver

I only wish I could help, I really do

CG77

difference is hubby doesn't read him a story and is more physical (too much so in my eyes) when DS is 'naughty'. I prefer to use time out then a smack.

he pins him down by the dummy and won't physically let him move after we have done 8 episodes of crying (leaving it longer each time) sorry but I do not agree with this method and refuse to do it.

People are only going off what you say OP. I have to say I also would put a stop to it if (in your own words) my hubby was 'more physical (too much so in my eyes)'.

I'm honestly trying to be helpful here if you're prepared to hear it. I think maybe your little man is simply going through a phase of not particularly wanting to be going to sleep. At that age, they are just beginning to realise that they can have an influence on the world and the way things happen by stating an opinion on it. It's just a natural stage and I'm sure that's what he's doing. Things are simply more interesting when he's not in bed. I have to agree he's prpbably quiet for your OH because he's scared not to be. It sounds (from what you say of course as that's all we can go off) that he probably feels secure enough with you to show his preference (in this case for staying up and having fun as opposed to going to bed), whereas he has learnt with Daddy it's better if he just stays quiet.

I really do hope you get it sorted soon.

CG. x

jamesb1239

I am fully aware of the level of force used - obviously I wrote this badly There is NO CHILD ABUSE involved and I would welcome you to stop making the implications.

Maybe that is being implied as that is how people view it from your descriptions, and you just refuse to accept it.

I am FULLY AWARE he is a baby so is DH and IF i in ANY WAY thouught he was harming our son he would be kicked out ASAP.

Ah right maybe I have it all wrong and forcing a dummy into a childs mouth, potentially injuring them and blocking their airways is NORMAL, damn maybe I have been raising my son wrong.

I am FUMING that people on this forum could throw accusation around like that.

We can only go on the info that you provide, but done with or without force it is still WRONG. When do you step up and take your responsibility for your child seriously? How far does your OH have to go?

CG77

OK I think we've said enough now for the OP to have had to have a good think about things. Everyone is defensive where their child is concerned and at the end of the day she posted to get help to send her little one to sleep, which is obviously the act of a caring Mummy.

Maybe we should just leave it for now and hope the OP gets it sorted for her little family soon.

All the best from me hon.

CG. x

Penny35_2

op has deleted all her posts now so maybe we wont here from her again.

I just hope this baby is ok.

Blackpool_Saver

Penny35 wrote: »

op has deleted all her posts now so maybe we wont here from her again.

I just hope this baby is ok.

yes, so do I. In my experience her behaviour shows classic signs of an abusive situation. The denial and refusal to discuss anything is really worrying.

jamesb1239

Me too, you hear too many horror stories lately, the OP just needed to realise that we were trying to help, but some just will not accept that.

Money_maker

CG77 wrote: »

OK I think we've said enough now for the OP to have had to have a good think about things. Everyone is defensive where their child is concerned and at the end of the day she posted to get help to send her little one to sleep, which is obviously the act of a caring Mummy.

Maybe we should just leave it for now and hope the OP gets it sorted for her little family soon.

All the best from me hon.

CG. x

Seconded, any further unsubstantiated posts will deter other mums with baby questions from posting.

shellsuit

Of course we were only trying to help ~ we didn't know what the OP was willing to do or not do, until we put the ideas across!

I just don't think (IMO!) physically chastising a baby at that age is right.

What possibly could a 14 month old baby do, that would warrant a smack or holding down where they can't move?

I do think that the best thing for a baby or child is routine.

If baby is with A one day and is eating X and playing Y, yet the next day they are with B and eating Y and playing X, then they are going to get confused and all out of sync and will more than often play up.

That doesn't mean that they HAVE to do the exact same thing at the exact same time day in day out, but it does help as they get older, to set clear routines and boundaries for them.

I hope the OP gets the help that's needed and which is the best for baby.

elektra-2007

chickywiggle...i noticed you live in sheffield, is there any sure start centres near you??? I was lucky enough to live near one when my lad was small they were invaluable with courses on things like sleeping and creches ect. Have a look on their website and see.